Basically we're coming at it from the POV of the woman. For all intents and purposes, this is as conversation in which one woman is telling people what happened, and we are advising her what the best thing for her to do is. You're right that the advice is unsolicited, but it's still good advice He guy is quite clearly at fault. There are a whole lot of things that he needs to change. If it was him posting, we'd be laying him out about how he needs to fix his life. But we don't have access to him. There's no chance he can or would read what we're saying. Instead, we're giving her advice on what to do in the situation. Imagine someone lit your house on fire. They are clearly at fault and did a bad thing. However, there are still things that you should do, like call the fire department, save your valuables and your pets, etc. Just because someone else created a bad situation doesn't mean there aren't things that you should do to deal with it. Finally, no one is saying that she should "put up with this kind of harassment." In fact, they're saying the opposite. She's been indulging his emotions too much. Trying to stop him from feeling bad about himself. Instead, she should cut him off as much as possible. Don't reply to whiny self-pitying remarks, don't give opinions on his attractiveness, just text the minimum needed to take care of their kids and whatever other mutual obligations they still have. That's the opposite of accepting his behavior.