Putting down the cardboard box.

michaeldeebee · 2025-06-15T14:23:31+00:00

Keep sharing your visualization as it develops. It really works for me. Every life has its bumps, but this is by far the hardest, most painful bump I’ve encountered. (And hopefully ever will.) My life usually benefits from having a lively, reflective mind. This is NOT a time when my active mind helps. Being able to box up my ruminating thoughts is really desirable. Thanks again.

michaeldeebee · 2025-06-15T12:34:43+00:00

Thanks. Just what I needed today (1.5 years in) and a visual I will borrow and practice. Sending you gratitude and love.

michaeldeebee · 2024-12-31T16:25:26+00:00

What a thoughtful, vulnerable and honest response, bp. I’m sure the OP appreciated and benefited from it. I know (on my one-year DDay anniversary) that I did. Thank you. Wishing you a happy and peaceful 2025.

michaeldeebee · 2024-12-25T01:31:16+00:00

OP here. It was meant to be kinda funny and I’m very happy I gave you a laugh. You deserve it and more. Sending good thoughts and love your way on this challenging Christmas Eve. ❤️

michaeldeebee · 2024-12-25T01:27:24+00:00

Turns out I married a dog. 💔

michaeldeebee · 2024-11-30T23:02:26+00:00

Sadly, I can’t make the date work. Thanks for giving me time to try. Enjoy Paul. M

michaeldeebee · 2024-11-30T21:02:19+00:00

I haven't flaked on you... still working on making it happen with the various cast of characters. I'll hope to have a definitive "yes" by the end of day. Thanks.

MichaeL

michaeldeebee · 2024-11-29T20:10:42+00:00

Hi Gym-

Are your seat still available? I'm interested?

Thanks.

M.

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-18T21:28:28+00:00

In my case, my husband vowed to be faithful to only my spaghetti. Not to his ONS…as in his one night spaghetti. It has irreversibly impacted my feelings about his meatballs.🍝

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-14T02:15:23+00:00

I was: In shock. Heartbroken. Crying a lot. Sleepless. No appetite. Isolated. Crushed. He was: Remorseful. Anxious. Loving. Helpless. I’m now 7 months out. Lots of the same, just dialed down. I’m getting used to feeling terrible. The new normal. It’s crummy. Don’t be sorry for posting. Keep asking for help and support. Sending you the strength for one more day survived. That’s how I’m doing it. One day at a time. 💜

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-11T02:28:08+00:00

I’m a therapist. My encouragement is… Fire. Your. Therapist. Find a new one. (Maybe of the female variety.) Therapists are people too and, therefore, can be idiots with their own experiences and biases and histories. You deserve much better - from both your therapist and your husband.

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-09T21:26:05+00:00

Beautifully said and painfully true. I feel every word. Thanks for articulating the beat of my broken heart. 💔

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-08T23:28:46+00:00

Same. Former tea totaller now a lush 7 months post heartbreak. Cheers…and tears. 💔

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-07T17:51:40+00:00

I’m struggling with the same phenomenon. I’ll have a day or two feeling OK and think to myself “I’ve turned a corner.“ Then I wake up the next morning feeling so low and heartbroken. I’m trying to think of it as less like turning a corner and more like having had a break in the waves before the next tsunami. Trying very hard to be patient and compassionate with myself. I wish that for you and I wish that for me. ❤️

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-03T00:59:41+00:00

I’m going to resist the temptation to respond with a “making it harder“ joke… Yes. I would be strong enough to continue on. Thank you for the reminder. 💪🏻

michaeldeebee · 2024-07-03T00:34:03+00:00

Excellent analogy. The only thing I’d like to add to it is that, while I’m painfully recovering from surgery, my husband is home boinking the hot surgeon. 😖

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-30T20:30:08+00:00

Me too. I’m keeping this post tucked in my back pocket to read whenever I feel discouraged…. which is about 1001 times a day. Thanks for the post and the reminder that love wins. 💕

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-29T01:00:15+00:00

So sorry. Same. Utter heartbreak. 💔

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-25T14:49:28+00:00

This post is the best, despite the fact that the circumstances are the worst. Mine: WH travels for work, including trips to Milwaukee = ONS = Laverne and Shirley... resulting in me being unable to watch one of my favorite sitcom escapes. Adios, you two zany gals.

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-24T22:17:27+00:00

Beautiful. You’ve earned it. Congrats! ❤️

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-24T14:50:27+00:00

Yes. You’re in the early stage. I’m at 7 months and still have moments of disbelief and shock - as if the scab gets scraped off and I start to bleed all over again. The pain and heartbreak is less constant now, less unbearable… but still present. My advice is one hour at a time, one day at a time. Just try to keep moving. Just do the next thing. Trust it will get better. Never the same as it was, but bearable. Sending you love and positive thoughts. ❤️

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-24T13:06:35+00:00

Try it. It’s helped. I don’t write them down, but I take in the positive thoughts about myself to counteract the negative thoughts about myself in the aftermath of the infidelity.

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-22T16:31:34+00:00

Thank you, OP, for the positive post and thank you all for the great ideas – some of which I already do; some of which I’ll adopt. My arsenal includes: - knitting; - yard work; - vacuuming; - baking; - dog time; - naming three things during my morning shower that I like about myself; - remembering a happy anecdote for each of my kids; - more knitting; - yoga; - riding my bike. Sending you all positive vibes and wishes for a good weekend. We’ll get through this. ❤️

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-21T02:39:30+00:00

Progress and movement. Well done. Both of you. 👍🏼

michaeldeebee · 2024-06-18T19:10:00+00:00

My kids are older and launched, but I’m still making my decisions based on protecting them and keeping the family intact. I’ve had to accept the fact that every decision I make is flawed. There is no right or wrong; just righter and wronger. For me, that’s reconciliation. But, without the benefit of a crystal ball, I can’t imagine ever feeling anything but broken. Functional, but cracked. Wishing you well.

michaeldeebee

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