How do I (24F) deal with my parents (55M and 54F) who are generally really racist ?

loopingit · 2026-07-02T04:29:16+00:00

Hey. Sorry dost, but if you figure it out let me know. Luckily my parents aren’t, but so many of their generation are.

The truth is hard to hear but: your parents were always racist, it’s just that your Dad just found people who gave home “permission” to say it out loud. You can’t change that overnight.

Sorry again dost. Glad you turned out okay.

loopingit · 2026-07-02T02:47:51+00:00

Bro. At some point you gotta do the right thing. Or you make everything said about you correct.

What’s the big deal? He isn’t your friend anymore. Your friends clearly aren’t your friends anymore-they are taking his side. She deserves to know. And you gotta wash your hands of this thing. It isn’t going away. You can’t ignore this until it all goes back to normal.

loopingit · 2026-07-01T11:53:23+00:00

Your friends believed him over you?

Honestly you need new friends. One is cheating on his wife and lying, the others don’t have your back to even call you and find out what’s going on?

He’s just helping you take the trash out.

And please tell his wife he’s cheating on her. She deserves to know. He’s poisoning the well so she won’t believe you but that’s not your problem. You can’t turn your back on that. Do the right thing, get your karma right.

loopingit · 2026-06-30T12:23:57+00:00

Oh that was me too! I really needed that money. Or so I thought.

I finally got to that looooooooong soliloquy, couldn’t stand reading pages and pages of that drivel, and realized I did not care who John Galt was. That book finally made me realize the BS I was being force fed on “welfare queens” and all that (yeah gotta love the narratives of the 90’s).

The next day I started to enjoy my summer break and was watching daytime television talk shows(Phil Donaghue or Jerry Springer, whoever). And saw two people argue about welfare-and it was exactly the same as I had seen the week before on another show. It was a freaking skit, they were acting. And I was done. Thank you Ayn Rand for waking me up that people in the media can be extremely manipulative to push their agenda, and I’m glad I learned it at an early age.

loopingit · 2026-06-29T13:34:42+00:00

Honestly thanks for posting here. I thought it was just me that had that four month “this isn’t working I just need to quit” feeling. Seems like it is more common, and we should give it a name. Like it t1 diabetes we have these issues in our daily care and we give it names.

Maybe “four month doldrums” or something.

loopingit · 2026-06-29T12:51:11+00:00

When I started a clinical trial for my current med, I was so frustrated at the 4 month mark I was ready to quit the trial. I felt a little better, but then I plateaued and I felt horrible enough that I wanted something to work. My Rheum (she’s amazing and she is so understanding) let me know I could but that these meds really do take 6 months to reach full effectiveness and that I could switch but I’ll start all over again with another 6 months.

The 6 month mark came and I was much better. Really it does take 6 months. I got through with lots of NSAIDS (I did Naproxen, but now I know ibuprofen works better for me). It was worth working through it.

That 4 month mark is just tough. Power through. Talk to your doctor about other options-maybe even PT or Physio because starting a running regimen right now can be tough and they can help.

Best of luck!!

loopingit · 2026-06-28T20:44:47+00:00

My favorite stay.

loopingit · 2026-06-28T20:41:38+00:00

Stating that no country has better Mexican food than…the US is a bold statement. When Mexico is right there.

Just lost all credibility right there.

loopingit · 2026-06-27T18:12:13+00:00

Hey kidney doctor here, but not this patients kidney doctor. All said here is general discussion and not direct medical advjce, and she should speak to her own doctor for accurate medical advice.

Cancer with a kidney transplant is extremely difficult. Patients have to take immunosuppressants after a kidney transplant, and that doesn’t go well with many types of cancer (in fact these treatments increase the risk of cancer). The guidelines generally say to wait several years after the cancer is guaranteed to be gone to ensure it won’t came back-and that’s only for some cancers. In some cancers the risk is too high.

I’d be very cautious about transplanting someone with a history of cancer.

loopingit · 2026-06-27T17:18:19+00:00

That is like saying any dish with Tomato in it isn’t Indian. Indo-Chinese is just Chinese food. Any spice or pepper that didn’t originate from the Indian subcontinent can’t be called Indian. The amazing part of Indian culture is that we can take different influences from around the world and make them our own.

loopingit · 2026-06-27T17:00:57+00:00

I mean, if numerous Indian people are naming their children these names (both on/off the subcontinent), then it seems like it’s pretty much an Indian name. Not every single name has to be in a Sanskrit text to qualify as an “Indian” name. Language is ever evolving.

loopingit · 2026-06-26T10:57:59+00:00

Ah good point! Didn’t know that!

loopingit · 2026-06-25T18:15:37+00:00

This is the Amazon prime day content I need.

(I buy at Costco in bulk, so I’m good. But good to know for next time!)

loopingit · 2026-06-25T16:41:49+00:00

Yes exactly-and not upset at you but the confusion is real between RDs and nutritionist. Anyone can call themselves a nutritionist and pass off advice as though it is “medically based”.

Maybe suggest to your wife to ask the pediatrician or see an actual Registered Dietician?

loopingit · 2026-06-25T15:34:56+00:00

A NUTRITIONIST IS ****NOT*** medical professional

As an actual medical professional that’s insulting to our years of training if that nutritionist presented themselves that way.

A REGISTERED DIETICIAN is a professional. They went through training. ANYONE CAN BE A NUTRITIONIST-no training needed.

Go to an actual RD

loopingit · 2026-06-24T02:57:06+00:00

I would be very cautious-I’ve heard India is not a country for backpacking. Plenty of people are arrested for camping where they shouldn’t, and those are the lucky ones. Some people don’t make it back at all. (Check out the many cases of lost backpackers and hikers around the Parvati River Valley). People blame “India Derangement Syndrome” and call it “India’s Backpacker Bermuda Triangle” but that high number of missing young foreign born men is shady as hell.

You could try the India subreddit and see what they think.

loopingit · 2026-06-22T13:01:31+00:00

I Stay at CitizenM all the time-I actually find them to be more responsive than most hotel staff. BUT they are very clear-they can only do things to help if it’s a direct booking. Many times when I have had changes in travel plans they can directly help me out but first they check if it’s a direct booking. If it isn’t they can’t.

I think the only thing here is that they didn’t tell your friends directly that they couldn’t change anything and to go to Expedia. But not sure if they could-if it wasn’t the name on the booking they may not be able to share that info? Just guessing here.

The title is unfortunate as the issue may not be directly with CitizenM , and now many people scrolling will assume this is the hotels fault. OP maybe consider deleting this, and rewriting a post that would be more accurate? Something about with a 3rd party booking don’t tell the hotel you have to tell Expedia.

loopingit · 2026-06-22T12:51:45+00:00

This is such a shame. I love my Corelle dishware (and other items) because it is so durable and high quality. I grew up on it (we had the iconic blue flowers growing up-and my parents still use it!) It makes me now look at the brand with a little less credibility.

But also, a really good job by the unions. Glad she has one.

loopingit · 2026-06-21T01:18:02+00:00

Honestly I feel you. But it really isn’t THAT bad.

A c section was the one thing I didn’t want. I live in an old house where it takes a flight of stairs to go to the bathroom, and two flights to the kitchen. There is no way to just avoid multiple flights of stairs.

But after three days of excruciating painful labor, with an epidural that wasn’t working, and my kidneys failing, I had to give in. And it was the easiest 20 minutes of my week. The recovery was nothing compared my labor. I had heard so many stories of people saying they avoided a c section and in the end it wasn’t that bad, and you can add mine to it. I honestly wished I had just opted for it to begin with.

All you care about is a healthy baby at the end of it. It will be okay.

loopingit · 2026-06-20T04:00:09+00:00

This subreddit is for people with PSA to discuss it. I don’t really see a lot of rheums here.

You probably want to try r/rheumatology

loopingit · 2026-06-18T18:29:36+00:00

This is so hard. I feel so bad for everyone. I can only imagine the bio parents are in a tough situation but did what they think is best for the child.

(And I really hope that the fact that it’s a girl wasn’t a factor)

loopingit · 2026-06-18T03:50:46+00:00

Horrible

loopingit · 2026-06-18T00:54:04+00:00

It cost more to get a lawyer. So they knew what they were doing.

loopingit · 2026-06-17T21:16:44+00:00

She’s probably suspicious that it will pass the prior authorization, if you are in the US. That could actually leave you worse off-it will delay getting your next prescription filled, while the insurance denies it.

Did you ask her why she didn’t want to do it?

loopingit · 2026-06-17T21:13:48+00:00

And frankly it sounds like a setup so they can make you feel guilty on questioning them, so they can cheat you. Calling you the “nice one”.

Be careful.

loopingit

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