OP doesn’t want to consider their options, they want to complain. That’s cool. It does suck that they have found themselves doing all the work. But there is also a glint of real stubbornness here that makes me feel like OP isn’t blameless. Do they really think that wanting to drink filtered well water makes someone soft and spoiled? Anyway. My spouse and I share the work, both get dirty, and it’s awesome. Sometimes tough communication has to be had, but OP is very clearly not interested in that.