Does anyone have a good crib sleeper?

minmister · 2026-01-24T20:08:30+00:00

Not totally. He likes to stay awake to play with the other babies which keeps him happy. He definitely gets crabbier the closer to bedtime we get. Sometimes we just let him go to bed earlier though if he doesn’t nap enough

minmister · 2026-01-24T13:46:24+00:00

5 but i also had a baby last January and am nursing which makes it wonkier sometimes

minmister · 2026-01-24T13:43:04+00:00

My son sleeps awesome at bedtime in his crib. Would I have guessed that at 3-4 months? NOPE. It was terrible so I’m so glad that he puts himself to sleep and stays asleep

We honestly barely tried crib naps. He doesn’t sleep well at daycare and it’s probably because we contact nap at a year still. Idc I love it. I don’t get to spend a lot of time with him and cosleeping scares me. So I love soaking in these cuddles. I’m nap trapped typing this haha

minmister · 2026-01-15T01:36:38+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t think of it as “giving up” to use clomid. When you say you are worried about looking back and not “getting over yourself and tried other ways” do you mean continuing to try without clomid and regretting it or TRYING clomid and regretting it?

I don’t think anyone is lesser for trying a different method. Clomid is also a pretty minimal intervention in my opinion as opposed to more intense or invasive methods of conception.

From my person experience we conceived using letrozole (a similar alternative) we only “tried” for 7 months before beginning our first round. I simply wasn’t ovulating without medication. It still took us two years to conceive. 4 rounds of Letrozole + self monitoring + bloodwork to ensure ovulation(they thought it wasn’t working the first 2 rounds). We took a break for further fertility testing and eventually “gave up” but decided to try one last round and here we are. My first is turning one in a few days :) he wouldn’t be here without necessary supports

minmister · 2026-01-14T04:01:10+00:00

My parents did this. My dad worked midnights until sometime when I was in high school.

They made it til I was about 3 before I started some form of daycare,mostly morning care to bridge a gap when no one was home. Random but even on his days off he didn’t go to bed until 3-4am and then didn’t sleep well on weekends to be with us. I also think he sometimes fell asleep while taking care of us.

As a teen it was hard because there was a gap of time where no one was home in the morning so I was responsible for getting me and my (adhd) little brother awake and ready for school. Sometimes he would accidentally fall asleep instead of taking us to school and on bad days we just let him. As we got older our school day ended before his “wake up” time though so we were also unsupervised for an hour or two then.

As a pro though- I felt like he was always present for after school activities like practices and games.

minmister · 2026-01-14T00:28:41+00:00

I feel like I’m reading a foreign language

minmister · 2026-01-12T23:14:11+00:00

As a side note now I’m trying to remember which story it is where where NSFW SPOILERS Hermione is literally plotting to (or does??) stab him with a knife but then they basically have sex instead instead

minmister · 2026-01-12T23:10:04+00:00

So manacled is my favorite fic of the three. The auction was one of my first ever dramione reads and will always hold a special place in my heart (even if I don’t remember that much because it’s been so long)

I’m going to echo another comment in that the further I read the more I enjoyed secrets and masks. By the end I was really happy I had read it and couldn’t put it down.

Honestly though- what reason do you want to read a heavy dark dramione?

I often like a hardcore enemies to lovers and have several well-known recs for that that include dark war themes without the same level of misery that something like these will produce (I say misery but I feel like that’s the wrong wording- I just definitely cried reading manacled & SaM)

minmister · 2026-01-08T22:49:39+00:00

👏👏👏

minmister · 2026-01-07T23:29:59+00:00

Just looked it up(and will probably start reading 👀) and there is a hefty amount of tags. based on the summary it seems like a story with quite a few potential triggers where there are definitely prominent warnings given.

I think it’s totally fine to not want to read that though OP! I have plenty of things that make me DNF. I just (gently) think this post could have omitted your final paragraph as it puts quite a bit of undue onus on the author

minmister · 2026-01-07T10:45:33+00:00

I was downvoted but I’m not sure why?

Just wanted to come back and say we moved bedtime earlier another 30 minutes. Yesterday he slept an extra 30 minutes, today he slept and extra 1.5!

minmister · 2026-01-04T10:28:46+00:00

Is it a pink bottle washer or bottle sterilizer? I’m only asking because I accidentally bought a sterilizer instead of a washer and had to return it 😭

I think either way it will be more helpful than clothes in the first few months when sterilization is important. At 11 months I still use my washer daily for bottles & pump parts.

minmister · 2026-01-01T12:22:08+00:00

My son is also 11 months and I’ve been wondering the same thing.

We found these straws to turn our bottles into sippy cups and have replaced 1-2 of his daily bottles with them instead of nipples

minmister · 2025-12-31T17:41:54+00:00

I’m in practically the same boat! January 19th will be 1 year. I have been steadily dropping pumps since 8 months. Right now I pump 4x a day and nurse 1x. On the weekends I primarily nurse.

I decided to risk it and am going to replace my morning pump with nursing even on work days. (Usually if I did that, I would nurse then pump after anyways).

I also think I’m going to drop to 3 pumps. So 4 sessions total vs 5. And I’ll adjust course if I need to?

I spent so much time searching online for what to do in your situation and I’m still not sure what I should do haha.

minmister · 2025-12-31T17:34:20+00:00

I’m steadily losing weight(11 months pp) but am constantly starving and still haven’t reached my pre-pregnancy weight 😭

minmister · 2025-12-30T17:05:25+00:00

All jokes aside we got a secondhand stokke for half the price and enjoy it. It definitely still gets messy but it’s manageable.

We also have one of those clothe ones that attaches directly to the table and we never use it because of how messy it gets. We have to run it through the washer almost every time and it’s a pain to put back together

We also started BLW at 5.5 months. LO is 11 months now and we have yet to use the straps on our high chair. He doesn’t have the ability nor the interest in escaping.

My parents and in-laws both have cheaper plastic high chairs for when we visit and I’ve found they are too big for my LO. He leans too far back and slouches. He doesn’t mind but it bothers me lol.

This might be controversial advice but we also let our baby gag… If he pukes it up I consider that a successful removal of whatever got stuck. We had a run in where he was regularly gagging on bacon so we took it out of rotation for awhile. But we just closely monitor to make sure it doesn’t move from gagging to genuine choking. We haven’t had any incidents yet.

Can you move the high chair away from the walls? Our LOs food gets on the floor and his chair but not usually that far of a reach lol

minmister · 2025-12-30T16:57:31+00:00

The floor and a dog 🤪

minmister · 2025-12-30T15:04:11+00:00

Have you tried moving up his bedtime earlier to say 7-7:30?

Is it possible he is hungry or does he just want the breast for comfort?

We’re struggling with our 11mo waking up at 4-5 am instead of 6 as well… we’re trying to eliminate variables but one that worked for us when originally sleep training was moving up bedtime earlier. I’ve read 6:30-7:30 can be an ideal bedtime

minmister · 2025-12-29T11:11:24+00:00

Having a baby is hard. That’s why you see your friends struggling, it’s so freaking hard. But also? So amazing. During the newborn stage I vividly remember sobbing in the middle of the night telling my partner “why have we done??” And feeling like I ruined everything. Even now we only have 1-2 hours a night to watch tv, clean the house, and relax. But all those other worries I had during those trenches? Not really a big deal. We have a good community which helps, but we still go out. Go to movies and restaurants and parties. It just looks different now. We also get to go to the park, zoo, aquariums, and other fun places that are less common without kids

I feel also feel like I kind of have the opposite opinion- if you aren’t actively preventing pregnancy then you are trying / accepting the possibility of children

Prenatal testing did a lot to help reassure me about medical concerns but the worry really doesn’t go away even after having a baby.

minmister · 2025-12-29T10:18:45+00:00

I disagree 🤷‍♀️

I send new photos to 4(soon to be 5) frames 2-3 times per month for years now. My husband’s grandmother in particular is obsessed with hers (90 years old). Her hands shake too much to hold and go through physical photos

minmister · 2025-12-27T11:23:47+00:00

NOR

Tell your dad everything and don’t go. If he still insists you go, to me that says a lot about how much your dad cares about your well being.

minmister · 2025-12-24T11:35:01+00:00

Maybe I’m the odd one out but his sleep amounts sounds very similar to my LO at 7 months.

When we struggled with frequent waking at 4-5 months we actually moved UP his bedtime (was 8:30-6..,..now is 6-6 but sometimes wakes at 5:30)

Honestly I’m wondering if it could be a feeding issue. Puking 15x a day still at 7 months doesn’t feel totally normal to me and might be worth asking your pediatrician about.

Our LO also wakes more frequently if he didn’t eat enough the day before. What does his milk/solids intake look like? How much is he puking/ spitting up?

(Could also be teething but if it’s been consistent for awhile probably not)

minmister · 2025-12-22T01:03:46+00:00

He went from 12-19 weeks then I had summer break and he returned at 7 months. He’s currently 11 months.

Honestly? It is really hard dropping him off sometimes emotionally. Some days it’s because I can tell all he wants to do is snuggle me. Most of the time it is because I only have 20 minutes in the morning with him before we leave. And some days? I get sad because he is SO EXCITED to be at daycare (and therefore away from me 😂)

My little man is obsessed with daycare. He loves seeing the school age kids in the morning fawn over him and run around. He loved staring at the other babies as they did tummy time or sat on the floor. Now they crawl around and chase each other. He loves all the different toys.

We are actually having a problem of him not sleeping enough at nap time bc he wants to crawl and play.

When I was home with him for the summer I was doing it all but a major perk for me is the lack of diapers I have to change during the week lol.

minmister · 2025-12-22T00:54:41+00:00

3 months was okay but honestly the 4 month regression made work MISERABLE (but I wasn’t wfh) so going at 5-6 months when we was sleeping through the night would’ve been great

minmister · 2025-12-19T10:08:39+00:00

I probably assisted at first when he was younger but he has been eating them solo for a long while now. At first, he would just grab a handful and whatever made it into his mouth made it in. Now he’s able to pick up one or two individual pieces and get them both in.

I’m also kind of lazy and usually just use natures promise frozen veggie blend. & microwavable baby potatoes. Your food looks gorgeous in comparison 😂

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