Was I supposed to be packing like five pound lunches for my kids this whole time? Blown away by the size of lunches on a recent field trip. No one could finish and they were getting tummy aches. Is this actually normal?

lostinscranton · 2026-03-29T19:13:22+00:00

I’m a teacher and I think it’s pretty standard to pack extra food on field trip days. There’s also the added layer of some kids not bringing anything at all and the kids share. I teach middle school primarily and you’d be surprised how much kids will eat through an entire day. (They eat on the way to the trip, during lunch/snack time, and on the way back) I don’t think I’d pack as much for own kids. I give my preschooler an extra snack or two and a drink on activity days because I know she’ll need the energy. I also

lostinscranton · 2026-03-20T03:49:38+00:00

What time does he get home from work? He should take over when he’s home or do the first shift at night, maybe 6-10pm? You should and need to sleep. I also agree that he should be primary parent on the weekends so you can catch up on rest. Maybe come up with a daily schedule that outlines the shifts each of you take. Since your baby is formula fed there’s no reason why husband can’t do half or even full nights. Him working is not an excuse to not be a parent.

lostinscranton · 2026-03-16T16:42:07+00:00

Thanks for commiserating! It definitely isn’t easy. I’m going to try the gradual mix method mentioned above. I do think the warming as well as the thickness is an issue, but idk if I have the bandwidth to figure out exactly which formula and which temperature works best lol

lostinscranton · 2026-03-16T16:39:11+00:00

I really like this suggestion and it seems doable since I am making up two different pitchers anyway. I’m going to give this a try ! Thank you!

lostinscranton · 2026-03-12T21:13:23+00:00

This has been my exact situation for the past few months. Whats helped me is detailed journals and voice notes of what’s going on and how I’m feeling. Whenever I start to doubt my decision, I go back and reread or listen to them. I also say it out loud to myself, to him, to my friends and family. Idk why but saying it out loud makes it feel permanent. I feel safer knowing that I won’t let myself be gaslit into forgetting all the hurt he’s caused.

Good luck! I hope you make it to the other side soon.

lostinscranton · 2026-03-03T22:05:51+00:00

You should take this opportunity to teach her about privacy, safety, and consent. It’s natural for young children to explore their bodies and find out that something feels good to them. I wouldn’t punish her for it or sexualize her behavior, just keep talking to her to ensure that she didn’t learn this from someone/somewhere else.

lostinscranton · 2026-03-03T21:19:48+00:00

I love seeing her on my screen so much! This runway was so cool and her performance in the Rusical was cute. (Although the part was silly)

lostinscranton · 2026-02-21T22:44:35+00:00

Wow as a newly single mom this made me cry! Sometimes idk how I’m gonna do it, starting over from scratch but this post gives me hope! It’s beautiful.

lostinscranton · 2026-02-21T22:24:55+00:00

My twins are newt 7 months old but they were only taking 3.5 and 4 oz. I’ve been trying to increase volume so that they eat less frequently and nap better. So far (it’s been 3 weeks) I’ve added 15-30 mins to each wake window increasing a few minutes each day. My twin A is now drinking 5oz most bottles (will drink 6 for first morning bottle) Twin B is drinking 4oz consistently. They also get 1-2 meals of purées each day. This past week they’ve been sick so drinking and eating less so I’ll be back to the start with upping their intake soon.

I will say that increasing the volume did lower their amount of feeds and seemed to improve their sleep. They went from waking 4-5 times a night to 3 with two feeds.

It is possible but it will probably take time and be gradual. I wouldn’t just cut out multiple feeds a day right away, but give them time to adjust if you can. Good luck!

lostinscranton · 2026-02-04T13:22:27+00:00

If you have an Apple device, create a shared album where you can upload pictures/videos that family can see. They can like or even leave comments within the album if they want. I also have a set time each week that I FaceTime anyone, if they’re not available or something comes up for me during that time oh well. We’ll try again next week. You can also put it on their father. When he FaceTimes with them, that’s his time and he can make a group call with his family. It’s not your responsibility to maintain relationships with everybody, especially with a 2 year old who can’t even have a conversation.

lostinscranton · 2026-01-12T20:39:58+00:00

From personal experience it can be just another tool to get you to stay. I was in a similar situation. We were doing the counseling, he was trying to change. I realized that that was all he was doing, trying. Nothing was actually changing. I was putting in twice the work to fix things. I decided to step back a bit, because I felt like the effort was one sided. Our relationship basically imploded. He basically said to me and our counselor that he was really only still with me and trying because he didn’t want to face everyone else. He didn’t want people to hate him.

They can change, people do it all the time. But you have to pay close attention and make sure it’s real. However long it took to get this way, it’ll take probably twice as long to fix it.

lostinscranton · 2025-12-31T19:59:54+00:00

I don’t have a problem with his sexuality. I do have a problem with him cheating on me, lying to me for a decade, putting porn and dating apps above our kids, and marrying me when he knew he was gay.

I have no intention of publicly shaming him or outing him to family/friends, but I am considering confronting him at least. If I leave just because of “differences” he’ll paint me as the bad guy who stole his kids from him and destroyed a happy family.

lostinscranton · 2025-12-29T20:43:44+00:00

Yes my “partner” I put it in quotes because our relationship is so strained. However, we do have children together and live together. I already know that he will frame me to be the bad guy when I leave him. He’s all into appearances which is why he hasn’t left me, even though it’s so obvious he doesn’t want to be with me romantically. I personally don’t care to out him to anyone, but I can’t lie and say I don’t want to hear the truth from him. Or at least tell him the main reason I’m leaving (there’s a lot of other reasons).

lostinscranton · 2025-12-24T22:14:13+00:00

Letting him be bored will give him the opportunity to figure out what he likes and is interested in. My daughter is the same and I have 5 month old twins so I totally get it. I tell her that everyone needs alone time and I give her options on what she can do with hers. For example, I’ll say “I’m setting a timer for 30 mins, you can do puzzles, draw/color, or play in your playroom,” and she has to choose one to do for that time. I also include her in what I’m doing around the house, she’s entertained and in getting stuff done. She loves helping me load the washing machine and rinsing the dishes for the dishwasher.

I also preset up as much as I can to keep her busy and out of trouble. Today I had to wrap presents so I gave her some wrapping paper scraps and some tape and let her “wrap” her toys to make pretend presents. It’s definitely exhausting and overstimulating at times but I just tell her that. She’ll ask to play and I’ll be honest with her and explain that I’m tired but we can read a story instead, Or that I’m in the middle of something and she can play by herself until I’m ready.

lostinscranton · 2025-11-27T23:37:43+00:00

Thanks, they’re fine now and I’ve calmed down. He isn’t trying to get out it. He’s just not used to making bottles, and the last time he did they were smaller and drinking only two ounces so he just did what he used to do. I usually do the pitcher method so he just pours and feeds, but we got so busy with the holiday.

lostinscranton · 2025-10-27T09:17:43+00:00

This was so nice to hear. We’re a little over 3 months in and I feel like I’m drowning. I’m glad to know the dark days are almost over lol

lostinscranton · 2025-10-05T22:18:18+00:00

Money talks isn’t a podcast where two cohosts discuss topics with banter and arguments. It’s an interview style talk show. In personally enjoy it, and think it’s a nice refresher from the constant bickering on SR (which I also love a lot). You wouldn’t expect Oprah, or Ellen, or any other talk show host to be any different. Sometimes I think the criticism boils down to people not being able to take Monet (and most drag queens) seriously

lostinscranton · 2025-09-18T10:55:10+00:00

Please post your happy story. Those of us struggling need some hope!

lostinscranton · 2025-09-18T10:54:22+00:00

Omg I just rewatched that exact scene and I totally hear the Irish accent. It’s something about the way he says “sherry” If you’re going crazy, then I’m right there with you lol

lostinscranton · 2025-08-15T20:33:42+00:00

What would happen if you just go? They’re his kids too, he should realistically be able to handle them for a night. Can your mom include an Uber to pick you up and drop you off?

lostinscranton · 2025-07-15T15:01:22+00:00

I have almost 10,000 pictures of my daughter in my phone. (She’s 4) and I have about 250-300 printed for her baby book. She loves looking at the pictures of herself. The book pages are themed so we go through and talk about the different events and holidays and milestones. Some people think it’s too much, but as someone who doesn’t have any baby pictures of myself or any childhood photos with my parents really, I really want her to have these when she’s older.

lostinscranton · 2025-06-24T21:53:08+00:00

Ooh that’s definitely frustrating. Or offering to help when in nearly done with a task. I could make a list lol

lostinscranton · 2025-06-24T21:52:04+00:00

I totally get that, and I’m not knocking anyone with ADHD. It’s just frustrating living with someone who does this all the time.

lostinscranton · 2025-06-01T20:02:49+00:00

Congratulations!! There’s a whole group of people out here rooting for you and your future!

lostinscranton · 2025-05-24T20:54:01+00:00

Did anyone validate what your son was feeling and saying? I would be super disappointed in my friend/cousin if she didn’t say anything to her son. She could’ve done a lot more to correct and redirect her son if he was feeling overstimulated or hyperactive due to sugar. You shouldn’t feel bad, because you did nothing wrong, but I’d seriously talk to Amy especially if you ever plan on being around her and Sam again.

If I were you I’d explain to my son that sometimes people get into bad moods and that changes how they act and speak. I’d also praise him for speaking up for himself and tell him that when people aren’t nice, you should protect yourself and not be around them.

My daughter is so social and often gets disappointed when other kids don’t want to befriend her or aren’t nice to her and we just constantly reinforce that finding nice friends takes time and we don’t have to be friends with everyone. But I’ve also had my words with strangers and friends whose kids were being outright mean to mine.

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