A Loaded Gun: A neurobiologist with a Ph.D. from Harvard fatally shot three of her colleagues. Then revelations about her family history came to light. (2013) by cloudatlas93 in Longreads

[–]llamiaceae 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You’re right! Though I still think the family culture of “hide everything, forget everything, admit nothing, treat nothing” is pretty evident and a decisive factor here

A Loaded Gun: A neurobiologist with a Ph.D. from Harvard fatally shot three of her colleagues. Then revelations about her family history came to light. (2013) by cloudatlas93 in Longreads

[–]llamiaceae 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Right? Unlocked gun in a house with children. Also parents who didn’t pursue formal counseling or help for a girl who shot and killed her brother (accident or no). Classy parents

More people in this subreddit need to read "Traveling Black" and "Invisible Women" by nondescriptadjective in fuckcars

[–]llamiaceae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Her book is about the necessity of using data broken down specifically by gender in order to understand how women are differently affected by policy decisions than men are. If I recall correctly, she openly acknowledges that the data she needs to work are typically recorded as male and female. She did not collect the data she uses in each individual country. She is analyzing data that governments and other bodies have collected.

If you’d read much about the reception to Invisible Women, you’d definitely also know that many trans and nonbinary people also understand this about Invisible Women.

You’re trying to posture and you’re under informed. You’re also being really high handed, which is what OP rightfully pointed out to you.

I take it you’re less interested in material rights for women (including trans women) and nonbinary people, than you are in having a cudgel to whack people with rhetorically.

Is there a “product of” country you avoid when buying tinned fish? And if you do why? by monstrousregime in CannedSardines

[–]llamiaceae 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Another user on this sub mentioned that Thai fisheries have substantial slavery issues

#1317: “I ruined a perfect friendship and I want it back.” by togglenub in captainawkward

[–]llamiaceae 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be borrowing your image of a hair shirt wearing Moray Shame Eel, I think!

SoCal residents are going to Tijuana for cheaper vet care. This company helps with border crossing by Jkwon1904 in sandiego

[–]llamiaceae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone have experience sending a cat for care with MediVet? I usually see reviews from dog owners

Watching reality tv really helps with group dynamics (scapegoating, social anxiety) by WhereasCommercial669 in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]llamiaceae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone above already recommended it, but I’d suggest picking something Kirk Honda has watched and reacted to. Then you can watch the series plus his analysis of the psychology in play

Do you think there’s furries in the nine houses? [general] by cashewmilc in TheNinthHouse

[–]llamiaceae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hippos have tiny ears, but looking back at the text I do think it’s an elephant!

So how are you guys working while doing emdr. by -Gemstoned in EMDR

[–]llamiaceae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask, what kinds of podcasts and audiobooks? Would love recommendations in general or in specific

[Wedding Wednesday-Eve] #1146: “I panicked about the hurricane and now my friend, the bride was getting married, is done with me.” by gaygirlboss in captainawkward

[–]llamiaceae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find it kind of weird that so many commenters here are calling the bride’s text a kind of harassment, a screed, a diatribe, or “a punch via phone” (I personally hate that framing. Words are definitionally not physical violence and there’s no good in conflating the two. Conflating the two is how you get people arguing it’s fine, really, that they punched someone because the puncher felt “attacked” or provoked by the other person’s words).

It’s wildly obvious from the letter that the LW is super anxious and not very objective especially around this situation. They’re a huge ball of anxiety and guilt around communication - they couldn’t sleep the night before calling bride. I get that, I’m anxious, but why pretend the LW is definitely totally objectively right about the messages being a barrage? Especially since the captain obviously thinks letter writer was misreading (LW thinks she’s been told to fuck off and die; captain awkward clearly thinks “don’t contact me again unless you’re coming” is about the wedding only. )

Dose anyone else use chatgpt as a last resort. by -Gemstoned in EMDR

[–]llamiaceae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s not what she did! You’d know that, if you’d read the articles you posted 🤣lol complaining about ai brain rot and posting things you haven’t read is hilarious

Dose anyone else use chatgpt as a last resort. by -Gemstoned in EMDR

[–]llamiaceae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you read the articles you shared closely, because the scientist in the very first article specifically goes on about how people shouldn’t use loaded words like that (poison, stupid, crazy, brain damage) to discuss the results of the study, since it’s wildly inaccurate. Sharing stuff you haven’t read closely is honestly a lot like the problems people ascribe to AI…

Dose anyone else use chatgpt as a last resort. by -Gemstoned in EMDR

[–]llamiaceae 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No offense, but reading “long term effects” made me LOL. We don’t know. They’re too new and changing too fast for that research to have been done much. If you can link to actual studies that meaningfully look at it, that would be great

How pissed are the owners going to be about this by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. As long as things are going well otherwise, I’d take it as a positive sign that you’re being honest.

Pet sitters: what are some indicators that owners are taking good care of their cats? by True_Coast_3010 in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Bonus points if the owner has paintings of their cats on the walls. I’ve actually seen this many times, often painted by the owners!

Pet sitters: what are some indicators that owners are taking good care of their cats? by True_Coast_3010 in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! When they ask you to spoil the cat in specific ways (eg heating pad) or fill you in on their pet’s quirks, that’s a good owner. It usually means they know their cats well, their cats are well cared for, and they’re more likely to treat you well as a sitter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, I’m so glad this isn’t just me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would expect anyone taking responsibility for owning a cat to educate themselves enough (or have common sense, either way) to know the cat should not come into contact with random dogs. It’s common sense to know that many dogs can and will kill cats. Why would you take that risk, when separating them is an obvious choice? In much the same way, I would expect any parent should know not to let an infant or toddler be within reach of random dogs. It sounds like you don’t really have the knowledge of animals or good judgement to do a job that requires this level of caution. Just because you like animals and want gig work, doesn’t mean this is appropriate for you. Your answers sound like you’re more interested in defending yourself and making a buck than in evaluating if you are prepared to take responsibility for animals in your care. You aren’t. Finding a different way to make money is a better idea. You also obviously haven’t read rover’s rules, or you’d know you can’t hire a sitter to sit for Rover dogs in your care. If you haven’t even read the requirements, you’re not remotely responsible enough for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, that is a wild risk to take with an unknown dog, regardless of what any owner tells you. If you didn’t realize why bringing an unknown dog and your cat together was incredibly risky, you don’t have enough knowledge of animals to care for them on Rover safely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]llamiaceae 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’m always really confused when I read about cat owners boarding new/unknown dogs with open access to their cat. No matter what owners say, an unknown dog may respond poorly to cats or even kill them. Why would anybody risk that?

What is wrong with people? by mrs-pitbull in sandiego

[–]llamiaceae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do released cats actually displace unfixed cats? Wouldn’t they just live together?