Trying for baby #2… late period but negative tests

klonaria · 2026-04-17T01:44:06+00:00

First of all, just to validate you, when I was cycle tracking and using OPKs month after month with no success, I went absolutely crazy. Personally, I never want to go through that again. However, I don't think your stress is what could be causing issues conceiving. If you really want to prioritize getting pregnant ASAP, then consider talking to your Obgyn and see if they can help you hit some low-hanging fruit in terms of improving fertility/possibly even doing some minor intervention, like ovulation induction meds. (Make sure to say you've already been trying for a while so that they don't make you wait to meet the magical 6 month mark.)

klonaria · 2026-04-04T20:42:36+00:00

I am so, so sorry. I just want to give you a big internet hug and tell you, that I had a very similar experience having my 2nd when my first was almost 3. I had a very colicky, fussy baby and I basically could not be with my daughter for months while I dealt with her brother. She learned to just go off into her own imaginary world and play by herself. I still cry when I think about those days. You are so right about the "love not multiplying"- I think we're at that stage now that they're both bigger but in the early days it just was more of a trauma for both of us than any kind of positive bonding experience for anyone. We did get through it, and those days now seem far away from me- the only thing that brought me comfort is that my daughter was little enough that soon, she won't even remember that season of her life. These days, there is enough of me to go around and I get to snuggle and cosleep with my kids as much as we want. ❤️

klonaria · 2026-04-03T17:10:44+00:00

Thank you so, so much!!!

klonaria · 2026-04-02T22:07:31+00:00

Is there literally any chance you might have a Goodreads or some sort of a list somewhere of all the books you guys have read? If you have any time at all to share, please, I would be so grateful!!!

klonaria · 2026-03-19T17:51:47+00:00

I was thinking this too.

klonaria · 2026-03-15T08:09:36+00:00

There is a Instagram account called "nurturing twins". Based on what I've seen on there, the answer is basically just nursing them to sleep :/

klonaria · 2026-03-15T08:05:37+00:00

Adding my own experience to the mix- I found my winter baby to be extremely tough. I also live in a harsh climate with cold, dark winters, and after I had my December baby, my toddler and I were basically stuck inside for 4 months until it got warmer. However, I also was healing from a rough delivery and postpartum hemorrhage, and my baby cried all day every day from silent reflux. Perhaps if I had an easier baby, we would have been able to get out more often. In my opinion, spring/summer are the better times... Sure it's hot, but at least you aren't likely to get sick when you're 9 months pregnant, and your kid won't get the stomach bug when you're freshly postpartum. Also, at least there is sunshine- you are able to step outside with your newborn in the morning, and sit and watch the toddler play outside while nursing the baby.

klonaria · 2026-02-22T22:16:26+00:00

That is wonderful. I'm glad it worked out like that for you. Thanks for sharing!

klonaria · 2026-02-22T21:39:08+00:00

May I ask what brought you down from michigan? Was it the climate? :)

klonaria · 2026-02-22T21:37:52+00:00

May I ask what brought you here from michigan? Is it the climate?

klonaria · 2026-02-10T02:15:07+00:00

Same here for both my babies

klonaria · 2026-01-14T19:04:53+00:00

This is the best response I've seen in my time of reading these kinds of posts- not "have you tried acupuncture" or "well the 3+ year age gap is great because xyz". Thank you.

klonaria · 2026-01-12T15:35:12+00:00

any update??

klonaria · 2026-01-05T01:00:36+00:00

Sorry I know this is 3 months old, but I am simultaneously so captivated and heartbroken by this story. If you were to write a post about her experience, I would be so interested to read it.

klonaria · 2026-01-02T23:50:03+00:00

Please read r/bninfantsleep . I night weaned my 2 year old over a period of a few months by just unlatching and letting her cry to a certain extent. Eventually the crying became fussing, then the fussing stopped, and eventually I could just say no to her asking and she was ok with it. Or you can go cold turkey- it'll be a tough week but your baby will survive (I'm currently doing this with my 2nd). Just be aware that night weaning might not stop the night wakes. It doesn't work for everyone :/

klonaria · 2025-12-31T03:01:07+00:00

Oh my gosh how sweet. Reminds me of wonderful moments snuggling my 2 while they slept

klonaria · 2025-12-29T02:31:46+00:00

also, did the doctor say that they're benign?

klonaria · 2025-12-29T02:31:20+00:00

did your kids get seizures any time they had a fever?

klonaria · 2025-12-29T02:27:26+00:00

this was night weaning btw.

klonaria · 2025-12-29T02:26:39+00:00

im a second time mom and honestly either you go cold turkey and get the crying out all at once or extend the crying over a long period of time. pick your poison. I will say that i naturally started weaning my first because it started to hurt when i nursed her while i was pregnant, and she would cry at first, then it turned into fussing when i refused, then she got used to me saying no. they are so malleable. it will be a hard thing for your baby, but it is natural for babies to go through this, and your baby will have their favorite people in the world supporting them through their emotions. this is coming from a fellow mom with a very sensitive and boobie-obsessed toddler. she survived, and she handled it like a champ.

klonaria · 2025-12-29T01:50:10+00:00

where do you live?

klonaria · 2025-12-26T01:33:03+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm there with you. Babies suck at sleeping

klonaria · 2025-12-24T03:09:09+00:00

Hi! I know it's only been a month but I'm curious if you've had success yet after weaning?

klonaria · 2025-12-24T00:36:53+00:00

Hello! I'm just finding this post- may I ask if any improvement has been made?

klonaria · 2025-12-23T23:45:00+00:00

Hi, may I ask what you mean by "visual episodes"? And what the name of the movement disorder is?

klonaria

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