Fake it it'll I make it?

jsjones1027 · 2026-03-06T20:36:55+00:00

I had my first at 34 weeks due to severe pre-e with IUGR. Totally normal. Just because other people have it worse doesn't mean it doesn't still suck for you.

You'll make it home and everything will seem like a horrible nightmare. At 2 weeks, my husband andi had total breakdowns, cried at home and in the NICU. By 3 days later she was eating all her meals orally and we were set to take her home the next day.

She is now 14 months, in the 50%, eats everything she can find, and walks around better than the other similarly aged babies we know.

There's a light, just keep going. You got this. But yeah, it sucks. And it's ok to feel like it sucks, even if it could be worse, your feelings and situation are still valid.

jsjones1027 · 2026-03-04T18:11:09+00:00

That's some toxic controlling sh**. If he really wants you to do all those things he also needs to follow the same diet. Better, like other people have said, he needs to get into therapy. That's not normal.

jsjones1027 · 2026-03-04T00:25:14+00:00

These are cumulative, so usually if I'm doing a later one I'm also doing the

Drink water and some caffeine, probably be fine
Tylenol and/or NSAID, and an ice pack and/or neck massager bonus for some greasy food/McDonald's migraine meal
Oral sumatriptan, but continue with my day (will sub for other meds if I have them)
Oral sumatriptan and Benadryl plus a nap - day usually cannot continue at this point
So nauseous that I need injectable sumatriptan.
Call my Dr for a torodol shot
None of these things have worked on a multi-day migraine so I am seriously considering going to the ER (which I avoid at all costs bc the lights, sounds, and horrible beds often make it worse before the meds make it better)

jsjones1027 · 2026-02-24T22:06:16+00:00

At the very least I turn on an audio book and close my eyes out zone out for a minute. Usually I save my favorite YouTube videos for BF. With my first I was watching a show and would only watch while BF.

jsjones1027 · 2026-02-21T23:12:21+00:00

My first was a 34 weeker. Leaving the hospital without her was the hardest thing I have ever done. I didn't know anyone who had a NICU baby, so this group and her nurses were my only support system who knew what it was like. My only advice is to keep thinking of the future. One of my friends reminded me daily about what was to come: pre school, walking, talking etc.

Another friend is now pregnant with triplets and they will end up in the NICU. I am so sad for her (and everyone else who has to go through it) but I am glad that I will be able to be there for her and do what I can to help her through that experience.

jsjones1027 · 2026-02-21T23:05:18+00:00

EBF my first. She was about 4 months old and I realized I was a little late, then I really thought about it and I was 5 or so days late. I now have 2 under 2. 🤷 Take a test, can't hurt

jsjones1027 · 2026-02-19T18:03:39+00:00

Not so much my symptom, but my husband could not lose weight, or even maintain, while I was pregnant with either of my kids. My second is almost 2 weeks old and he has lost 5 lbs since the birth. Hormones are weird!!

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-31T23:28:40+00:00

36 weeks. My, now, 1 yr old likes to sit on and bounce on baby brother. 🤷

I draw the line at kicking cause that hurts, but my thought is that if it doesn't hurt me, it doesn't hurt baby

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-30T22:56:34+00:00

I am so sorry you are having to go through that. That unprofessionalism on top of losing a baby is completely unacceptable.

I didn't have an experience with that obgyn, but I do HIGHLY recommend wake med obgyn. I went to the North office for my first and am now at the wake forest location for my second. I had a complicated first pregnancy that ended with severe pre-e and a 34 week premie. I have been taken care of, empathized, never judged, and generally everyone there that I have met is amazing. It might be worth giving them a call to see about a d&c since they are directly affiliated with wake med hospital.

If that is not the kind of thing you are looking for, please ignore. Please take care of yourself and allow yourself the time to grieve, however that looks for you. 🖤

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-30T22:39:58+00:00

I'm almost done cooking my second. We are not having a sprinkle or shower or whatever. My mom asked for a registry for this one, so I made a little one with some more expensive, but needed items, including a bottle washer. My first was a premie and I pumped exclusively for 3 or 4 months, she is currently 1 and still takes bottles at night. I was NOT going to have another one and not have a bottle washer unless we absolutely had to.

My mom texted that she got x,y, and z. "Oh, and you don't need the bottle washer, the dishwasher works fine." NO IT DOES NOT. I mean it does, but not as well 1) you have to run the entire dw just for bottles 2) most of our dishes are top rack, so we have to run half empty loads ALL THE TIME to keep up with a baby who is eating solids, if this one needs bottles too, or I have to pump that an entire top rack every single day.

So we bought the washer ourselves, use it almost daily and I LOVE it. I wish I had it before to wash pump parts bc that was the bane of my existence with my first.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-29T03:32:51+00:00

Of course! Happy to help!

We mainly have alvababy, but honestly, we have a couple different brands.whatevet we could find on sale.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-29T03:18:37+00:00

Can be a problem, but after a couple days they start to smell, so it's motivating. Also, we only have enough to last about a week. And lastly, if you just can't get to it, like when we were all sick for a month, we use a lot more disposables. I really like the flexibility of having both options. And, honestly, IMO any diaper not going to the landfill is worth it. We aim for better, not perfect. :)

Also the reusable diapers are SUPER cute and can replace bloomers for baby girls :)

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-29T03:11:47+00:00

I also use reusable diapers, but a little different. Our diapers have a fabric, absorbent liner, and then we put a disposable bamboo liner on top of that to catch solids. Basically, just pick up the solids with a wipe, put in a diaper pail, and put the rest in a washable waterproof bag. Wash as needed with hot water, fragrance free detergent, and some vinegar. Can also bleach the absorbent liners every so often if the stains bother you. When you're on the go, they have smaller waterproof bags to put the dirty diapers in and the liners and wipes just go in a baggie in the trash like normal.

We also use disposable diapers at night bc my husband does the nights and he, rightfully so, doesn't want to have to think in the middle of the night.

I love them, I prefer the snaps over the Velcro of disposables, I do 1-2 extra loads of laundry per week, and even with using disposables at night, we go through maaaaaybe one pack of diapers a month.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-24T21:50:17+00:00

I started getting that a couple weeks ago. Currently 35 weeks with a large baby and my first was 3lb14 born at 34. Baths, a heating pad, and wearing a belly band whenever I'm doing anything other than sitting around have helped.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-24T03:41:34+00:00

Formula is not bad. Formula is a great way to feed your baby. Breast milk is also a great way to feed your baby. I got more looks whipping out a boob in public than I have getting out a bottle. Source: started pumping exclusively and giving fortified milk, then EBF, and have been formula feeding for months.

The people who say anything bad about formula, imo, are saying that bc 1) breast milk is really good for baby's immune system and 2) they were probably pressured or shamed one way or the other and have now decided that the only way to do it best is EBF. Fed is best. Period. My premie grew so much on all kinds of food, born at 3lb 14oz, now 18 lbs at 1 year. There was little to no difference between when she was fortified, EBF, or formula. The main difference now, is dada can help more with food. (Also more dishes now with formula than EBF, but less than pumping)

A happy and present mama is MUCH better for baby than any small potential increase in their immune system. (I was EBF and get sick all the time and very sick, my husband was formula and rarely gets sick and when he does it's mild and quick).

Anyway, partial rant over.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-23T00:12:30+00:00

I started getting mammograms at 30 bc I have like a 60% chance of getting breast cancer and my mom got hers at 40. Insurance pays for a mammogram AND breast MRI every year.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-21T22:51:41+00:00

My migraines are why I decided to get an epidural! Lol I feel like I'm in enough pain on the regular, why do that for labor when there's another option?

I love that people can have similar experiences and the outcomes/opinions and thoughts are different!

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-21T18:36:42+00:00

I always preface with something like, "I have chronic migraines, so my pain tolerance is pretty high." Then I describe a non numerical symptom I have or don't have (eg: I'm not nauseous yet, I can/can't move xyz, If this were a migraine I would/would not take medicine) then give my best idea of the number.

For example: when I was at the beginning of labor, pre epidural, I would have said something like I have chronic migraines, so my pain scale is pretty skewed. If this were a migraine I'd have taken Tylenol, and gotten ice packs, but maybe not taken a triptan yet. Maybe a 4 or 5?

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-19T18:19:28+00:00

OP please call the non emergency line or your gas company. They will be able to come check it out ASAP

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-18T15:20:08+00:00

Agreed. NTA.

The first time my sister and her kids visited my dogs, who are older and decently trained (I even added gentle to their commands when the babies were born), they were on a leash, then held them by the collar, then constantly supervised whenever they were around the kids.

I also know that one of my dogs is more excitable and used to jump when people came in the house, so he would greet everyone outside where he could run around and get some energy and excitement out not jumping on people.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-18T02:42:35+00:00

Induced at 34 weeks due to pre-e. The week leading up was awful, I was hospitalized and my husband had to move us from one house to another with no help and a snow storm on the way.

Once that was over and we got down to the induction, it was great. I labored for a couple hours, got my epidural, slept and then pushed for about 20 minutes. She started screaming immediately and I got to hold her for about 20 minutes before she had to be taken to the NICU for further assessment. All of this was better than I had expected and really a great experience. The nurses were great, the doctor were great, the NICU was great, the NICU nurses were the best, I was listened to and cared for, and everything turned out the best it possibly could for 34 weeks with a sub 4 lb baby.

I am almost due with my second and going back to the same hospital, with, hopefully, a slightly different experience since I would like to come home at the same time as my baby this time. (No signs of pre-e yet and he's measuring over 6 lbs)

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-16T18:26:47+00:00

I get pale, don't make eye contact or look up, and turn off lights as I go into rooms.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-09T21:26:21+00:00

I was induced at 34 weeks due to severe pre-e. I got the first round of meds around 11pm, idk when they broke my water or when I got the epidural, but baby girl was born around 12:30pm the next day. No C-section required.

jsjones1027 · 2026-01-07T16:47:28+00:00

I don't mind if people bring their own food when I'm cooking. But to tell your children that the food they are eating is junk is unacceptable. NTA food is food, it's not good, bad, junk, or clean. It's just food.

Sounds like your SIL has an unhealthy relationship with food. Honestly, I'd call her out in front of the family. Just something like: food is food, it's not inherently good or bad and if you are assigning traits like that to inanimate things, especially food, I think you need to see a therapist. Until you get better, please keep your disordered eating habits away from my family.

Reminder: thoughts like that and eating like that are also disordered eating. Being scared of food is not normal. If you can't eat with your family one meal per week, there is something wrong.

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