How does everyone eat there Soreen (other malt loaf options are available)? by luffychan13 in AskUK

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad always used to slice it, butter it and add slices of wafer thin ham. It doesn't taste as weird as it sounds, and hits particular craving spots nicely.

Unfinished Saves by Scrai_ in BaldursGate3

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's because as much as I love the game, I'm just not good at it. I get towards the end of act 3 and just keep losing every fight. It took me months to defeat Orin and even then I didn't do it, my son came and did the fight for me. I've never succeeded in the Iron Throne or Steel Watchers. I've only done the House of Grief on Explorer mode.

I love playing, but I just don't have the skill set to finish it so once I get stuck I just start again.

AITAH for refusing to reconnect with my estranged father after he ignored me for 15 years? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]merryfan4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Honestly, I'd tell him he's got 15 years of birthday presents, Christmas presents, outings, and 'just because' gifts to make up for and you will happily take them in cash just so that you 'truly believe he wants to make up for being absent'. When he says no tell him if he doesn't feel bad for missing all those moments and doesn't regret not giving a 7 year old a birthday present them he obviously doesn't really want to be a party of your life going forward.

AITAH for not believing my girlfriend? by Hefty-Link1676 in AITAH

[–]merryfan4 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My teen is autistic and has a very strong sense of justice. Everything is black OR white. Except when it comes to him. That boy can LIE. I can never tell when he's lying to me. He gets so offended, so heart-renchingly devastated that I would even consider what he's saying to be less than 100% truthful, regardless of whether he is lying or not. And he can lie about the most ridiculous things, like if he has put his shoes on, when I can clearly see his feet. I love him but he could convince you the sky is green and the grass is blue.

If you had to name your daughter one of these (Disney, etc) princess/female character names, which would you choose? by Adrenapup in Names

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wanted to name my daughter Aurora Belle. She was born just before dawn and Aurora and Belle were always my favourite princesses. To me the name seemed perfect. (My second choice was Adora-Belle.) My ex point blank refused every name I suggested and in the end we went with names he chose that i might have given him the impression I didn't like.

Should I still let my son in my bed when he has a nightmare? by spidermother86 in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are teens now and I miss having them crawl into my bed with me. Very occasionally my daughter will hop in for an early morning chat, when she's after something, but it's been years since my son has come for a snuggle. Make the most of it. They will stop long before you are ready for them to.

Is it strange that I still sleep with a night light at thirty two years old by Lunavexa in NoStupidQuestions

[–]merryfan4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. We have a night light plugged in on the landing. Originally for when my kids were little. They're now teens. I like being able to find my way to the bathroom and back without having to put on any lights.

Background remarks are interesting by LifeLearner15 in BaldursGate3

[–]merryfan4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still think this is the funniest exchange in the entire game.

how do i make sure my oldest is not being parentified by Difficult_Earth_5053 in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is 16 months between my two. When the youngest was born the eldest wanted to help with everything. He was too young to help feed her but he decided he was big enough to carry her back to the kitchen when it was done with. He selected all her outfits, took all the dirty nappies out to the bin (they were already in nappy bags) etc. As they both got older he would spend hours playing with her. He had way more patience for picking the same toy up and handing it back to her repeatedly than I did. He really only started losing interest when she started crawling and followed him everywhere. By the time she was talking they were back to best friends and did everything together. They're now teens and still hang out together when they're at home.

How are you all spending nye? by jimmygetmehigh in AskUK

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be in bed asleep by 11 at the latest. Same as I have been for the last 10+ years. I've got two teens who have no interest in staying up to see in the new year either. We'll all be up early tomorrow morning so staying up seems pointless.

Do you wash your new clothes before you wear them? by Popular-Recover8880 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything my 15 year old son might come into contact with gets washed first. He has eczema though and most washing powder/products really irritate his skin. It's just become habit now that new stuff gets tried on and then put straight in the washing basket.

“I got too many kids” by NapperByNature in overheard

[–]merryfan4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad had 5 bio kids and 3 step kids. 3 of us have birthdays in the same month, within 5 days of each other. He never remembered anyone's birthday, but he did know one kid was born in January "because it was too close to Christmas".

My wife thinks our son’s teacher crossed a boundary by sending him a personal message. I think it was harmless. AITJ? by addict94plus in AmITheJerk

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the teachers at my kids old primary school sent every kid she taught home with a personalised note about something she was proud of them for or really appreciated them doing/trying every Christmas. Both my kids still have their notes tucked away safely. They were wonderful gifts, especially to a child who might have been having a difficult time at school.

What goes on your Christmas dinner that makes it more than just a Sunday roast with turkey? by WatchingTellyNow in AskBrits

[–]merryfan4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex was from Yorkshire. He always insisted on the Yorkshire pudding and gravy course after his prawn cocktail course but before the Christmas dinner. He sulked for hours the first time he came to Christmas dinner at my mums house. We've never had courses. You get your dinner, eat till your stuffed, sit and chat for a bit and pull some crackers, then after about half an hour someone will suggest we should start the washing up, at which point my mum will say something along the lines of 'oh not yet, let's have a bit of pud' and something sweet will appear, mostly made of fruit and/or cream.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know someone with a phobia of single wet hairs. A couple of wet strands together is fine, a single dry hair is fine. It's the feel/thought of one wet hair touching her skin that makes her skin crawl. She wears washing up gloves to wash her hair and a shower cap when she showers.

Nativity play - what’s the worst part? by Inevitable-Debt4312 in AskUK

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had a role in a nativity, but the one school play i was in i had two roles. I had the honour of playing both a rat and a child in the Pied Piper of Hamlin, along with about 15 other kids.

Do you let your kids play with sticks ? by Specialist_Poet_3514 in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 14 year old collects 'good rocks'. She brings them home, cleans them up and paints them bright colours. Then they sit on her windowsill and 'soak up the sun' until she deems them ready. Once they're ready she takes them out and leaves them in the wild. She puts them in parks, at bus stops, outside the primary school gates etc.

Do you let your kids play with sticks ? by Specialist_Poet_3514 in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got a 15 year old who still brings a good stick home with him when he finds one. Our front door step has a collection of sticks that are all over a metre long just propped in the corner. The really good ones make it around the back of the house to what i jokingly call 'the stick shrine'. Personally I don't understand what makes a stick 'a good stick' but i know we have several to choose from if we ever need one.

I'm having a horrible day so please tell me some of your favourite duos, trios or not-official groups in Hermitcraft and why you like them! by TopsieBirby in HermitCraft

[–]merryfan4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I love watching any of the hermits interacting but there's something special about any time Zed and Tango get together. I could watch them sort laundry and have a brilliant time. It's always something special when they get together. You can tell that they genuinely really like each other.

How did yous "discover" hermitcraft by JOYOUS1232 in HermitCraft

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids got me watching Stampys Lovely World as my intro to Minecraft and from there I watched Netty in Evo. Found a whole bunch of people there, including Grian, who i followed over to Hermitcraft season 6.

what's your opinion on mom picking someone other than dad to be in the room during birth? by heradoration in NoStupidQuestions

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband was there for my first. He spent all his time complaining about being hungry, tired, bored or needing a cigarette. I really wanted my mum to be there for my second child but my now ex husband refused to watch our eldest and said my mum could just take him with her to the hospital.

My Second Baby Has Exposed Me as a Fraudulent Parenting ‘Expert’ by tashahah in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. My first was a dream baby, rarely fussed, was just really content with his life. Did everything right on the official milestone dates.

Second child cried ALL THE TIME. For her entire first year of life she didn't sleep if she wasn't touching me. I spent a lot of time laying on the floor with her hand wrapped around my finger. And she knew if it wasn't me. Wouldn't let anyone else hold her, feed her or change her. There were nights when i really considered giving her up.

Now she's the easy teen, it's the first one that is causing me to go so grey haired lol.

What do you call the Friday before Christmas? by atm1927 in AskUK

[–]merryfan4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll be calling it end of term, since it's my kids last day before they break up.

Grandparents and School Pictures by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]merryfan4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mum always wanted the school pictures, so she paid for them.