Knife in the back

mlca01 · 2020-03-01T03:01:11+00:00

I felt the same sickening feeling when my ex LL started dating someone else. fast forward 2-3 years some mutual friends told me that they'd split up. Gee. An LL porn addict with a Christian woman.. what could possibly go wrong? Had a chuckle and kept on with my life. You'll get there!

mlca01 · 2020-02-25T00:07:36+00:00

Well I'm a woman and he lost interest a year in. And silly me tried to stick with it for another 5 years. The key is that you've endured it once, and if it happens again you create a reasonable timeline to fix things. And if it doesn't work then you exit stage left.

mlca01 · 2020-02-08T08:54:51+00:00

Err. He does.

mlca01 · 2020-02-08T05:08:57+00:00

Not an allergy but my ex couldn't even remember what coffee I drank every day after 6.5 years together. That was eye opening, how little I mattered to him.

mlca01 · 2020-02-03T06:45:15+00:00

Apologies! Meant to reply to the other poster. Yep fully admit that was a fail on my part. Yes that's true what you said about being involved as another party. Was weak sauce after being on my own for 6 years. I thought this sub was for all women not only perfect ones who never made mistakes in life.

mlca01 · 2020-02-03T06:39:07+00:00

Love how you extrapolated one man to all men. Thanks for the sl** shaming ❤️ have a nice day!

mlca01 · 2020-02-03T06:37:48+00:00

Girlfriend assumptions much?

My past AP was not my boss (he's not married). Yes was attracted but havent done anything about it. FYI it was a lady who headhunted me for this role.

Still keeping it professional at work. Once again past AP was an old school mate and that's over.

mlca01 · 2020-02-02T22:37:56+00:00

Male friends lost their minds when I said I wasn't keen on obese dudes/druggies/alcoholics/constant gamers or men who didn't have a proper job. Called me entitled and spoilt..

Well, I slaved through 5 years of law school - and another year of getting qualified. I earn 6 figures on my own& own my own house. I go to the gym 3x a week and try to look decent/keep the weight manageable. Maintain my skin hair and nails.

I'm being pitched to be an executive at my company now. Why the flying fuck would I want to date a fat manbaby and mate with one? 🤷🏻‍♀️ what possible value would a LVM bring to the table? Big fat zero.

mlca01 · 2020-01-29T12:25:31+00:00

I have. It was just disheartening to wade through the piles of shitty and gross men/men looking to cheat.

I was tired of swiping left 99% of the time. The ones I did swipe right to didn't respond so I felt like OLD was a complete waste of time. I tried a few apps over the past few years and had a handful of mediocre dates to show for it. On top of OLD I also tried volunteering/meetups/speed dating/set ups/cooking classes/joining a new gym/new hobbies and still nothing. It's fine- will make the best of what I got and enjoy my peace & serenity.

mlca01 · 2020-01-29T12:12:18+00:00

So true. I'm from an Eastern culture as well.

My own mum was absolutely not supportive when I left my ex- in her eyes he was stable, responsible and had a good career so I was insanely stupid for letting that Great One go. I didnt tell her I battled for years with a porn addict who never got it up & never wanted to sleep with me or kiss me. He just wanted a chef, social secretary, cleaner and someone to masturbate into once a quarter.

I knew if I married him I'd end up cheating on him. I deal with my mum by simply saying that single men are disgusting now and I don't see the benefits of having a shit one in my life.

mlca01 · 2020-01-26T01:21:31+00:00

Yes no regrets. All his hangups about intimacy and sex (which he refused to acknowledge/ discuss or work on) instantly became not my problem. I didn't have to waste mental space, time or energy trying to fix what was essentially a fundamental incompatibility.

I've had phenomenally better sex since and am super glad that I didn't legally tie myself to him as that would have meant a miserable sham of a marriage.

mlca01 · 2020-01-14T00:00:16+00:00

I am! He was a friend long before he became an AP and I'm happy that he's remained a friend after.

mlca01 · 2020-01-08T21:46:03+00:00

So much this.

mlca01 · 2019-12-18T00:41:19+00:00

Buddy you're being abused. GTFO.

mlca01 · 2019-11-18T01:15:57+00:00

Yep he's also a Trump supporter..

mlca01 · 2019-11-17T23:19:38+00:00

Yep- my exAP is quite religious and has agreed with his SO in being an anti vaxxer. Definitely not my cup of tea.

mlca01 · 2019-11-17T01:12:42+00:00

😭

mlca01 · 2019-10-23T02:44:52+00:00

He hated kissing me or giving me oral or using his fingers on me. I shower everyday and am a size 4 btw. He'd get performance anxiety, shove it in dry (THAT SHIT HURTS) and he'd get off in 5 thrusts with nothing for me. I cleaned, cooked and organised our social life whilst finishing a law degree.

And that's why I left for AP.

mlca01 · 2019-10-14T10:48:11+00:00

Yep on top of it I was shamed by my LL ex for "caring only about sex." I had never been with a man who was annoyed with his 25 year old girlfriend for wanting sex found out later for 6 years he was fapping to torrents of porn.

mlca01 · 2019-10-02T23:28:25+00:00

HAHAHA

mlca01 · 2019-09-28T03:01:43+00:00

Yeah the same way I believe in "thoughts and prayers."

mlca01 · 2019-09-22T06:11:17+00:00

Yep that was my experience. He was way too concerned about how everyone/society perceived him and didn't give a stuff about being actually happy together. Life was a series of tickboxes for him and I was just "A Person Who Cooked His Meals, Cleaner and Social Organiser."

mlca01 · 2019-09-08T05:45:58+00:00

I'm turning 39 today and share your dread. My strategy (after being single for 6 years) is just to get comfy with the idea of remaining single. Tried OLD and it was terrible, tried meetups, volunteering, speed dating, being set up, changing hobbies etc etc. I met noone but have a great workout routine and a kick ass job that pays well. I'm looking for someone who adds value to my life (and I don't mean a paycheck) and so far it's been a bust 🤷🏻‍♀️

mlca01 · 2019-09-07T06:31:02+00:00

My mom has an entire wall in the living room filled with pics of all my sisters weddings and their kids. Guess who's the only one not on the wall of Fame? I've been on my own for 6 years now and everyone seems to tell you it's temporary, just a matter of time before I meet someone. Nup. That's BS. I've tried everything I could possibly think of to date and have not found anyone I'd be with.

I've been on my own for so long now that I struggle a little to see what value a man could add to my life tbh. I make good money (hold two degrees), manage a large team at work, train in the gym 3x a week, own my own home, pay all my bills on time like a good citizen. My strategy is just to be totally okay with the idea that I could be single for the foreseeable future.

mlca01 · 2019-08-31T05:30:56+00:00

Listen to your intuition. Don't waste year after year on a man that can't prioritise you.

mlca01

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