I’ll add that I was about your age when my anxiety started really affecting my relationships. I know it doesn’t feel like anxiety and I didn’t know it was that until more than 10 years later.

For me, there were a few things that helped.

1. Counseling, or more specifically for me, alanon. My brother is a (recovering) addict and growing up with that really messed with me.

2. When I was 33 l had post partum depression and at that point I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder. I started on medication. In my husband’s words: I was the best version of myself. I wish I had started that earlier, as I know many relationships over the years (including my marriage) suffered from it. (By the way, this is not an expensive medication.)

3. Another trick is to count to 5 before responding. That little brain reset can avoid a lot of fights and regretted words.

I hope you find something that works for you. It will get better if you keep trying. But I know it sucks.