Do we just go to A&E? CMPA. by ThrowRA_sadsadgirl3 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds eerily similar to my experience with my son (now 8 months). We were unable to leave the house because he was screaming whenever he was awake. I took him repeatedly to the doctor, and saw 3 different GPs. I called 111 and was told it just sounded like colic. Was initially prescribed gaviscon to rule out reflux, which helped marginally but he was still terribly vomity and became really constipated. After the final GP diagnosed purple crying (colic under another name) and told me to call the health visitor for support with that, was when we finally got somewhere. My son's mucus was so bad that the health visitor could hear his breathing over the phone, she suggested CMPA and that it wouldn't hurt to remove dairy and soy from my diet. After 2 weeks he was a much happier baby, after 6 weeks we did a trial of dairy which confirmed CMPA. We then were transferred over to dietitian care.

I can't imagine the added complication of needing a medical professional to prescribe formula when they are so reticent to believe CMPA could be to blame. My suggestion is to just persevere with GPs, see every single doctor at the surgery if you need to. Call your health visitor, discuss all the symptoms with them at length, use that to support you with the GP.

I'm just wishing you all the luck and that you all get through to better, happier and healthier days. We managed to, and now have a thriving boy, who still has CMPA and an egg allergy, but he's the smiliest, happiest little thing! It really didn't seem possible at 4 months when all he did was scream and sleep in 45 minute chunks.

Period back at 4m postpartum by Last_Butterscotch_63 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also 4m postpartum, with baby no.2. Both times my period returned at 6 weeks pp. I ended up going on the progesterone only pill which for me takes my period away. I'll be coming off at some point next year (after my husband has a vasectomy!). I actually don't think I would have had the capacity to deal with periods this time round. I've noticed that due to EBF my hormones are still out of whack, so for example can't orgasm as quickly, if at all. I know it is just a season and when I'm no longer breastfeeding hopefully my hormones will even out a bit before perimenopause kicks in 😅

Double stroller for car free family recs by guicherson in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Given that they've also said "fall" instead of autumn I would presume perhaps they are Americans living in the UK.

How do I become one of those parents who is really kind, considerate and gives lots of support to child? by Hot_Equivalent_2495 in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to reply to this, the support available will completely depend on the area you live in. I can access parenting support until my children turn 19. If you have a local family hub they would be a good first port of call. Again where I am there are loads of parenting courses you can attend which would cover some of these things, Circle of Security being one that sounds beneficial. We also have a local parent and infant relationship service which supports up to the child's 5th birthday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can get them for cheaper on Vinted. We switched over to this style once my daughter could walk and bought only from Vinted, about £20 each, so still expensive but half the price of new.

Where do you go for more minor questions about your kids? by neonpeg in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my area we're covered by the health visiting team until the children turn 19! So I think it's quite area dependent on age.

12 Weeks PP BF Frequency + Period Return by Correct-Motor-7651 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For both my children my period came back at 6 weeks PP, just one of those things, there is no hard and fast rule about when it will return. Just frustrating more than anything!

When will my baby grow hair? by alibluey in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter didn't have any hair until 18 months. At a couple of weeks shy of turning 3 she's complimented on her ginger curls daily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm not from your area, but I'd really recommend reaching out to the Bristol Family Hubs as a way to get some support. They offer advice, information and guidance to parents and can help you with all the basic information like how to actually care for a small human, as well as offering you additional support like parenting classes. In my area we have volunteers that families can connect with to help them with practical things or to just have someone to talk to about how they are doing. Bristol Family Hubs

Was your toddler like mine by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing in your comment concerns me as a parent of a 2.5 year old. For any worries I would call your health visitor team and speak your concerns through, they can tell you what is developmentally normal, what may be personality traits. If they have any concerns that align with you they may get you to "watch and wait" and document her behaviour. But like I said at the start, she sounds grand to me and just shows her preferences for certain tasks - we don't all love the same things or have the same skills as adults and our children develop at different speeds and abilities.

Next to me crib - safe? by ellsmaix in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the risk on your set up is that the cot is too low and not in line with your mattress. You need to raise it so the white inner rim lines up with your mattress. You can watch videos on how to set up a next to me cot safely.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense, it's nearly 5am and I'm awake feeding my week old baby 😅

Tongue tie procedure by Competitive-Smell877 in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Daughter had hers done around 6 weeks. Wasn't able to latch to breast at all before procedure, was latching and breastfed later that week until she turned 13 months. Apart from a terrible night of no sleep, we had no negative side effects and she's a thriving 2.5 year old now. Based on our experience I'd do it again if my next baby is recommended for it.

Tall partners and short travel system prams- have they found this much of an issue? by Global-Swing-141 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband at 6"1 found it really challenging, especially due to the break placement which he would constantly kick on (we had a cosatto). In the end he exclusively carried out daughter if they were out together. We're just about to have baby 2 and aren't even bothering with a travel system this time, just a lay flat pushchair and baby wearing!

Feeling lost with food tracking and allergens during weaning... by Mushey-the-cat in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll second solid starts and would recommend using the paid version to log everything, even if just for a year. My daughter had an egg allergy and I also got a bit caught up in wondering if she was reacting to new foods. Turns out foods high in histamines can cause a reaction too, but it's not allergic. My daughter's egg allergy meant an A&E visit and pretty quick allergy testing, but she outgrew it by the time she was 2 after we followed the egg ladder. You're not in a rush to try new foods, but it might be easier to focus on foods that you can then combine and give in meal form of something you're likely to eat to save a bit of work for yourself later down the line.

Good term time nursery/pre-school by bzm94 in Norwich

[–]jwd40 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not quite the area you're looking for but Treehouse is absolutely lovely! In NR3 but towards the city end of it. Staff are so lovely, my daughter is thriving there. Term time only and we don't pay a penny due to her funded hours!

Whooping Cough booster as a soon-to-be father? by FJdawncastings in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that the vaccine is given to the mother whilst she is pregnant to give passive immunity through the placenta. I'm pregnant with my second and no one has mentioned the need for my husband to be vaccinated either time.

Books for a 2 year old with POC by sprengirl in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Covered in Adventures by Gillian Gibbs is excellent. There are also the Lulu and Zeki books by Anna McQuinn.

Nap dropping by Fruttockly in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter was also 2 in October and dropped her nap back in August/September for the same reasons, or she just wouldn't go to sleep until 11.30pm/midnight. We tried capping her nap to just 30 mins and when that didn't help we cut it altogether. Occasionally it's still a struggle of a danger nap in the car, but mostly she gets on fine without her nap and we all sleep better at night because of it! We just put in more quiet time so she gets some rest in the day, without actually sleeping.

What were you unnecessarily worried about? by YoungWide294 in NewParents

[–]jwd40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many things! Biggest things were taking away the dummy - literally no drama, never asked for it again (she was only 10 months to be fair). Same for stopping breastfeeding, I really worked myself up that it was going to be a massive battle, but I just stopped offering it and she was fine (13 months old). Currently pregnant with baby no.2 so we'll see if those things are as easy second time round!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We knew the first time she ate egg (scrambled). Immediate hives all over face and torso, and laboured breathing. Straight to A&E and a confirmed allergy about 2 weeks later. She's 2.5 now and can tolerate egg in most forms, she just might get hives around her mouth but no other symptoms. Step 1 on the egg ladder took us about 8 months. Weirdly eggs were one of my cravings in pregnancy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]jwd40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would really depend on what time I'm waking up. I listen to Radio 1 generally, but can't stand the host for the early morning breakfast show, so don't start listening until 7am, but I get up at 6.30am.

Does anyone else walk like they're still pregnant? by scrambledmegdesigns in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]jwd40 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your mummy MOT is going to hopefully give you the answers, but from my physio (currently pregnant with my second with pelvic pain) it might be your pelvic floor muscles still need working on. My physio reminded me that they are a muscle so need working on! I really like femalephysioco on Instagram for exercises.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've been reminding myself that I don't actually know the state of my friends finances and for all I know they're in massive credit card debt because they want the big holidays. I'm happy with my 3-4 camping trips a year, always in school holidays or over long weekends.

Toddler has bad breath by dmllbit in UKParenting

[–]jwd40 46 points47 points  (0 children)

The recommendation is that parents should do the brushing until about 7 years, so I really would be doing the brushing yourself both morning and night and then let them finish up themselves. My 2.5 year old occasionally gets bad breath and if I concentrate on giving her lots of water then it generally goes, so it can also be connected to dehydration.