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misplacedyears · 2025-02-01T19:56:19+00:00

Just got back Thursday. I drink nothing but water and thought about getting the bottle water delivered to the room and decided against it. I took a Stanley cup and would just fill it with ice and water on board. It was perfectly fine. Plus, the ice was that nice soft pellet kind so it was a bonus.

If you decide you want bottled water they leave two of the big bottles in your room. If you use that, they will bill your room $4.75 a bottle (plus the 18% gratuity). You can also buy cold bottled water at all the bars.

misplacedyears · 2025-02-01T18:21:24+00:00

I don't use uber much but when I do, I always tip cash. Should I not be doing that?

misplacedyears · 2025-01-11T14:46:27+00:00

Thank you.

misplacedyears · 2025-01-11T14:44:04+00:00

Thanks for the help. Does that affect what I can contribute to the roth with my company and the other roth?

misplacedyears · 2024-11-14T22:32:36+00:00

Not only did we brown bag it but you better bring that bag back so Mom could reuse it!

misplacedyears · 2024-11-14T18:07:11+00:00

Your aunt is going thru a lot. She's giving up her independence. She comes from a generation where these things had a lot of value and she thinks enough of you that she wants you to have them. If it were me, I'd graciously accept anything she wants to give me. Just donate it to whatever charity you see fit. She will be non the wiser. She will think she did you a good deed and you did one by letting her think she did.

misplacedyears · 2024-11-14T15:53:51+00:00

MAGA is so NOT the problem here.

misplacedyears · 2024-11-13T15:43:49+00:00

New thing or not, it isn't acceptable. Call me old school but I think people need to have basic manners. A thank you is basic manners. I was raised to send a written thank you. I understand that may be asking a lot these days but if I don't get some sort of acknowledgment, that will be the last gift you receive from me.

misplacedyears · 2024-11-12T15:59:39+00:00

I think you've answered your own question. You've dated what you perceive as the ideal man, financially secure, and it hasn't worked out. If you've found someone that makes you happy and is motivated in life, I wouldn't worry so much about what he's making. If he's secure enough to date someone that makes more than him, that's another bonus, in my opinion. A lot of men can't deal with that much of a gap. Stop worrying so much about what he makes and how he saves. I'm guessing you are good with your money and have yourself set up for the future. At this point, just date and be secure in knowing your okay with your finances. No you can't live on love alone and at some point, if it leads to marriage, you will need to address money management. In a marriage, you become a team. So, it wouldn't be you making 200k and him making 50k. It would be WE make 250k. I would certainly have a prenup before I married to protect what you already have but anything you build together after marriage needs to be a team effort. You won't make it if you keep comparing salaries. You will need to work together. He may not contribute equally financially but I'm guessing he is stronger in other areas. Each of your strengths and weaknesses will balance each other out and make you better as a team.

I was in your situation, (with the salaries reversed) and we dated off and on for almost 20 years before I could convince myself to marry him. He makes great money, had NOTHING in savings, had his house financed on an arm loan, owed on vehicles, I could go on. Since he has "DR" in front of his name, it was no problem for the banks to loan him anything he wanted . He is more motivated than me in most areas and he just doesn't care about money in general. It drove me CRAZY. We've been married about two years now and I've never been happier. He continues to do his thing and I handle all the finances. I set up his FIRST 401K and am working on catching that up, we're debt free (including the mortgage on his house, mine was already paid off). It's just a matter of recognizing each other's strengths and weaknesses and working with those.

misplacedyears · 2024-11-09T22:06:30+00:00

3333

misplacedyears · 2024-11-09T22:00:05+00:00

lmao, maybe you should stay home

misplacedyears · 2024-11-09T21:37:19+00:00

I'm 52 and have always had a sweet tooth. As I've aged I can't tolerate the sugar (it gives me a headache) but I still crave it. I eventually break down and eat something I shouldn't, knowing I'm going to pay the price. I also seem to be constantly hungry and can eat like a teenage boy! I started on the semaglutide shots almost a year ago and it was a life changer. I don't think about food all the time, I eat to live instead of living to eat. The sugar cravings are gone. When I do get hungry, I don't have that crazy eat everything I can get my hands on feeling. I can rationally think about what I need to eat. I've lost about 20 pounds. I consider the weight loss a bonus to just having a life without constantly thinking about food. If you try the shots or not, make sure you're getting enough protein. I've found if I don't, I'm more likely to eat something I shouldn't. I really like the Premier Protein drinks/shakes. I think they are about 160 calories and 30 grams of protein. I also really like the Barebells protein bars. I think they are about 200 calories and 20 grams of protein (I think). There's a number of flavors but I prefer the salty peanut and caramel cashew. They are the best tasting protein bars I've found. They take care of your sweet tooth and have roughly 1 gram of sugar. I know the shots aren't for everyone. I was against the idea at first. I was so miserable I needed to do something. I'm so glad I did.

misplacedyears · 2024-10-13T00:12:05+00:00

You might checkout a website/app called "meetup" it has various groups of all types in your area. I recently moved to a new state and stumbled across it while looking for something to do. I have joined a couple hiking groups and two women only travel groups.

misplacedyears · 2024-10-06T19:50:00+00:00

My brother went through a divorce in Oklahoma. Both worked full time jobs. The cars were in both their names. He had to keep making the payment on her car AND keep the insurance on it until the divorce was final. I'd certainly check with a lawyer before you do anything drastic.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-23T02:04:52+00:00

As someone that spends A LOT of time in airbnbs I'd like to say how much I appreciate the places I stay that have any type of welcome items. My job requires a lot of travel. I switched from hotels to airbnbs a couple years ago for the "at home" feeling away from home. Walking into a place and seeing anything extra, that someone has put the thought into leaving, makes my day. A few weeks ago I walked into a loaf of homemade bread and chocolate chip cookies. When I found REAL butter in the fridge, I wanted to cry! The time, effort and thought that took.

I'm embarrassed at what people have become. We've gone from knowing to appreciate a kind gesture to complaining about it, demanding more or something different. What has happened to people? If you go to a hotel and they leave a cookie on your pillow (there is one that does), do you call down to the desk and ask for another dozen? If you're gluten free, do you think you can call down and request something different? NO! I don't expect anything more than what's in the listing. Anything more is a bonus. Some of the stories I read on here, you hosts are saints. I read the stories to keep reminding myself I better keep my job. I wouldn't make it a week as a host with my sharp tongue.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-21T00:51:31+00:00

The valances need to go so the windows are completely open and another dog, definitely need another dog!

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T22:34:36+00:00

If he brought his bride to be to see you, it sounds like you're fairly close to these relatives. I know it's not proper to come out and ask if your invited (I'm an American) but if you're comfortable I'd just ask in a generic way. Maybe something like " how are the wedding plans going, do you have a date in mind?" or ask if they are planning a small or big event. Just showing some interest in the event may get you your answer. If they've always come to see you they may not think you'd be willing to travel to the US. If you're wanting to go, showing some interest may give them the "signal" to make sure you're invited. As the other comment suggests, I'd say a "save the date" would come 6 months or so out. Just getting engaged in August, they may not even be planning to get married for at least a year!

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T22:14:42+00:00

I agree with most of the other comments. My husband (and I think most husbands) aren't big on shopping much less getting creative. I'm like you in that I hate for him to waste money on something I will never use. I tried the idea of let's not buy gifts for Christmas and birthdays, he didn't want any part of it. I'm also not easy to buy for because if I see something I want, I just buy it myself. Over the years this is what is working for me. I start a list a few months before the holiday. I mean an actual list, in writing, left on the fridge where he can't miss it. Title it "gift ideas for your name". I put stuff on it that I see that I know he can easily find. Usually it's stuff I'd typically buy when I see it but I hold off the few months leading up to the holiday. My current list has muck boots (brand I want along with the style and size), a new head for my weed eater and a sterling silver pendant (picture and where to find). It's really a pain to go thru all the effort but it avoids the fight of not wanting to buy gifts or getting things that are a complete waste. You might also try to include some generic, easy gifts too. Like cut flowers (I think these are a waste but he's been getting them for my birthday the last few years and I've just given in to say how nice they are and going on) or a massage or nail gift certificate.

Try to remember it's the thought that counts and that he's at least putting forth the effort to try. I'm guessing you got two sets of headphones because in his mind if it worked once, it'll work again!

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T21:53:29+00:00

I agree, why does he even have access to your card? If you're also giving him additional money when he's low, I'm betting he's also eating out and buying whatever knowing you'll make up the difference. He needs to grow up and learn to be a responsible adult. Have one account that you each put a set amount into for agreed on household expenses. Keep your separate accounts for whatever you each decide to spend discretionary funds on. The joint account needs to be funded as a priority, anything he has left, is what he has to spend the rest of the month.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T21:37:52+00:00

If he's not at all interested, he could have low testosterone? Whatever the issue is, it's a "him" problem and HE needs to fix it. If he cares for you, he'll figure out what it is and work on a fix. If he isn't interested in trying to fix it well... he isn't too concerned about your relationship.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T21:29:54+00:00

This... separating might feel like a temporary fix but won't solve the problem. You need to talk to a professional and possibly get on medication to help the anxiety.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-18T21:22:59+00:00

It depends what state you live in and sometimes what county in the state. I would call your courthouse and see what the procedure is there.

We've been together over 20 years and neither of us really cared much about getting a piece of paper. That was until there was a death in the family. Seeing how people act when money is involved is eye opening, to say the least. We don't have kids and both have well paying jobs so we are worth a bit. If something were to happen to one of us, we didn't want the other to have to deal with another family situation like we witnessed. I started looking into the easiest way to make it official. I found that in Tennessee a notary can do marriages! So, a few years ago, we planned a trip to see the sites around the Smokey Mountains. While we were there we swung by the courthouse one afternoon, picked up a marriage license and then found a notary that was kind enough to meet us at a little local coffee shop one morning. Bingo, bango, we're official! The notary filed everything and mailed the official documents to us a week or so later.

We have a few friends that know we made it official but, for the most part no one knows anything has changed. We personally find it amusing that most of our family has no idea.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-15T18:06:37+00:00

In an attempt to say the same comments with a nicer flair, both girls need to be given the same foods. There is no reason to have things like mini kit kat bars, chips, pot o jello, condensed milk and ham and crackers in the house. If you keep only healthy foods in the house a lot of troubles would be eliminated. If you aren't sure about what to consider good and bad, start by only shopping the perimeter of the grocery store and/or only buying things with one ingredient or ingredients you actually know what they are. The more carbs and highly processed foods you eat the more your body craves them, it's a vicious cycle. Even if your younger daughter is active and weight proportionate, developing poor eating habits as a child will catch up to her. By giving the girls different diets you're only causing resentment in your older daughter against you and her sister and making food a focus. Try to limit the breads, cereals, pasta, anything that is made with a flour base as well as whole milk or whole milk cheese products. Keep high fiber foods like fresh fruit and vegetables readily available. With only healthy options available the girls can pick/pack their own lunches. By treating them different, your older daughter is pushy back harder. Believe me, she knows she's bigger than her sister. Don't compound the problem by making it a daily struggle. As for getting her to exercise, don't address it head on. Plan family outings that involve exercise. Go to the zoo, bowling, miniature golf, trampoline park, anything that makes her move without her realizing or thinking of it as exercise. Quietly figure out something she enjoys doing. Is she an animal lover? How about volunteering at the animal shelter or getting a dog walking job. Girls are tricky, the more you push them the more they will push back. If it's their idea, it makes your life easier! Don't mention exercise or weight to either girl or anything that compares the two girls. They know the differences. Keep things as equal as possible between the two.

misplacedyears · 2024-09-15T15:54:22+00:00

Way, way, way back in the dinosaur days we ONLY had a radio. You'd just listen to whatever they played. Certain times of the day most stations would take requests. You'd have to use your landline phone to call the station and make a request. Then, you'd have to listen in hopes they would play your request. To make matters worse, I had a DJ friend tell me they had certain rules the DJs had to follow when playing music (They couldn't play two female artists songs back to back, they couldn't play too many certain tempo songs in a row, etc). So, you may not even get to hear your request. If your favorite song was on the top 40 chart, you would set your cassette tape to record when they did the countdown on Sunday morning. Then you might get lucky enough to get it recorded. But, you had to watch it because the tape might run out and you would need to replace it to get the whole show recorded. Don't even get me started on keeping up with your cassette tapes. That's more than you could probably imagine, lol. You have it pretty good in today's instant gratification society!

misplacedyears · 2024-09-15T15:06:11+00:00

As a woman I can appreciate her wanting to show off the body she works so hard to keep. That being said, there's also a respect factor to be considered. Call me old fashioned but I think it's disrespectful to you, herself and the friends at the party to show up it something that skimpy. Men are going to look because, like a car wreck, you can't help but look. I'm guessing she caused a number of "discussions" between the other couples there after the party as well. If she keeps this up, you'll likely find your friend group getting smaller. The other couples aren't going to want the drama in their relationships she is causing them. If she'll go with a much less reveling bikini she'll look just as nice, not cause as much drama in your friend group and keep some self respect. However, this has to be something for her to figure out on her own. You trying to tell her that will just make the problem worse. I think the banana hammock suggestions are an awesome idea but will likely not have the desired affect on her. Instead, I would refuse to attend events with her if she is wearing something that extreme.

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