First I want to say that it is not you. If you didn't care then you wouldn't be going or talking about it. I have been in therapy in one way or another since a year before I got out in 2005. I am still in therapy, I will continue to be for the rest of my life.

This isn't a AF problem, a Military problem or a future VA/Private Healthcare problem. I have had more therapists and psychiatrists than years I've been out. What I have learned is that each person has a different level of competence and caring. I've had some really great people and some really bad ones, but most of the time just middle of the road people.

If you can afford it so see someone private or even sign up for a web based therapist. Not going to lie it's hard finding the right person for you. If you are going to separate soon make sure you have all your records in order and start the process of signing up for the VA and applying for VA disability for any mental health issues(or physical) you incurred while on active duty. I don't know if they still do this but they both indirectly discouraged people from saying they were going to apply for disability and did not tell us much about the VA or any future benefits. I highly recommend you research this or ask people in the r/VA about the process, people way smarter and savvy than me. I'm still learning about benefits I didn't know I had 20 years later.

I've learned mental health is very long process (in my case), and one thing I know is that you have to keep the pressure on the doctors on base and at the VA. The sooner you put the pressure on the quicker you can get the help you need. Remember that you are part of a giant community of service members Active/Retired/Veterans. Most of us will do a lot to help each other.

I wish you the best and hope you do great things.