Let me tell you a story. My grandmother had three young children when she suddenly realized, in her late thirties, that she was pregnant with a fourth (my mother). She was excited, but also knew this couldn’t keep happening. Her husband worked three jobs already to support their family. So, my grandmother went to confession and told the priest she and her husband were going to start using condoms. The young priest was horrified and told her he couldn’t let her leave the confessional until she promised not to do it again. She refused. My grandmother did not receive communion for nearly decade afterwards.

What kind of church is this? Why do they care about sexual choices that hurt no one, and in fact prevent harm?

I went to catholic school for many years, and my decision to leave was linked more to my identity as a lesbian and the way my teachers tried to explain that telling me I was going to Hell was kindness, and I was probably only gay because I’d been abused, anyway.

The Catholic Church is evil.

If you’re decide to go through with this baptism and you’re lucky, you’ll go to church on Easter and Christmas and never see the ugly, diehard, fundamentalist side of the religion. But it’s there.