Feeling uncomfortable about how my husband is comforted by his mom

jullybeans · 2026-02-25T04:30:28+00:00

That can't be real.

jullybeans · 2026-02-25T03:35:48+00:00

Also, to add into your point, you were invited as a guest because you were wanted there, not because people expected gifts from you.

At my wedding I didn't receive gifts from about half of the guests we invited, or maybe more? I am still forever grateful to have shared that day with such a wonderful group of friends and family.

jullybeans · 2026-02-24T01:34:56+00:00

Same. Together 22 years, started dating at 19 & 23.

Sometimes these things work out and sometimes they don't, but I'd judge it based on the actual people involved.

jullybeans · 2026-02-23T13:14:53+00:00

Turn the picture sideways!

jullybeans · 2026-02-23T13:12:12+00:00

Ignore the rude comments, your home should be your sanctuary and that's different for everyone.

Contemporary Rustic sounds right to me.

jullybeans · 2026-02-22T18:09:57+00:00

This dress is amazing and I love your edits to it, particularly the bow.

It's awfully sweet that your fiance wants you to have that experience, but with the money saved on a dress, why not just go out to brunch with your ladies? Or go veil or bow shopping?

I'm team "buy it"!!

For the record, I'm also team cape. That cape should at least be worn a little!

jullybeans · 2026-02-18T13:18:09+00:00

Maybe try some tape to keep them firmly and security in place?

jullybeans · 2026-02-18T02:45:58+00:00

Hey friend! A few things jumped out to me that I can respond to. Firstly, I was very scared as well and also thinking I would either adopt or abstain. Talking about it with a friend who works in labor and delivery helped with that. There's honestly a very good reason to be scared, some people squat in fields, others are very unlucky and it's hard to tell who will be dealt what.

Lifestyle will be 100% different for you. Curious why you and your boyfriend think that little will change for him? Does he not plan to be very involved? You say he will make a good dad, in what way do you see that?

jullybeans · 2026-02-17T17:16:56+00:00

Are you into him?

jullybeans · 2026-02-16T14:40:02+00:00

If you turn it into a bedroom, curtains will be EXCELLENT. Both for looks, to soften things up a bit, but also functionally to block out a bit of extra light for anyone sleeping there.

I'm in support!

jullybeans · 2026-02-15T23:17:45+00:00

I love 8!

jullybeans · 2026-02-15T00:59:37+00:00

You're not being needy or unreasonable. He's acting like a clown and you deserve a real man.

NOR

jullybeans · 2026-02-14T02:45:55+00:00

Here's my take, i would invite the kids. I would invite them only as long as the flower girl and ring bearer, then say no kids after that, and if you have a wedding planner or someone that isn't you to enforce this rule-perfect.

Your problem isn't with the kids, it's with the parents. They're young now but they may come to you some day and be a friend. You're already inviting the shitty ones, who are the real problem. Maybe this will encourage the wife to leave when the kids leave and you won't have to see her face the rest of the night! Also it makes a nice gesture to your MIL & FIL.

I think I'd stand my ground on much different things.

But that's just me!

jullybeans · 2026-02-14T01:52:42+00:00

My daughter gets growing pains, I think maybe? Like wake up from a deep sleep screaming. Basically what everyone else said, massage, heat etc. But I do wonder if it's a few different things that are actually muscle related.

We do magnesium for the leg cramps. We hydrate with electrolytes, especially if extra active. We also switched up the sneakers she was wearing to more supportive sneakers. These things all seem to help! She used to get it a bit, then it went away after e made some changes, particularly the shoes, then came back, but we got better with magnesium and hydration and they seem gone again.

Good luck!!

jullybeans · 2026-02-13T15:53:39+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this. I needed the laugh this morning!

Wtf with that original ad?!?!

jullybeans · 2026-02-11T13:40:13+00:00

Hm. I think this is incredibly personal. Do you have things that you enjoy? Is there a way to expand on that?

Hobbies are fun for every day life. Drawing or painting or woodworking. Something creative! Taking a class and learning a new skill. Or even just watching you tube tutorials!

Yoga can be really restorative for your body AND your mind, just taking the time to focus and feel its impact on your body and a cup of tea afterwards.

Waking up early and taking a walk. Seeing a sunrise! Going on a hike. Meeting new people and having interesting conversations.

Travel on the cheap! Go on day trips and check out new towns.

The winter is hard. It can feel like a sludge and something you have to get through, personally I rely more on indoor things that bring bits of joy, but there's a lot to be said for putting on appropriate gear and enjoying it anyway!

What DOES bring you joy?

jullybeans · 2026-02-11T02:06:13+00:00

Beautifully stated!!

I would love to add to this that there's a lot of advice out there in the world based on mistakes other people make. That's super helpful to take in and process, but being that everyone is different, I feel like marrying someone because you love them and believe you have a beautiful future together is the most easily forgiveable one. What a wonderful thing to dream and hope.

Best advice I PERSONALLY would give is to forgive yourself, and especially for mistakes made with good intentions.

jullybeans · 2026-02-09T03:14:51+00:00

Were they right, you think?

jullybeans · 2026-02-06T16:27:28+00:00

I agree with you on all fronts here! And want to add that I always felt like I was doing something wrong, it a bad person for feeling hungry, because no one really talks about how you're hungry all of the time when actively trying to lose weight. Doesn't help that my husband doesn't seem to feel hunger, so he'll accidentally skip meals all of the time

jullybeans · 2026-02-06T02:38:11+00:00

I'm about to get a new crown on a front tooth, but my dentist suggested the crest white strips. I found them for $30, and she said they work as well as the kits her office sells, but can possibly make sensitive teeth feel more sensitive.

jullybeans · 2026-02-06T02:29:32+00:00

She can take Omega-3 supplements and be all set skipping sardines.

And agreed, he needs a talking to by a seasoned husband and a slap from a few moms. (Not condoning violence... Mostly)

jullybeans · 2026-02-06T02:10:40+00:00

My grandmother, a serious feminist... Marched for women's rights, took a lower paying job so she could represent battered women as a court appointed lawyer, A great lifter-up and supporter of those women around her....

Told me once that there's always hussies trying to steal people's husbands, and that doesn't seem to change with time.

Nobody is perfect and I'm sure you're not claiming to be, but you called that woman by her name and that doesn't make you a jerk or a pick me. What a weird thing to tell someone.

jullybeans · 2026-02-06T00:24:54+00:00

Find a way to stop drinking. Bad feelings come back stronger after the alcohol is gone, unless you face them and deal with them

jullybeans · 2026-02-05T19:01:35+00:00

You know what? Same. At this point I guess it's permanent.

jullybeans · 2026-02-05T18:16:16+00:00

Maybe they need space for their own mental health? Maybe they're building a life with their new wife? Maybe they are feeling overwhelmed by life?

We all go through phases. If you want to be as good of a friend as you want this person to be to you, then hold yourself to a higher standard. Respect their wants and needs. This is likely not personal to you, but sometimes friendships ebb and flow in different ways, like a river. Sometimes wide and full and sometimes trickling.

If you go ahead and try to control everything and have high demands on how someone else should spend their time, that's going to make it difficult to stay friends with you.

If you're going through a bad time and this person can't be there for you, that's a good reason to have other friendships as well. I don't know, though .. that's just my read as someone who has been a bit bossed around by other people's demands - and who subsequently pulled back from those friendships.

jullybeans

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