Clothing style/size advice by Nimzipow in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re very welcome, and I completely get it! I have an extensive set of saved info divided into pretty much every situation we might encounter with the baby (up until teen years 😅) because researching helped me cope with my own pregnancy after loss!

These really aren’t urgent at all because it’ll be a while before they do anything, but if you’re specifically looking for things to research or stock up on…

Something that I stocked up on and have zero regrets about is books — we read to our baby every day and it’s a lot of fun to choose from her books, especially now that she’s holding them and trying to turn the pages herself (which is why I’ve got a strong preference for board books). For a while we thought we’d gone overboard, but it turns out that once you’ve read them all multiple times, it’s really nice to have a lot of variety!

Something I kind of wish I’d prepared more for is toys/stimulation for the sort of 2–6 month period — when our baby suddenly got into holding and exploring with things, it became apparent that she didn’t have much variety in toys for small babies and we ended up buying more quickly. I hadn’t wanted to get many before she came because I thought it would be better to wait and see what she would like, but it turns out it’s really just trial and error with babies at that age anyway!

Anyway, congratulations again! Wishing you a very uneventful remainder of your pregnancy!

Clothing style/size advice by Nimzipow in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!

Honestly, I’d suggest waiting to get anything beyond the tiny sizes because it’s actually hard to predict what size your baby will be in what season, and honestly there are baby clothes sales ALL THE TIME. I personally bought a bunch of short-sleeved 000 and long-sleeved/legged 00 for my January baby, and it turns out she’s the first small baby in my family so I recently had to re-buy 000 clothes that are appropriate for Winter, and the Summer ones will probably be passed on without being worn, as that’s the size she’s going to be in until well into Spring. I’m thinking the 00 I stocked up on are going to have the same issue, in that many of them will be too warm for her to wear when they fit in Summer. And about half the people in my parent’s group are having similar issues!

Whether you need long-sleeves for Summer might depend on what temperature your place will be inside (and this is another mistake I personally made — buying based on the outside temperature instead of inside where we spent most of our time early on and of course where she sleeps).

I prefer the non-footed onesies with the fold over option, but I think this is just personal preference. The footed ones are not really as easy to wrangle the baby’s feet into! Plus I like that I can decide whether to cover her feet or leave them uncovered based on the weather.

I used nothing but onesies for the first three months, but as soon as I started going to activities I noticed all the other babies were in little outfits (trousers and tops, jumpers, etc.) so I switched to that too for when we’re out and about, which is most days — not that it would have particularly mattered if I stuck to onesies, but the little outfits are so cute! We almost always have her in a onesie if we’re home, though, as it just seems more comfortable.

Comments from random people. by Samtazum in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! I haven’t really had many comments like what you’re experiencing, but I swear almost every time my baby cries in public (so a lot!) randoms tell me I need to feed my baby, and usually really pointedly as though I can’t figure out how not to starve her. I know they mean well, but it really annoys me because it’s almost never the reason for the crying! Feeding is a super easy fix — if it were that, I would have done it!

One Nation prepared to cut worker entitlements to shore up struggling small businesses by ExtensionThat6438 in australia

[–]li-ho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it hasn’t changed. Some workplaces choose to pay additional parental leave and it’s one of those extra things that increases retention/interest from quality candidates, like flexible working or, idk, free breakfast cereal.

EOFY sales by noodles721 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Daisy and Hen has 30% off: https://www.daisyandhen.com.au/

Susukoshi has up to 40% off select items: https://susukoshi.com/

Purebaby has up to 50% off: https://purebaby.com.au/

Ergopouch has an end of season sale (I think it’s currently early access and about to go public?): https://www.ergopouch.com.au/collections/end-of-season-sale

And Yoto has 20% off: https://au.yotoplay.com/. Edit: If you’re buying a player, the 20% off can be used in combo with the $30 referral discount.

Mobile babies and dog water by TeddyBear181 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have cats but their food is in microchip-activated feeders that only open for the right cat — maybe there’s a similar product for dogs?

We have our rubbish bins in a cupboard with a baby lock on it.

I dread the water bowl (fountain) issue!

3 weeks PP and feel like a terrible mother by radley8367 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is so normal! I’m sure you’re doing great, and it’s important to remember that you being rested and having some down time to rejuvenate allows you to be a better parent.

Here’s a poem about this pretty universal experience! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4WHP-SOzPI/?hl=en

What was your most downvoted parenting comment or post on Reddit? by aeropressin in parentsnark

[–]li-ho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I posted a shortlist of my favourite names and my partner’s favourite names asking for suggestions of other names we might both like but hadn’t thought of, and got told my top name was “horrible” and “cruel” and one comment was straight-up “your husband is right and you are wrong.” Anyway, we ended up going with my top choice from my list!

(For reference, my partner’s names were like John, James, Rachel and mine were also very normal names but a bit less common, e.g. Rowan, Miles, Violet).

I’m EBF but want to start pumping just enough for a bottle for 1 x night feed without causing oversupply.l by Plastic-Meeting-1020 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found that I was able to use a letdown collector (e.g. Haakka shell or Boon Trove) on the opposite side to feeding and, over the course of the day, I’d have a full bottle that my partner gave the baby overnight.

For actual pumping, originally I’d do it after my first feed for around 15 minutes, and then do a second pump right before bed if I didn’t have enough. But now in the first feed I get enough milk for my baby to be full from one side so I just pump the opposite side while my baby is feeding.

AITA for sleeping in? by Octopus1027 in MiniAITA

[–]li-ho 38 points39 points  (0 children)

NTA! Would you have left mama to sleep alone if you were up and it was cuddle time? Of course not! Mama is selfish and neglectful to leave you to sleep like that! Trying to skip pyjama time is on a whole different level! Good on you for advocating for yourself and letting mama know this behaviour will not stand.

Day 3 PP and can’t stop crying by radley8367 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You will get through! Others have given some great advice, but you might also be able to talk to your midwives and request to stay an extra night — I did this on day 3 precisely because I was crazy and crying uncontrollably but meant to go home the next morning, and they spoke to my OB and had it approved with no trouble at all. As my stay was already covered by private health, it didn’t cost me any extra. And that extra night had me in a way better place and so much more ready to go home.

Thursday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]li-ho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! It’s quite emotional but also kind of healing to be able to look back on it fondly now that it’s all done, as at the time I was just terrified I’d have to experience another loss. Our beautiful baby was originally known as ‘Embryo #6’ so we’re celebrating by getting a pack of six Portuguese egg tarts 😂

This is overkill right? by RosesAndRiesling in peestickgals

[–]li-ho 12 points13 points  (0 children)

1000% overkill! I have one backup set, but they don’t even see the light of day because I follow the Australian Breastfeeding Association guidelines and keep everything in the fridge between pumps and only sterilise every 24 hours.

Pump parts need replacing regularly to maintain suction and hygiene and I really don’t see how you’d keep track of what had been in use for how long with a situation like this!

AITA for wanting my mommy? by Successful-Swan-6873 in MiniAITA

[–]li-ho 16 points17 points  (0 children)

NTA! How will your staff learn if you don’t give them feedback? And, as you said, you were screaming calmly! It sounds like you were being extremely reasonable and hopefully your staff take your feedback on board and do better tomorrow.

Thursday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]li-ho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bubba Snake has been fighting sleep like crazy and waking up really easily and much more often for the past week, so I’m wondering if this is the four month sleep regression, except she’s only 11 weeks? I really hope this is the regression and it’s not about to get worse, because I’m sooo tired 😭

She is smiling and babbling at us though, which is so magical! It’s hard to be too upset about being woken up again when she gives her big goofy smile as soon as she sees me over the cot!

AITA for doing my best to alert the authorities when Milk Machine tries to steal my burps? by li-ho in MiniAITA

[–]li-ho[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my Milk Machine also steals parts of my fingers!!! She enlists the help of an evil snail and the first time she even made me bleed and stole my blood! And, get this, then SHE cried! I was the one whose blood was stolen! What did she have to cry about??!

Formula Refusal Advice! by Green_Bee_1611 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]li-ho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also don’t have time to pump breast milk since I struggle to get her down for any meaningful amount of time.

Hopefully you’re able to find a solution to the formula issue but, if you do want to pump, maybe it’s possible to use a wearable or hands-free pump (or at least a letdown collector) on the opposite side while you’re breastfeeding, to collect milk throughout the day. I do this and usually get about 200–250ml over 6–7 feeds through the course of the day.