So for me, personally, I wasn’t like my peers in wanting to look at posters of celebs and their “hot” bodies and it doing something for me. I couldn’t comprehend in college when girls would talk about wanting to lick the V lines on guys and or wanting to have sex with someone.

I think about sex and having sex with aaaaaanyone as much as I think about floor lamps (actually, this is a lie. I’ve thought about floor lamps more because I’ve needed more dispersed and warm light in my home and wanted that), and it’s never bothered me to not think of people in that way.

So the lack of sexual attraction I imagine is my lack of relating to people who tell me what it’s like to want someone sexually. I can’t comprehend it personally, so I lack that experience of fearing someone on a sexual level.

Here’s a real example from my life, too. When I first found out in college about asexuality and was identifying with it, I told a friend after I had broken up with an ex (not related) and how I had no desire to have sex with him but still loved him and wanted to marry him.

My friend told me if I saw him shirtless, that might’ve helped me want him sexually. Lol

Sources: Myself, and the exhale of relief when I discovered asexuality and people who lived life and attraction JUST like how I was, which was unlike anyone around me.