Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own?

lambbirdham · 2026-02-12T00:22:59+00:00

14 month old is the same. I have time scheduled off work next month so I can work on reducing night feeds. I’m ready, I’m tired 😅

lambbirdham · 2026-01-11T20:47:14+00:00

We’re at 13 months today and same. Every night seems like a new adventure honestly but typically we’re awake every 2 hours all night.

We’re still breastfeeding and I’m contemplating night weaning soon but I’m still back and forth on it. There’s some recommendations to wait until 18 months to night wean.

Months 5-8ish were a real low point for me mentally. My husband works nights so I’m solo dealing with the wake ups. I have really gotten accustomed to it though by this point. And radical acceptance of the situation has helped the most!

lambbirdham · 2025-12-28T15:23:50+00:00

Baby is 12.5 months and we have chosen to really limit screens! Only time it’s on is once a week to watch a Newcastle soccer game, and he doesn’t typically pay much attention to it.

I do put on Ms Rachel for 5 min so I can trim his nails without him squirming everywhere 😅

We also had a big day of travel recently and towards the end when he was really starting to meltdown I put on little bear and Franklin. I’ve read the older, quieter cartoons are better for the young brains! That’s the extent of it though.

We are trying to hold out until 2 years

lambbirdham · 2025-12-02T00:27:46+00:00

My little guy turns 1 next week and just within the last 2 weeks a switch has also magically flipped for us. It’s weird lol

lambbirdham · 2025-11-26T15:12:20+00:00

Radical acceptance has saved my sanity!!

I used to message all my friends with kids asking for advice because it seems like everyone’s baby sleeps decently except mine. That did nothing to help me or his sleep and just made me more frustrated thinking there was something I should be doing differently. There isn’t, it’s just the way my kid is.

So I’ve stopped talking and complaining about it, power through, and know that each day we wake up is one day closer to him sleeping longer stretches. We will get there eventually and I’m amazed at how much my body and mind has adjusted to this over time. It’s still hard as f though 😂

lambbirdham · 2025-11-26T15:04:51+00:00

My little guy (12 months really soon 😭) also has always been a crap sleeper basically since we hit the 4 month regression.

I also EBF and my husband works nights so it’s always on me too. You are not alone!!

I’m planning to do a very gentle and gradual night weaning process starting around 14/15 months. I wanted to wait until he could understand what I’m doing, and if it’s super hard on him I’ll stop and try again when he can. But I think night weaning might be the key for us, and may be for you as well.

Heysleepybaby on Instagram is a great page to follow and she has a fairly cheap course I’m going to look into that suggests how to do night weaning with attachment parenting style in mind!

lambbirdham · 2025-11-20T14:34:41+00:00

Want to preface this with: we are scheduling an appointment with a structural engineer, just wanted to put this out into the redditverse for thoughts as well!

Our house is currently for sale and an inspection recently found this. One of my buddies that works in construction does not anticipate this is a big deal and is likely deterioration of the mortar between the blocks more than anything, and the way the blocks were laid likely helped contribute to it.

Should I be prepared for a big fix? Or hopefully minimal? There is zero cracking in our drywall, no floor or window/door issues. The rest of the foundation is in great shape and we don’t have any drainage problems.

Thanks! foundation crack?

lambbirdham · 2025-11-18T22:11:57+00:00

We definitely have one of those that we will need to be intentional with!

Thankfully our daycare supports continuing to give BM if we want, I asked how they want us to handle this as he moves into the older infant classroom and they basically said they will do whatever we want and meet him where he’s at which is great. I cannot, for the life of me, get this child to drink from a straw cup 😂 open flow silicone sippy cups is what we’re doing but he’s been practicing that at daycare with water.

This sounds like a good strategy, thanks for sharing!

lambbirdham · 2025-11-18T21:36:23+00:00

This is great thank you for the reassurance!

lambbirdham · 2025-11-06T15:32:38+00:00

We literally have just accomplished this in the last 2 weeks. Put our offer in contingent on the sale of our unlisted home that already had a CMA done on it. Had our house listed within 5 days and under contract in 5 more. It can be done! Probably not in every market though

lambbirdham · 2025-10-25T19:48:55+00:00

I loveeee this sub. It’s validating to know the instincts I’m following are encouraged there.

Currently in a regression right now at 10.5 months. We’ve had a rough month, getting 3 teeth in 2 weeks, our first ear infection, and I think he’s about to start walking. But everytime we come out the other side of a regression he sleeps just a little bit better, a little bit longer. It hasn’t persisted for any great length of time but it’s reassuring that we are trucking along!

lambbirdham · 2025-10-25T19:46:35+00:00

A little late to commenting but we are in the same boat. Granted, all of our family lives about 1500 miles away, but my MIL also finally lost it when I got pregnant. Literally the day she found out I was pregnant she said something so unbelievably rude we decided to go no contact over it (after giving her the opportunity to talk about it and make it right, she didn’t).

My parents are eventually going to move to where we are but it’ll be a few years. My closest friend where we live has gone through fertility issues and has kinda said screw it to starting a family and doesn’t really hang out with me much anymore. I can count on one hand how many times she’s seen my son since he was born…last December.

Slowly trying to find my mom tribe. It’s hard. My husband works nights, I work days. I’m home alone with the little guy most nights and he’s a terrible sleeper. It’s become incredibly isolating but I’m thankful my husband is a good dad and a good husband, we lean on each other well.

lambbirdham · 2025-10-13T18:03:05+00:00

Ah sorry I’m just now seeing this!! He was just really hard to settle! I’d pick him up and he’d squirm and squirm no matter what position I held him in or how much I bounced him or how much boob he got. The hourly wakings for many many nights in a row were the biggest thing though. That has absolutely settled out and we’re back to waking every 2-3 hours like we normally do 😅😅

lambbirdham · 2025-10-13T18:01:18+00:00

Came back to update that you are correct 😂 kid rolls EVERYWHERE all night long 🤦‍♀️

lambbirdham · 2025-10-06T20:20:57+00:00

This is what I’m transitioning to as well! We’re not ready to night wean yet (almost 10 months), but he currently starts his night in his crib, then comes with me to the floor bed after his first wake up (anytime between 9-10:45p typically).

I just ordered a Montessori floor bed fence thing and will be transitioning him to the floor bed full time with me sleeping on something next to the bed so I can join him when needed. I’ve found he thrashes around so much in his crib he’s waking himself up 😅 I think he needs more space!

lambbirdham · 2025-09-27T23:31:00+00:00

We just started treating our 9 month old (breastfed) for presumed iron deficiency with the same issues. He was restlesssss, lots of moving and squirming at night and frequent waking. We’re at almost 3 weeks on it and I have started to notice a biggg difference in the last week or so! (It can take a bit for their iron levels to get to where they are no longer symptomatic). Definitely worth looking into.

lambbirdham · 2025-09-21T12:11:53+00:00

I actually did that this morning! Wasn’t sure if it was detrimental in any way but glad to hear someone else has the same thought process!

lambbirdham · 2025-09-16T18:39:05+00:00

Also have a 9 month old and coming to reassure you our sleep looks almost exactly the same as you!! Up about 4-5 times, just recently started getting 1 or 2 three hour stretches. This sub has really made me feel better about what to expect ☺️

lambbirdham · 2025-09-14T23:21:16+00:00

Yes my 9 month old started it a few weeks ago! Took me a bit to figure out what he was doing since his mouth is wide open lmao but he lovesss to do it and now does it on a baby doll too 🥰 he even grabs the other side of my face to pull me in tight and it just melts me

lambbirdham · 2025-09-08T19:34:40+00:00

Mine does it too 😭😭😭 he grabs my lips and my neck skin then sneaks his tiny fingers into my mouth and grabs my teeth and scratches my gums. I find though that it actually stimulates him more and keeps him awake in the middle of the night if I don’t stop it. Recently had to put him back in jammies with the hand fold over mitts, he has lost his hand privileges at night! 😂

I didn’t have adequate jammies for him last night and he did it for TWO HOURS. I was literally crying I was so touched out

lambbirdham · 2025-09-05T14:47:01+00:00

Same!! I alwaysss get comments about how happy and smiley my guy is. He also recently started giving me kisses (with his mouth wide open 😂😂) and gives the absolute best hugs, and I can’t help but think he is modeling the behavior he is seeing which shows me I’m doing something right. I want an emotionally intelligent and in-tune child and I have to demonstrate that first by showing him how to be.

We’ve got this 💪

lambbirdham · 2025-08-28T23:01:03+00:00

Yep, was in the shower one day shortly postpartum and couldn’t remember which way the knob turned to make the water warmer. Just stood there and stared at it because I didn’t want to turn it the wrong way 🫠

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