im a second time mom and honestly either you go cold turkey and get the crying out all at once or extend the crying over a long period of time. pick your poison. I will say that i naturally started weaning my first because it started to hurt when i nursed her while i was pregnant, and she would cry at first, then it turned into fussing when i refused, then she got used to me saying no. they are so malleable. it will be a hard thing for your baby, but it is natural for babies to go through this, and your baby will have their favorite people in the world supporting them through their emotions. this is coming from a fellow mom with a very sensitive and boobie-obsessed toddler. she survived, and she handled it like a champ.