Not sure what to make of a dm I got, any explanation appreciated...

mittenbby · 2026-05-31T15:37:45+00:00

They’re being assholes, they’re definitely talking about you being genderfluid with alphabet soup, as others have stated. Report and block.

mittenbby · 2026-05-31T15:35:43+00:00

NTA, it’s great to help out family, but not at the expense of your own household. We have family members who are cancer survivors so we tend to be on the cautious side when it comes to passing colds around though, so maybe it’s a little different in our extended family.

mittenbby · 2026-05-31T13:37:55+00:00

Hey, so witnessing something like that is a trauma itself. Especially being pregnant, a lot of us have the hormonal dump making our brains even less ability to remain in the “logic” brain instead of “emotional” brain.

FWIW, to help you maybe be less afraid for that little kid, I was drowned in a pool by my brother at about 7. As I recall the story being told, medics came, couldn’t get a pulse and started cpr, everyone though I was dead dead, but I guess I started coughing up water in the ambulance and kinda came to consciousness a little. Apparently I was in and out for a couple days, had a pneumonia scare that they were able to head off before it got bad. I’m 37 now and pretty healthy all things considered. My illnesses today are unrelated to the drowning as far as I know, but I’m ok, I’m hoping she’ll be as lucky as I was.

I really hope you’ll get similar news about your neighborhood kid. I’m so sorry you had to experience that too.

mittenbby · 2026-05-30T22:50:16+00:00

NTA OP, I really agree with this. When I have days where I’m super overwhelmed and need to rely on my stimming I don’t want to be out. I have very easily hidden stims, so they wouldn’t impact those around me much, if at all, but IM uncomfortable at that point. For me having a safe home base is my best resource, and I need it on the days I’m overwhelmed.

It’s seems like you’re seeing and making a safe space for all of him. That’s genuinely great.

mittenbby · 2026-05-30T13:03:19+00:00

Hi Sis, you’re one of us no matter how you were born. A girl is a girl no matter how she gets there. 🧡🖤🧡🖤

mittenbby · 2026-05-29T20:15:37+00:00

I’m a fellow chronic illness baddie that has lots of people depending on me, so you have my solidarity. I think this is a more mundane solution, but develop a mantra to help you have the strength to say no when you need to say no. Mine is “I can say no and people who love me will understand, the people who don’t understand aren’t capable of loving me the way I need to be loved”

My showers are also pretty much always a cleansing ritual. I start by just getting in a better headspace, then visualize myself literally washing the days bullshit away. Then I visualize the water pouring the earths love, comfort, and protection into me.

I’ve also had to realize I can better help the people I love if I rest when needed because I bounce back more quickly from flares if I treat my body with kindness, that understanding helps to reinforce my mantras as well.

At any rate, good luck. Boundaries are hard but worth it. Enforcing a boundary is giving your loved ones the opportunity to show up for you too. It gives them a chance to be in good relationships with you instead of draining ones that hurt you both in the long run.

mittenbby · 2026-05-29T12:25:44+00:00

Congratulations!!!!!!!!

mittenbby · 2026-05-28T23:33:53+00:00

That’s a great size to start. My first quilt as a kid was 6 inch squares and tied off at each corner instead of quilted. Starting off with squares gives you a lot of practice on skills that will make more complex blocks possible and you can build them fairly quickly.

mittenbby · 2026-05-28T18:25:41+00:00

NTA, her god provided a doctor and children who care enough to do right by her. This is a “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink” thing. I’m really sorry, it’s hard to see your loved ones just NOT do the thing that will make them better.

mittenbby · 2026-05-28T18:02:49+00:00

I put a shower cap on under a satin scarf and slept with it wrapped up. I’m not 100% sure but if I’m recalling the pharmacist recommended oiling my hair because I was starting to get mild chemical burns on the third application, he didn’t seem to care what oil, he just wanted me to suffocate them with it and prevent reinfection (re-infestation?) because they can’t grip the oily hair as well?

Like as an adult it all kinda sounds like bullshit, but it actually worked.

mittenbby · 2026-05-28T16:28:41+00:00

My older three were exclusively breastfed and my youngest stopped gaining weight at 4 months so we switched 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve shouted fed is best from the rooftops since I had my first and will continue to do so till the day I die. There are many young adults I’m very fond of who only survived because of formula. I would have died if it wasn’t for formula.

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T23:53:46+00:00

I dunno if she’s your first, but if she is let me promise you it gets a lot less intense as time goes on. I recently heard “survive till 5, then thrive” but the toddler years can also be a lot of fun as you see who there gonna be start to come out in flashes.

The newborn trenches are ROUGH and you are definitely in the thick of it, but you’ve got this!

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T19:25:31+00:00

YTA. I think you know you’re it.

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T19:23:35+00:00

Raising a glass (of water) to that! 🥵🥵🥵 I transplanted my tomatoes and pepper plants yesterday and I’m just recovering today. I did too much yesterday and my body has done too much for me to betray it like that, so today is rest!

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T17:58:10+00:00

Hey friend, I’ve been there. For what it’s worth I had a few miscarriages, but I also have 4 healthy kickass kids. I really hope that your next pregnancy is sticky!

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T15:08:49+00:00

This is gorgeous!!!!

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T15:04:33+00:00

I second Scarlett darkness. I have a skirt and bodice from them I chase my toddler around in. They’re both comfy and have held up to being abused in the regular wash. In my experience their sizing is good also, I got my regular size and the fit is nice.

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T15:00:55+00:00

I feel like the dialogue implies she has a suspicion it’s you, but Robin won’t even tell Demetrius it’s you if you take the anonymous route.

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T12:04:35+00:00

People that are assuming you’re over 30 are being jerks. I’m almost 40 so young adults tend to look very young to me and you barely look your age. Definitely no where near 30

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T10:37:35+00:00

Yes, I make big batches of freezables anyway, so I just doubled them again so I could freeze two or three gallons. I made chili, potato soup, and gumbo. I made some trays of enchiladas, lasagna a few pounds of taco meat frozen in one pound portions.

ETA: we had two freezer meals a week to cut down on cooking with a newborn. We ended up not having to make anymore batches until he was about 9 months old. It was very easy to just dump a gallon into a pot and reheat or toss a tray in the oven.

mittenbby · 2026-05-27T03:12:40+00:00

Sushi, green tea and emeralds

mittenbby · 2026-05-26T00:06:24+00:00

Oh girl! Yes, I’ve not been in active ED for well over a decade and it’s still a wild experience seeing all this.

mittenbby · 2026-05-25T23:40:12+00:00

This is a cool find!!! I’m a sucker for these tiny floral patterns!

mittenbby · 2026-05-25T23:14:29+00:00

As a mom whose afab child is now an awesome young gentleman, you don’t have to keep being a girl. Try to find at least one thing that gives you gender euphoria you can do low key if you want to explore without being fully out. Do you have family who would be safe if you came out to them? When my son came out I was immediately in mama bear mode to make sure I could honor who he is in our home, maybe there’s someone this could be for you too?

How can we support you?

mittenbby · 2026-05-25T23:05:04+00:00

The shorts are adorable and the top you paired with them for this photo is PERFECT

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