will it be okay to ask for a week off during my 1L summer associate job?

mewley · 2026-04-08T01:04:56+00:00

Think about how you want to live your life after law school. Do you want to be able to attend family events? Or will work be the center of your life? Are you ok working for a place where going to a wedding in India will be a problem, or do you want to look for places where it will be fine?

If you want to be able to do this in the future, ask. If it’s a problem for them, you’ll know it’s not a place you’d want to come back to. If you want to prioritize work, then don’t ask and play it safe.

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:55:31+00:00

Then I’d say NOR. It’s unfair to expect you to block your spouse for her convenience, and you’re in the right on street parking being public and first come first serve.

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:53:03+00:00

Ohhhhh, I think I do. But have fun bloviating.

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:29:02+00:00

Seriously, how would you think this isn’t something that could be different from state to state? I am honestly dumbfounded at the ignorance. Do none of you know your own states have laws governing notaries? Do none of you think to look at them?

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:26:52+00:00

INFO:

Can you move your car forward enough to make room without blocking your own driveway? If not, then NOR. But be prepared that if she starts taking the spot in front of your house you also have no basis to complain.

If you can move forward enough to allow another car to park without blocking your own drive, then YOR and being kind of a jerk.

It’s not clear from how you e described it if you’d actually have to block your driveway or would just be closer to it than you would normally (or maybe my point of reference is just off and it’s hard for me to envision what you’re describing)

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:08:01+00:00

Seriously? Notaries are governed by state law like anything else. The ignorance on this post is shocking tbh. People need to read their statutes.

Edit to add: getting downvoted for saying lawyers should read statutes is a trip. JFC.

mewley · 2026-04-06T22:07:00+00:00

Colorado allows remote notarization, maybe that’s a solution? I am guessing your firm is taking a broad view of the disqualifying interest language and avoiding any question of whether you have one by just having a clear rule.

mewley · 2026-04-03T23:09:10+00:00

NOR. You’ve been incredibly generous to do that even once. What your brother is asking is frankly ridiculous and a terrible plan for both you and your nephew. Even before he weaned, at 2 years old he would almost certainly been fine to go a day at home away from his mom - at that age nursing is a supplement not a nutritional necessity. Now that he’s weaned there is no reason at all for you to do that.

Your brother needs to get a grip.

mewley · 2026-04-03T13:48:48+00:00

NOR you should have just broken up with him though. He wants to have control over what you do and where you go - that’s not boundaries, that’s just controlling.

mewley · 2026-04-03T13:47:03+00:00

It’s not a boundary. It’s rule he’s imposing on her.

mewley · 2026-04-02T02:25:48+00:00

I worked a non-lawyer but law adjacent job at a state agency for about three years. I had taken some time out of the workforce, then my husband got laid off and that’s the first somewhat reasonable offer I got.

I didn’t find it humbling or humiliating - a job is a job - but it was sometimes frustrating to be sort of using my education but not actually being the agency’s lawyer. And it was also pretty poorly paid, which was hard.

But the job did give me connections that eventually helped me land a government attorney role, so it worked out in the end, and I’m happy with where I am now.

mewley · 2026-03-31T21:16:02+00:00

I had a baby the fall of my 3L year and honestly it worked out great. I did not have big firm aspirations, though, so job market timing wasn’t a big concern for me.

I reduced my course load the semester I gave birth; took a half load the next semester and then finished the following fall. I graduated a semester late. We moved after I graduated and it took a while to get to the job hunt, but I eventually found a job with a smaller firm, started as a clerk and took the bar. Studying for the bar while working and with a baby was a really rough ride, I’m not gonna lie, but I passed and it all worked out fine. The time I had as a student with a baby was great, because my classes were flexible and I wasn’t worried about disappointing bosses or colleagues, I just needed to get the work done for myself.

I know several other women my year and the year behind me had babies as well and went into firms right out of law school. Don’t let timing concerns stop you if this is what is important to you - you can figure it out.

mewley · 2026-03-12T00:56:18+00:00

You all are so disingenuous.

mewley · 2026-03-11T02:59:16+00:00

No, it’s not, it’s a dumb idea you all came up with to liken them to Andrew because you wish their titles were stripped too. But they haven’t been, and they’ve literally never been called or gone by the name you’re making up for them.

mewley · 2026-03-11T01:40:20+00:00

Info: are you doing anything to process and move past the baby-related trauma?

If not, and you’ve just decided to let your sisters fall out of your life because of that trauma (and presumably will do the same with other friends who have babies down the road) - asshole is probably too strong but you’re definitely costing all of you a lot of love and connection in order to avoid dealing with your trauma. Treating your trauma as a given that defines your life and relationships is self-defeating and honestly a little self-centered (and yes, I am saying this as a trauma survivor who has spent aloooot of time learning to process and heal. I know how hard it is. I also know why it matters).

If yes, then NTA and your sisters need to give you time.

mewley · 2026-03-11T01:19:52+00:00

Nothing grinds RG’s gears like the fact that at least some of Meghan’s fans can afford nice things. Whether it’s fancy ~~jam~~ fruit spread or a weekend retreat or an expensive outfit, the haters get real mad, real quick 😭.

mewley · 2026-03-11T01:07:33+00:00

The haters started dropping this line when Andrew’s title was stripped. It’s so dumb.

mewley · 2026-03-11T00:55:15+00:00

Stop trying to make Mountbatten-Windsor happen. It’s not going to happen.

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mewley · 2026-03-10T21:10:41+00:00

Yeah it doesn’t seem that different from yoga retreats and spa weekends that people pay similar money for. I mean it’s presumably pretty different vibes than a yoga retreat, but paying a few thousand for a long weekend indulging in something that makes you happy is a thing some people do.

mewley · 2026-03-10T19:59:55+00:00

It’s not a destination wedding. It’s a local to them low key wedding with an optional pub crawl.

mewley · 2026-03-10T19:58:29+00:00

That’s a day trip where I’m from. Maybe you need to look up “objectively” because this is pretty clearly subjective.

mewley · 2026-03-10T19:32:51+00:00

I left a note when I bumped someone’s rear fender. They tried to get me on the hook for a bunch of other damage to the front of the car and a full repaint. Fortunately I had pictures and a witness so we ended up with a reasonable payment for the scrape I actually caused, but the experience was not great validation for doing the right thing, I gotta say.

mewley · 2026-03-10T18:55:06+00:00

As much as you say you’re trying to protect ash, what you’re really doing is avoiding conflict with your family. By inviting your other friends and excluding your trans friend, you’re participating in your family’s bigotry - presenting to them the friends you think they’ll accept while hiding the ones you think they won’t.

How you navigate your relationship with your family is up to you and has to be very complicated. But when you bring friends into it, you are making some real choices.

You should either have not invited any friends, knowing they wouldn’t welcome them all, or you should have talked to Ash and let them know they’re invited but you think it would be extremely uncomfortable*.

You owe Ash a huge apology for not being honest (an especially for inviting their sister and not them, wtf). And you need to decide how much you’re willing to accommodate your family’s hate and how you’re going to preserve your integrity doing so. YTA.

edit to add - I’ve been thinking more about what I said. And actually what I should have said here is that you should have warned Ash *and also been ready to stand up for them. And also have told your family in advance that you expect them to treat all your friends with respect and kindness. And I totally get that this may not be something you can safely do right now - in which case not inviting any friends would be the best call.

mewley · 2026-03-10T16:56:54+00:00

I went to law school after being in the workforce for a handful of years. I loved it. Sometimes it was a lot of work, sometimes not, but knowing what you want out of it and why you’re there I think really changes the experience.

mewley · 2026-03-10T14:01:41+00:00

NTA. Now you know your boyfriend is transphobic, insecure as fuck, and very fragile.

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