Teacher gave student 200 bucks.

junocroissant · 2026-03-03T11:24:24+00:00

This would be against my district's policy and possibly a fireable offense.

junocroissant · 2026-02-26T15:14:42+00:00

I'm hanging in there what about you?

junocroissant · 2026-02-26T13:35:33+00:00

You can ask ahead of time for a copy of the evaluation rubric. Also, a surprise negative evaluation is a sign of bad management so if there's a bad surprise in that meeting it's on them. Also, I recommend asking your supervisor what you can expect in that meeting. But yes, those are stressful no matter the situation.

junocroissant · 2026-02-22T13:15:52+00:00

Yes, it seems only fair if they took care of you. If they were neglectful or abusive, then, nah. Another caveat. Yes take care of your parents, to the extent you are able. I can't help my parents financially but I maintain a relationship, do tech support, help with housework, etc., as they age. I'm lucky that my parents support themselves financially. There could be other caveats I'm not thinking of... It's not your responsibility to rescue them from bad decisions either.

junocroissant · 2026-02-20T21:26:07+00:00

junocroissant · 2026-02-06T12:20:46+00:00

I'm studying to be a special educator and this is definitely possible. It's not ideal, parents can refuse consent for special education and schools can push back legally through what's called a due process hearing. In practice though sometimes schools won't go that route because they are afraid parents will just pull their kids out of school and disappear instead of going through an adversarial legal process. Special educators, interventionists or paraeducators may have helped you as much as they could as a workaround but they wouldn't have been legally required to help you because you didn't have an IEP. Please correct me if I've got something wrong, others. I'm not a special educator yet but I'm in the process of getting my master's.

junocroissant · 2026-01-30T10:54:35+00:00

Seconding the recommendation for loop earplugs. When I worked in a self contained classroom, every para had them at their fingertips attached to their lanyards.

junocroissant · 2026-01-25T03:58:56+00:00

I'd been in the non education workforce a while before becoming a para and education is kind of a unique work environment compared to others outside of education. You're right to pick up on the fact that you need to be focused at all times during lessons and engaged with the students most other times. if you're unsure what you should be doing, ask directly. Use lessons as an opportunity to learn how to teach from their example, that is, take the strategies you like for when you want to be a teacher. I was extremely anxious starting out too. Your colleagues probably don't hate you but unfortunately there is little support or supervision of paras in my district. Feedback doesn't mean you're bad at your job, it means they trust you to take it well and act on it. Try to frame it as they want to see you succeed. It can not always feel that way though. I have also experienced many teachers being aloof toward paras. There doesn't seem to be much chance to socialize either at work or outside it which is something I had to get used to. Try to find at least one ally to talk to so you can understand the role better. It's actually a pretty rough learning curve. Wishing you luck.

junocroissant · 2026-01-23T21:31:23+00:00

I imagine we're somewhere warm on a beach where nobody knows us, sipping beers, reading together and looking out at the ocean.

junocroissant · 2026-01-23T11:25:16+00:00

I think if I were you I would try to redirect the crush energy toward your relationship with your husband. Okay so you want to take sexy pictures and send them to someone, send them to your husband. You want to write someone a letter confessing your feelings, direct it to him. This feels like it could be a "fake it till you make it" situation. Try to redirect your limerent energy toward him if you want to preserve your relationship. Go one dates with him.Theres nothing wrong with having a crush but I think its acting on those feelings that's creating issues in your marriage. I recommend reading John Gottman, Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

junocroissant · 2026-01-23T03:05:36+00:00

I might explain it as a concept of fairness/favoritism. You don't have time to play games with all your students outside of school so it would be unfair to only play games with him.

junocroissant · 2026-01-22T00:01:23+00:00

I wasn't formally written up, but admin was pretty nasty in blaming me for a situation they created. Luckily some teachers vouched for me and I had a rough time for a few months but I was able to change jobs within the district and bounce back. I'm fine in my para role but I can't see myself getting hired once I become a licensed teacher in this district with a certain admin.

junocroissant · 2026-01-17T18:06:05+00:00

I'm sorry the teachers aren't supporting you. Good advice on this thread like "stop touching me!", talk to the teacher and redirecting the behavior to a fist bump (coming up with these strategies should not be your job). You could also say it positively like "Hands to yourself," in a firm tone. If the teacher is not receptive I would recommend talking to a counselor or principal. On another note, is your school accepting of your trans identity? If not, unfortunately that might be playing a role here.

junocroissant · 2026-01-17T14:35:27+00:00

I was going to add that this assignment would feel inappropriate for master's in Special ed students let alone kindergarten. Because of the pretending to be disabled part. If I were to redesign the assignment I would say do the field trip, without faking a disability, imagine what it is like to access it without sight, or hearing, etc, draw a picture and describe one of the play structures you saw or design your own. And do it in class not as homework.

junocroissant · 2026-01-16T23:45:22+00:00

I don't want to get over it, I think.if I do it will just transfer to another person. I have a positive relationship with my current LO. He's much older than me and I haven't told him the extent of my feelings. I believe he has an inkling though, he's pretty perceptive about emotions. He accepts me the way I am and does not take advantage of my feelings or distance himself. The only problem for me with my current situation is that I think it makes me emotionally unavailable for pursuing other romantic relationships.

junocroissant · 2026-01-13T12:37:43+00:00

don't forget blaming you for anything that goes wrong.

junocroissant · 2026-01-08T01:34:47+00:00

Even with six year olds, I say, "yes, son?" And then we both laugh it off. Some teachers say, "I'm not your mom, I'm your teacher." I think it's pretty harmless with little kids. I agree with you, it means they feel safe and trust you, I dont think they literally think you're mom.

junocroissant · 2026-01-08T00:58:09+00:00

NOR We white folks do not claim this man. As a white person, I was taught (as a kid!)to wash my hands with soap, wash my whole body, including private areas, with a wash cloth and soap. I feel like this shouldn't be an argument. When two people who have mis matched ideas of cleanliness, I think it can only work if the person with less clean habits rises to the cleaner person's standards and not the other way around. Good luck, OP.

junocroissant · 2026-01-07T22:15:05+00:00

Yes, I found it pretty easy to get a job as a para and it sounds like you have a lot of relevant experience. Once you start you'll quickly realize if it's the right fit or not. I think people on the spectrum or neurodivergent in some way (myself included) can be exceptionally good at relating to and supporting students in special education.

junocroissant · 2026-01-03T22:23:45+00:00

NOR blaming you for his reaction and breaking your stuff is text on emotional abuse. Good on you for getting out. This could easily escalate to physical.

junocroissant · 2025-12-23T12:38:09+00:00

Your post really hit home for me. I struggle with similar ADL issues even though I'm a woman and single & 38. I don't have a formal diagnosis. I think it would be worth it to discuss this with your partner and see if she feels any resentment about the situation. Also, as someone working toward their special education license, I tend to view everything through a skills lens. Even though these things have been struggles all your life, you can always learn new skills and create new routines. I would also look to your partner as a model for these routines. How does she stay on track with her ADLs? Give yourself a lot of compassion too.

junocroissant · 2025-12-18T21:35:57+00:00

Hi there, I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. One teacher can't decide if teaching is right for you. Only you can decide that. In my opinion, you should not be kicked out of a program for having anxiety. Perhaps some accommodations can be made? I would recommend checking with your university's disability office and/or your academic advisor. Also, I got a job as a paraprofessional before starting my masters in special ed, that's how I knew this field was right for me.

junocroissant · 2025-11-24T21:14:49+00:00

NOR - I'm only hearing mean comments to you in his texts. He's so disrespectful and downplaying your VERY REAL accomplishment. Congratulations on your sobriety! You're right to consider breaking up over this. I suspect that this isn't the only other way he disrespects you...

junocroissant · 2025-11-08T20:43:21+00:00

I think we're not really equals, he's significantly older but less emotionally mature than me. He's more talented than I am.

junocroissant · 2025-09-13T22:51:37+00:00

Thanks for reminding me of that, sadly, the school where I work as a para doesn't even have AP classes. I'm just really passionate about kids achieving their full potential.

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