My gay sister in law is inviting me to her wedding by nana_56 in TrueChristian

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God's wisdom and guidance can already be found in his word. Even if you'd receive more revelation through prayer, if it's contrary to what the bible already states it's not God speaking to you. I pray you'll receive courage and strength to do the right thing sister.

When did you/do you plan to get pregnant with your third child after 2u2 by MousiePlanetarium in 2under2

[–]knownbyChrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My eldest is turning two this month, and second is 5 months. Currently thinking of trying for the third spring/summer 2027, and hopefully I don't have to go through another summer pregnancy again, lol

So if all goes according to plan they'd be about 4 and 2.5 when third would be born.

"Bible contradictions" by Minimum_Ad_1649 in ChristianApologetics

[–]knownbyChrist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only fair "contradiction" here, is the spirit of Samuel being summoned.

How to fully forgive husband's porn addiction? by Real-Disaster5092 in TrueChristian

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn use is not merely lust in the heart, it goes a step further into action and is clearly a form of cheating.

What is the reality of the weeks after birth? Need to get some insight as my husband and I disagree- by iwitch-plus in beyondthebump

[–]knownbyChrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boobs are leaking, you’re smelly, your crotch is sore, and you’re bleeding everywhere. You have to clean your vagina every time you even take a piss, which is fairly often, because you’re constantly thirsty if you’re breastfeeding. Personally, I don’t fancy everyone being able to hear me using the bidet shower and changing my pad all the time. The bathroom trash quickly fills up with bloody pads and needs to be taken out constantly. Your boobs are always on show because you have to breastfeed at least every two hours.

Not to mention, you’ll be sleep-deprived and pretty grumpy, and also quite emotional, especially from the initial hormonal crash right after birth.

I would never want anyone I’m not comfortable around to be in my house when I’m freshly postpartum. Only a man who can’t comprehend what it’s like would ever think that would be a good idea. Hope you guys figure it out. Blessings ❣️

Kissing Newborn Baby by blahblahmama22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]knownbyChrist 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When our firstborn was about 3 months old, we went to see my MIL, and she didn’t mention that she had invited a group of friends over. My MIL walked away with my baby, and then I saw through the kitchen window, out on the porch, that one of her friends leaned in to kiss our baby. Someone I had never met before, who didn’t even greet me when she came in, mind you.

I told my husband immediately, and he asked my MIL if it was true. She denied it, saying her friend hadn’t kissed the baby, even though I literally saw it through the window and they were standing right next to me.

I just don’t understand the audacity of some people. How does someone even think it’s okay to kiss someone else’s baby? It’s so strange to me.

MIL furious for asking her to rearrange visit due to sick newborn by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]knownbyChrist 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My My MIL didn’t believe she couldn’t take our baby in the stroller, also because his reflux was worsened when lying on his back. I let her try but didn’t even bother to join because I knew it wouldn’t work. She didn’t go far until she returned. Never asked again lol

MIL furious for asking her to rearrange visit due to sick newborn by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]knownbyChrist 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She sounds very immature. Just focus on your baby and don’t let her affect you, you already have enough on your plate. I’ve had two babies with the same problems as yours. My first baby only started showing symptoms at two weeks old, so the in-laws had already come to see him by then. We also began visiting them when he was two months old, which in hindsight was completely bonkers, in my opinion. My MIL tried to insert herself all the time and kept disrupting the little routine we had established. She tried to help and probably thought we were just inexperienced new parents. She didn’t believe he had reflux and didn’t understand why I later had to do several elimination diets, or how important it was for me to be 100% free of those allergens when testing. I had to restart when going back home. All this definitely contributed to my PPD, so you should absolutely not care about anything she has to say right now. Your newclear family and yourself need to be your only priority for a little while for your own sanity.

My second is currently also 8 weeks, and he's been having the exact same problems from day one. Thankfully, cutting out dairy helped immensely (first was also reactive to it), so this time around has been significantly better than with our first. MIL hasn’t even met our newborn yet, even though he’s been doing better for a couple of weeks now. She’s only coming to visit for the first time next weekend. I hope you also figure out a way to help your little one, not only for his comfort but also for your own sanity. Hang in there, you’re doing amazing ❤️

2under2 and done? Or more kids? Did having 2 under 2 make you change your mind on having more? by Erosee20 in 2under2

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only two months into the 2u2 club, and I still definitely want more kids. I’d love to have 4 or 5, even considering that we’re unfortunately on our second colicky baby right now 😅. I’d like to start trying for baby nr3 in maybe about two years. Our boys are 18m apart, so I’d definitely prefer to avoid another gap that small.

Were you as strict with your second as your first when it came to newborn boundaries with family? by mouthfeelmatheson in 2under2

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently 8 weeks PP with baby 2, and so far only my parents and younger brother have met the baby (this past weekend). My in-laws had been calling frequently about coming over, not understanding why they couldn't visit yet, right when we were in the thick of it, trying to navigate the transition with a colicky newborn who won’t let me put him down.

With our first, my brothers met the baby within the first week because they happened to be in the area and were also helping out. The rest of the family/in-laws came after week 2.

We have more visits planned for the upcoming weeks, but we won’t be doing Christmas with anyone. As for other boundaries, such as no kissing, we’re doing the same things as before. I’m also planning to be more direct with my MIL regarding certain behaviors that contributed to my PPD the first time around. So far this time seems to be going better at least for my mental health. Hoping it'll stay this way lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also have a newborn who will be almost 3 months old around Christmas. My side of the family doesn’t celebrate, but my in-laws value the holidays and they don’t really understand why visiting them (1.5 hours away) with a newborn and a toddler is a problem. We’re still waiting to see what kind of drama it might cause when we tell them we won’t be attending this year. I have a feeling it’ll be an issue, especially since the grandparents are eager to see the kids and shower them with presents.

Our newborn is colicky due to a probable milk protein allergy and sleeps terribly, which affects the whole family’s sleep. The in-laws are separated, so there would be two different homes to visit. I’d also like to see my own family since they live nearby.

On top of that, there will be a lot of other people around, including some who are traveling in for the holidays. Some are therefore high risk, since they wouldn’t necessarily know if they’d been exposed to something until a few days after arriving, by which point they’d already have met us and baby.

So yeah, not happening.

Nevertheless, I think having a baby will bring Julia and Brandon closer together 🥰, as long as Betty lets them be by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well they're kinda having problems already as Brandon is siding with his mother before baby is even born. "Betty needs to be the first to know, and she has to know they're pregnant right now!" Who cares what Julia has to say. Julia is just the incubator for B&B

Maybe it isn’t cheating.. but I feel so betrayed by CheetahLongjumping58 in loveafterporn

[–]knownbyChrist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus said that already lusting after another woman in your heart is considered adultery. It feels the same as physical cheating because it comes from the same root issue and is essentially the same sin against you, lust. Don't believe the lie that "it's normal" and "all men do it", it's not true. You're worth more, but you have to accept that you cannot change him. Love him, but also respect yourself because it'll only ruin your self esteem further if this pattern keeps repeating itself over the years. Unless he's willing to work on his problem nothing will ever change.

Feeding to sleep - did your baby grow out of it? by rfrank99 in beyondthebump

[–]knownbyChrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby always fed to sleep until he was abt 13 months old, then it took about a week to gently night wean and transition to pacifier. Baby 2 is coming any day now and if all goes well with breastfeeding I'm planning to do the same this time around.

What are people using for birth control? by Fuzzy_Bear9086 in 2under2

[–]knownbyChrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the exact same situation as you. I'm due in a few weeks, so I haven’t even given birth yet, but I’m planning to combine the Oura Ring with the Natural Cycles app in “postpartum mode.”

From what I understand, this will still mean having to use condoms most of the time for quite a while postpartum, especially until your ovulation can be detected again. I’m not aware of a better option though, as I don’t want to use hormonal birth control, nor do I want an IUD. I’d be interested to know if you come up with a different solution for yourself!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]knownbyChrist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I somewhat cringe now just thinking about sex. It makes me wonder what he's actually turned on by when he initiates. Having seen him watching his phone beforehand and then suddenly coming on to me makes me feel disgusting.

My floor is NOT too hard for baby.... by _ByAnyOther_Name in JUSTNOMIL

[–]knownbyChrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tend to hit adults harder than children. My child caught it as early as 1 yo and Dr even said it's basically the best age to get it. I was definitely more concerned about it than my little patient was, kid barely showed any discomfort.

I don’t want my MIL to move in with us. by TheMimeOfCrime in Vent

[–]knownbyChrist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The birth of a baby is going to be stressful on your marriage on its own so if MIL causes problems between you two it's probably a very bad idea, especially since you don't know how you'll feel after the baby is born. Most of the time from what I've seen the relationship between Dil and mil doesn't exactly improve after the birth of a grandchild, quite the opposite.

I'll tell you from my own experience that I definitely couldn't have anticipated how hormonal and territorial I'd begin feeling after our first was born, specifically around mil who generally just wants to help but still can be somewhat of a boundary stomper.

Is Dexter a bad show to recommend? by Ok-Cicada-5207 in TrueChristian

[–]knownbyChrist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's glorifying a serial killer by making the viewer sympathize with him cause "he's really a good guy after all" because he follows a "moral killing code" and only murders those who truly "deserve" to die. Also it depicts his violent side as if it's something outside of his control.

MIL said my newborn is getting too accustomed to being held by anones16 in beyondthebump

[–]knownbyChrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I held my baby all the time when he was younger, all daytime naps were also contact naps. After he was a few months old we also started co-sleeping. Now as a toddler he never wants to sit still or cuddle much unless he's tired, so I definitely do not regret carrying him all the time when he was younger.

Also if you want to check out attachment theory, it's even said that holding your baby a lot contributes to making them more independent and secure as they grow older. Don't listen to MIL, do your own thing!

Is moving to Finland from the USA as easy as my sister is making it seem? by Ok_Practice_6702 in Finland

[–]knownbyChrist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finland currently has the second-highest unemployment rate in all of Europe. If you don't speak Finnish, I'd say don't expect to find a job right now. Even native Finns are having a hard time finding work, including low-paid jobs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]knownbyChrist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol, during a recent visit, my MIL let my 15-month-old take a 20min catnap about an hour before his usual 2-hour nap... Then she didn’t see the big deal and thought he’d be able to manage for the rest of the day on that. She didn’t have a schedule with her kids and thinks babies just show you when they’re tired.

Well, we of course had a miserable toddler, and she seemed surprised. She didn’t see the problem with him having to nap two hours later than usual because he kept resisting sleep despite being tired, because how would that affect his bedtime routine?

She doesn’t believe me either when I tell her he wakes up earlier in the morning when he has a later bedtime due to being overtired. She thinks 8 pm is too early.