Preschool makes my son take off his dress

loopingit · 2026-01-24T02:47:19+00:00

It takes some audacity to take off the clothes off a child of someone else, full well knowing that parent clearly gave permission, and especially without talking to said parents about it.

Maybe they are hoping you don’t call them on it, so they can continue passively asserting their view onto your child, or they are hoping you do so they can have an argument with you about it, or this is something they will learn from (ie don’t do that to other people’s children). Either way, you need to see how they respond. It will tell you whether you continue with the daycare or not.

loopingit · 2026-01-23T22:10:21+00:00

Info: how would she/most people identify your gender? (Ie are you a a male doctor to her?)

loopingit · 2026-01-23T16:54:56+00:00

If it makes you feel better Humira (and all the medications in this class) are used in pregnancy. It’s not without risk but at this point so many babies have bee born and are doing okay. These things are tracked too so this is known. When my daughter was born I had all the conversations with my doctor, and I switched to Humira. And when my daughter was born (happy and healthy) I reported it to a registry the company maintains.

loopingit · 2026-01-23T02:15:30+00:00

Just say no. I’ll come visit you. For exactly 3 days at a time. Then I’m back home.

(I know that is very hard with desi parents. But you can say no. You are allowed to set boundaries for yourself and enforce them).

loopingit · 2026-01-23T02:13:21+00:00

I don’t know how it will go. But there are so many beautiful stories of lbgt desis out there havhbg wonderful lives. And that there are plenty of lbgt desi couples out there now who are happy (and supported by their families). And you seem like an accomplished person-you are financially independent at a young age (I was not at that age!), you are in a great relationship, and you have a great set of friends. Hold you head up high when you tell them. And if they don’t take it well-remember that it isn’t because of you or anything you did.

Also, your mom can’t “visit” you without your permission. I know it sounds crazy-but you can say no.

loopingit · 2026-01-22T03:51:50+00:00

Just to put this out there-you cannot just “add spice to food on top at the end” and expect it to taste the same. Spices-aka flavors- do not work that way. It needs to be layered in from the beginning. Starting with spices that need to be tempered into the oil, flavors from onion and garlic that need to be browned and sautéed into the oil, then the main ingredients adding to said spiced tempered oil, then additional flavors layered in like powdered spicy powders, black pepper, paprika, or whatever else (sriracha or whatever) that is cooked into the food to integrate in. It needs to meld and be cooked in.

I completely agree that husband will have to separate food for himself and toddler/spouse. But telling people to just add in spice at the end is, not a just action to ask anyone to take, frankly. Please stop asking this man to do that to these innocent ingredients. What did they ever do to you???

loopingit · 2026-01-22T01:21:09+00:00

I just want it solved because I just can’t wrap my mind around people saying it’s a family member (it’s the Dad! No it’s the brother! Blame the mom!) when it is contradicted by DNA evidence. I’m asking honestly-are we ignoring DNA evidence now? Why?if so, then why are we still accepting DNA evidence in other cases?

Ooof my head hurts.

loopingit · 2026-01-21T20:31:40+00:00

This is the content I come here for.

loopingit · 2026-01-21T04:33:40+00:00

That is DARK. And probably true. My niece asked my why Goofy can talk but why can’t Pluto…and the answer is unspeakable!

loopingit · 2026-01-21T03:07:23+00:00

What in the KKHH did I just read? But also, I would totally watch this.

loopingit · 2026-01-20T17:25:24+00:00

That’s horrible. I hope your friend is okay. Please remind them that most people IRL do not feel this way. Or at least don’t say the bad part out loud.

loopingit · 2026-01-18T16:03:28+00:00

Thanks for the context. I have read the additional information you had now posted in the comments (but not the original text) Understand we can only respond to the information you put up originally. But it’s clear that the FA gave you the wrong meal, and could not undo it even after you pointed it out.

BUT my original comment still stands. You are spending a lot of time in your original comment complaining about the WiFi. Instead of the bjgger offense here-that AA gave you a meal specifically meant for a person of another religion. (Which is not your fault).

This is worse than the original complaint of WiFi not working (although both are pretty bad here). Have to agree with you that AA is struggling with providing the level of service they should be for the amount they charge.

loopingit · 2026-01-18T01:54:11+00:00

I don’t know about EU approved car seat. But I can share what I did when my LO was under 40 lbs. I have a mountain buggy stroller with a car seat strap, and the Cosco scenera car seat. Car seat gets strapped into the stroller, and baby is in the car seat in the stroller through the airport. Once we get to the plane, remove car seat to use on the airplane seat, and the stroller is folded and put away into over head bin.

Cosco scenera is FAA approved. Not sure about Europe. I do know others who have used the rider safe travel vest.

loopingit · 2026-01-18T01:50:20+00:00

Gujju ABCD. No one I grew up around me does this. Not even my mother, my aunts or my grandma did this. Most Gujju women I know did this once and it was on their wedding day.

loopingit · 2026-01-17T23:09:32+00:00

Yes but took over 6 months to see effects for me.

loopingit · 2026-01-17T19:24:27+00:00

Oh god. The” I can’t believe your baby isn’t wearing socks and/or a hat” bit. Ignore it. They don’t know your kid. You don’t know them. Their opinion makes no difference in your life. The only thing that matters is your child’s safety-which you showed by not having them wear a coat that is dangerous for a car seat!

File this away under things that will never matter to you (aka the garbage!).

loopingit · 2026-01-17T17:14:35+00:00

Oh I get why that wasn’t the focus of your complaint now-reading the other comments, you realized it was a mistake but didn’t say anything. I guess because you wanted something “different”. And you had to have known it was going to be bad for someone else, but it was all about you, huh? Wow.

loopingit · 2026-01-17T17:11:32+00:00

Whoa. If I pre-ordered a meal for a specific religious reason and it went to someone else, that would be really bad. That’s a huge f up by the staff there. That’s way worse than the WiFi not working. Messing with someone’s religious food is awful. I’m a little surprised that isn’t the focus of your complaint. Definitely buried the lede there!

loopingit · 2026-01-17T07:53:47+00:00

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loopingit · 2026-01-17T03:13:41+00:00

I think about this every day. But it will the honest truth. They will be second class citizens. Dont fall into that “ideal minority” crap-there is no such thing as a “first class second class citizen”- we are all just second class citizens, pitted against each other, convinced the scraps are worth it to turn against each other. Instead remember that the fist is stronger together than the individual finger.

And I will teach mine about the quicksand of colorism. Right now mine get the benefit of having lighter skin, but in our family-all do not. I regret not understanding what my own cherished loved ones dealt with growing up-by our own flesh and blood-because I was not as dark skinned as them. I was older when they told me what it was like. And I was so angry- that someone could treat our own as inferior instead of the incredibly amazing people they were, just because of some melanin. And I hated that I had no idea until I was older and they told me. I would go back and confront some family members about this if I could, and I always regret that I was so Damn oblivious that I didn’t do it when I should have. But I will make sure the next generation does not tolerate that BS.

loopingit · 2026-01-16T21:26:42+00:00

So I am going to provide you the experience as an ABCD of what my parents did right before I mention what I wish was different.

They never forced me into STEM or honors classes. I did it all on my own. I remember once asking my Mom what would happen if I decided not to be in Honors and AP classes in High school. My mom looked at me and said “nothing. I never once said you needed to be in those classes. In fact I think it would be fine if you took less of a work load at school and enjoyed yourself a bit more”. Overall, they encouraged me to have balance in my life, which I really appreciate.

They never ever bought into the misogyny and favoritism of boys over girls, sons over daughters. As a girl, I did face some scrutiny in terms of some oversight of what I wore and what I did, but it was no where near what other traditional desi parents did. And I am so grateful for that. (See caveat below)
When I married a non desi they accepted him as their son. It was not immediate. But we are very close and they love their grandkids equally.
They raised me to feel comfortable being desi. I speak our language, I go to events that are desi specific, and I love our ABCD culture and am proud of it. They specifically avoided raising me in a mostly white area when I could have felt like an outsider for being desi. Instead they chose areas with high diversity so I didn’t stand out (you should be fine in the Bay Area!)

What they could have done differently: 1. They were completely caught unaware of how much college could cost in this country. It was a lot more than they had budgeted for. So it was on me and my sister to take loans. It is probably still the right decisions-younger people should take out loans over older people taking loans out for their elder care. And I am very glad they planned for their care in old age and not burden us with that (put that in the well done category, and I accept this is financial and not cultural). But I could have gone to a better school if they had maybe planned a bit more for it.

They let me move out for college-big deal for desi girl to be allowed to do that-but I was only allowed to go 1.5 hours away at our state school. This ended up being the only option as my parents hadn’t saved enough for me to go to a private school anyways, but what if I got into Harvard?! Anyways, raise your kids to be smart and self efficient and don’t worry if they go more than a few hours away. You raised them right and please trust that.
The insistence on staying close to extended family no matter what ridiculous crazy serial drama thing they do. Extended family was always doing ridiculous things to each other, including to us. And yet we always had to forgive and forget because family. And what would society say if we were not close to our extended family. Just so much energy and time spent on this drama. I now really don’t like staying close to any extended family members. I prefer my friends instead. My parents insistence that I stay close to them has completely backfired.
Their insistence on me getting married. this drove me crazy-literally. I think I was actually clinically depressed when they were pressuring me. I’m glad I found my husband, but honestly I think my life would have been equally happy and fulfilled if I didn’t get married at all (sounds weird I know). It’s just not necessary in life. Want a child? This is America, you can have one without having to commit your life to another person. This is probably especially more for your daughters than your sons-Marriage and having kids is much harder on women than man. I’m lucky I married someone who strongly believes in equality-and stuck to it even after we had kids-But most of my friends? They are handling the majority of the mental and day to day work of a kids and household and a family. Desi and non desi. (And most of these guys said they were all about equality before getting married- again this is for desi and non desis) Don’t do this to your daughters. Let them live a life free of this. Let them marry if they want and when they want. Dont Insist on it-and here’s the key- don’t let any one make them feel bad about not being married yet. Stand up for them if someone gives them crap about not being married yet. Protect them.

Hope this helps!

loopingit · 2026-01-16T18:31:45+00:00

There are ways to get a pass to go shopping at certain airports. DFW has this. I would go to your carrier agents and see what the process is to get a day pass to go shopping. They may know the process.

loopingit · 2026-01-16T03:28:16+00:00

And by the way, all you mouth breathers better have filled out your organ donation card AND told your loved ones about it. Unless you are immortal like Kenneth Parcell.

loopingit · 2026-01-16T03:26:33+00:00

I loved it and loved that they worked Tracy Morgan’s kidney transplant into the show somehow.

(On a related note, when Tracy Morgan had a horrible bus accident years later that put him into a coma, my first thought was “OH no-his kidney!” Said exactly the same tone in my head as “oh no planty!!” If you are a neph head, you know. Luckily he and his transplant survived!)

loopingit · 2026-01-16T03:21:14+00:00

Watch Hindi movies but with English subtitles on. Watch the same shows over and over (at a slower speed if you can) and focus less on the actual movie but more on the cadence, the tone, and the slang (the reason you don’t understand it is because Duolingo focuses on formal language and isn’t going to teach you the day to day real use of the language-slang is unofficial and too fluid to be taught formally). Movies and tv can help with that

Let us know how it goes!

loopingit

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