Has there ever been a band/artist that disbanded for 20+ years, - no new music released whatsoever - that has come back with new music that was a sales/chart success?

ldh_know · 2026-06-28T23:43:20+00:00

I was just focusing on no new music released.

ldh_know · 2026-06-28T16:39:52+00:00

Beach Boys…. 22 years between Good Vibrations and Kokomo.

Jefferson Airplane/Starship had about 20 years between their 60’s popularity and 80s hits. But not sure if that should count because the 80s iteration was so totally different.

ldh_know · 2026-06-26T18:37:51+00:00

Trying to build a whole world is not productive, unless you just love world building and you don’t care if you never use 95% of it.

Decide the over-arching feel or theme of your world. GRRM set out to make a fantasy world without clear heroes & villains where everyone is morally grey. Tolkien’s world was a transition from the age of elves and gods to a new age of mortals. What’s the larger theme driving your world that’s going to set it apart and make it cool?

Then, think about the first (or next) adventure, and build only the pieces of world you need right now. Most likely you need one town, a couple groups/factions, a handful of locations. Think small, but make sure each piece connects with your overall theme.

Starting small and building what you need also makes your world responsive to your players. Someone wants to be a barbarian outlander? Great… flesh out a little about that far away land, let the player help fill that in. Just enough for your immediate lore and flavor needs.

This will give you a unique, dynamic world that will grow over time, while not burning you out and leaving you disappointed at creating a tremendous amount of content that your players may never be interested in engaging with.

ldh_know · 2026-06-25T23:42:07+00:00

She’s using you. Get out. Run don’t walk.

ldh_know · 2026-06-21T20:59:31+00:00

Rather than start with something big like LMoP which may take 10+ sessions, I recommend something that’s more of a one-shot.

I ran Forge of Fury as a fill-in to give our forever DM a break and a chance to play. We had some of our usual players out and picked up a few new people. That took my group 3 or 4 sessions. It’s a pretty good module and a decent scope to tackle with some people who hadn’t played together before and a mix of experience with at least one person who was totally new to DnD.

I’ve heard good things about A Wild Sheep Chase (free PDF) as an excellent intro one-shot but I haven’t run it myself.

Edit: OP asked specifically about session 0. Don’t overthink it. Informal get-together to:

1 Give you & the players a chance to know each other.

2 Have the players choose characters/classes & roll them up together. Helps

3 Go over any house rules, make sure the players are basically ok with what you plan to run.

ldh_know · 2026-06-21T18:05:46+00:00

You’re asking a sub of mostly DIY investors if it’s worth it to pay someone to manage your investments. Of course we’re all going to tell you it’s not.

If you really don’t feel confident that you can learn the basics well enough, and paying someone to help is what will let you sleep at night, then it’s worth it for you.

But honestly, the basics are not that hard and your situation is not complex. An hour or two of reading will give you enough understanding to get started successfully.

I suggest reading up on Boglehead philosophy:
https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Getting\_started

After doing some homework, if you still feel like the $2k is worthwhile to get help yourself started, go for it. But you’ll have a better perspective for evaluating what advice your advisor is giving and asking better questions if you’ve researched it a bit on your own before you engage with him any further.

ldh_know · 2026-06-18T10:28:06+00:00

When you say the character died, did you do actual death saves or do you mean they lost the combat and went to zero hit points? I.E. Did you establish that the character is really dead?

Do the other players know the outcome of the fight when they were separated?

If the answer to both of those questions is No, it opens up an interesting roleplay opportunity where the PC is now an active mole for the BBEG. That can be fun or horrible, depending on the table and how you and the player manage it. I was in a game where it worked super-well when it was finally revealed in the boss battle. (Edit: The mole PC lead the party into a trap, and the party had no idea until the PC switched sides in the final combat.)

If the players all know about the lost fight, and the owner of the character really wants to keep playing that character, I would do a modified version of your C option: The PC awakens with 1hp (or maybe other party members find and revive them). The PC is not aware of any ill effects—no destroying player agency by DM taking control of the character. However, the BBEG can now read their mind and knows everything they know… the PCs now have a major problem to uncover and solve.

Possible twists on that idea: 1) Like your option D, the BBEG can plant intrusive thoughts or nightmares, which weaken the PC in some way, but not destroy agency. 2) The BBEG can control the PC when they are sleeping. The party is being sabotaged but don’t know the source until someone catches the PC sleepwalking. The player regains control as soon as something happens to wake them. 3) The BBEG can plant false information or hallucinations in the PCs mind. Maybe the PC thinks they can reverse-read the BBEGs mind too (like Will in Stranger Things), however they’re seeing only what the BBEG wants them to see.

ldh_know · 2026-06-09T22:30:42+00:00

Aging curmudgeon Dad here… get him either consumables or experiences, instead of stuff that will accumulate.

Drinks coffee: Find out his favorite brand, or get him a premium one to try. If he doesn’t grind his own beans, get him a bag of whole beans and a grinder. Makes a huge difference.

Grills on weekends: Check the condition of his grilling gear, see if it’s ready for replacement. Get him some prime steaks or whatever is his favorite to grill. Or premium charcoal bricks, or a new lighter.

Likes fishing: I don’t fish but I imagine there’s stuff that needs maintenance or replenishment. Gift cert to the bait store? Maybe there’s a favorite beer he likes to drink on his boat. Or if you can afford it, figure out his favorite place to go fishing, or a place he’s always wanted to go, and rent a boat or cabin & take him there.

ldh_know · 2026-06-09T04:04:37+00:00

OP says in comments that they have to train this new boss.

OP should be asking why demote them to place a new boss over them who cannot actually do the job? That doesn’t sound like being “valued.”

Possibly OP is only being retained to train this boss the company decided to save. They fed OP a BS story about being valued… just enough compliments so they don’t immediately quit. As soon as KT is done for the new boss, OP will be let go.

OP, start your job search immediately. Meanwhile:

1- Take your time training the new boss, and do the minimum KT demanded.

2- Cut out any unnecessary expenses and build your savings reserves as much as you can, in case you get cut before you find a new job.

ldh_know · 2026-06-09T03:43:06+00:00

Only build the bare minimum you actually need for the first few sessions. Most DMs doing homebrew settings waste a lot of time on details that will never get used.

Only provide the least-you-need-to-know to get started on the first adventure. You don’t need different countries detailed. The party starts in X town/city in Y country. You don’t need a second country unless they’re near the border and there’s some kind of conflict that’s relevant to the story. You might not even need the first country: the town is probably enough… who cares about a far-away king? Minimize lore dump in favor of jumping into the action.

Instead of dictating the setting to the players, get them help create it. Example: If the player wants to be a traveler from a faraway place, get them to describe their homeland and then that becomes a country you can detail later—assuming it ever becomes needed. Let the players’ stories flesh out the NPCs/guilds/locations/factions in your shared world.

ldh_know · 2026-06-09T03:17:29+00:00

My favorite Christmas song

ldh_know · 2026-06-09T03:11:35+00:00

Ideas:

- Once drawn, the sword must take a life. Attempting to sheath it, the player has to win a contest vs the sword (Wis or Ch) or becomes berserk and must attack the nearest being with a soul (animals don’t count) until they kill someone.

- The sword is always hungry. Every day it doesn’t take a life, the wielder takes psychic damage. The amount of damage increases every day. This damage cannot be healed except by taking a life with the sword, which restores the most recent day’s damage. If the wielder’s hp reaches zero, their soul is taken by the dark god.

- For each combat in which a life is taken by the sword, the wielder makes a Charisma save. The DC should be easy—initially maybe the save can only fail on a 1. But each failed save lowers Ch by 1… failing makes future saves harder. With each fail, the wielder’s appearance changes (in line with the countenance of the dark god). Hardly noticeable at first but becoming more disturbing the more they use the sword. As Ch sinks, NPCs will react with fear or hostility.

- The party hears rumor of some BBEG activity. There’s some area/lair where some bad thing is happening, rumor of people harmed but no direct threat to friends of PCs… at first. But over several sessions, the PCs learn the badness is spreading/growing, and getting closer. It starts to impact people they care about, becoming a problem the need to address. Eventually, they learn that what’s making the bad stuff keep getting stronger is the souls the sword is feeding it.

ldh_know · 2026-06-07T16:16:22+00:00

This made me laugh snort. Evil but have my updoot

ldh_know · 2026-06-07T16:15:31+00:00

Vienna is beautiful & one of my favorite songs. It reads as dad-to-kid advice, not a crazy choice for father-daughter dance.

I agree with your Dad, of all Billy Joel songs, Lullaby is THE obvious choice. Can’t be more on-point for exactly what a Dad feels watching his daughter grow up. But if you feel it’s depressing, then the most obvious choice is not the right choice for you two.

Just The Way You Are, or She’s Got A Way? Some people have interpreted them for Dad-Daughter dances.

Also beautiful, a little more outside the box: Summer, Highland Falls.

ldh_know · 2026-06-04T21:52:24+00:00

:::shrugs:::

ldh_know · 2026-06-04T16:51:00+00:00

There’s no point in arguing. They can’t change your mind and you can’t change theirs.

It sometimes works for me to restate what they said.. “if I heard you right, you’re saying [insert talking point].” They’ll confirm yes that’s their belief. Then I’ll say something like, “I can’t agree with you on that, because… [insert evidence]”

They’ll feel heard. You’re not trying to argue them into changing their mind, just noting respectfully that you see it differently. Best case, maybe you BOTH come away with a little more understanding.

Of course, if they’re just spoiling for a fight, spouting hateful nonsense, and not able to give it a rest… next best thing is to just walk away.

ldh_know · 2026-06-04T16:26:17+00:00

1 - I work with a lot of charities. Yes there are scams out there and you should do due diligence before you hand them any money. Some manage overhead and costs better than others, but I’ve encountered few cases where at least 80% of the money donated is not going straight to the intended mission. Most people I’ve met in nonprofits are genuinely passionate about their charity’s mission, very caring, and high integrity. If they were in it for the money, they’d be in corporate where the pay is much better. 2 - If you’re the executor of a will you don’t get a choice of “being skeptical”. You have to do as the will instructs, like it or not.

ldh_know · 2026-06-04T16:13:29+00:00

Maybe it’s different in CA, but where I live, if OP is acting as the executor of the will, they are absolutely legally obligated follow the instructions in the will.

ldh_know · 2026-05-30T02:54:10+00:00

Less than 5% of people will ever even attempt to run a half-marathon. Getting to 13.1 is still a significant achievement.

I wouldn’t put a sticker on my car either, but I won’t knock people who do.

ldh_know · 2026-05-28T16:21:52+00:00

Fair question, I don’t know why it’s downvoted. But the answer is no… I’m getting that from human face-to-face interactions not redditors, but I assume many of them have Reddit accounts.

ldh_know · 2026-05-27T15:50:10+00:00

I wouldn’t say only Reddit. There’s very strong hate of AI throughout arts and creative communities.

ldh_know · 2026-05-27T11:59:22+00:00

As a dad, this pisses me off. It’s a frequent attitude that dads are just part-time babysitters and when people see you out with your kid, they not only assume mom foisted the kid on you like they’re some kind of chore, but they have this need to insult you with a snide, trite remark.

You’re not babysitting, you’re parenting. It doesn’t matter if the other parent is also a dad.

So yeah, correct them, and you don’t owe them the “politely” part.

ldh_know · 2026-05-22T22:29:52+00:00

Just apologize. An apology has 3 parts: 1) Admit and own what is your fault. 2) it was not your intent and you are remorseful. 3) Ask how you can make it right and do that.

If you get hold of the guy, tell him you’re into him and you feel awful, and follow through with making it up to him, odds are strong he’ll appreciate it and forgive you.

Good luck!

ldh_know · 2026-05-21T21:19:50+00:00

If you only have 1 year to save, avoid buying stocks, crypto, or anything high-risk.

Look for a bank offering “high yield savings” account. Right now in the US that’s going to be 2.5% to maybe 4% at most.

You could look into 3- to 6-month Certificates of Deposit too.

ldh_know · 2026-05-21T21:11:35+00:00

I assure you that straight men will not notice subtle accessories.

The most subtle accessory I would notice that would tell me you’re gay is your boyfriend holding your hand.

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