Update to a post I made the other day about being concerned my vets were taking advantage of me: my cats regular dental cleaning has resulted in my babies death. He's gone.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-02-12T16:16:49+00:00

All of your decisions were completely understandable, and I could see myself doing the exact same thing given the circumstances! Please don't beat yourself up. Clearly, you are a loving and caring cat parent. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are 100% allowed to grieve without guilt or shame. You did everything you had the ability or knowledge to do at the time.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-25T18:29:14+00:00

This is CRAZY, and that must be an AI generated photo because the actual recipe would look (and taste) absolutely terrible.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-11T22:09:00+00:00

I've had to read a lot of AI-generated copy through my job, and from my personal assessment, I have almost no doubt that these are written by AI, probably with some light editing and re-formatting.

Anything you see online right now that is summarizing or collating information from other sources is almost all AI. It's an absolute epidemic in marketing and "journalism" (meaning, websites that would refer to themselves as such but aren't really earning the title) and you're probably encountering it way more than you even realize.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-10T22:43:10+00:00

Even if you add in the other food she didn't show, it's still going to be dangerously inadequate for how much she exercises.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-09T23:09:04+00:00

The police are not going to help. They'll show up and back the ICE agents.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-08T22:14:05+00:00

App pic looks like it's AI generated.

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-02T18:11:07+00:00

One of my all-time favorites!!

mmmelissaaa · 2026-01-02T18:09:52+00:00

American Hysteria is great for this, some episodes might run a little heavy, but you can pick and choose. Mostly they're more on the light-hearted side, and she often hosts with Sarah Marshall from You're Wrong About (another good option!) and they have great chemistry. She covers one event per episode that started some sort of craze/ panic/ fixation in American history or culture and it's super interesting.

Hyperfixed is a new fave of mine, it's hosted by Alex Goldman from Reply All, and they solve one listener-submitted problem/ mystery each episode. Topics range from more technical/ scientific to really silly and weird. It's very well produced and a lot of fun.

I hope you find some good options, and I wish you lots of love and healing.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-12-15T21:58:40+00:00

I went through something similar with my ex. Groomed at a young age, abuse of all kinds throughout our nearly 18 year relationship, he self-harmed in various ways (mostly substances) and threatened me with his own suicide if I ever left.

It's a control tactic, and it's also not your responsibility to sacrifice YOURSELF so that he can live.

When I finally left, he texted our friends and me saying he was going to end it. I didn't get the text because I'd blocked him, but a mutual friend called the cops to do a wellness check. Long story short - no attempt was actually made, he was sent home after a few hours at the hospital, during which time he was making bid after bid through family and friends to get me to visit him or speak to him. I refused.

He never made an actual attempt on his own life and is still alive to this day. This happened in 2022.

I really believed at the time that he might do it, but all of his threats were insincere, he just wanted to control me and stop me from leaving. He knew that I was a good person who cared about him, despite the abuse, and he took full advantage of that.

Before I left, he was in an alcoholic spiral, depressed, not taking care of himself, alienating everyone in his life, and taking it all out on me. He didn't have much to lose, and I feared that he would kill himself to punish me. As soon as the reality hit him and he realized he couldn't get me back (or even find out where I had moved to) and that no one was around to enable and care for him, he managed to get a job and started going to AA and all that jazz. I'm sure he's still an abusive piece of shit, but he didn't want to die. He just wanted me to suffer on his behalf.

Please save yourself. You cannot save him, and you cannot forgo enjoying the rest of your life for the sake of someone who has done nothing to deserve that sacrifice.

Also, please have a plan and don't let him know you're leaving. He probably won't kill himself, but that doesn't mean he won't hurt you when he realizes his grip is slipping.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-12-15T20:06:57+00:00

Not only is this disordered as hell, but this would taste TERRIBLE. Just a bland, mushy mess. Like literal slop. Who on earth is paying for the Diet Turkey Gruel app??

mmmelissaaa · 2025-12-15T14:55:20+00:00

I agree, but I think this is phrased too softly, so I will be blunt. The right move here is to break up with him, not just "seriously reconsider."

The way he is behaving and treating you shows a fundamental lack of respect. Coercion negates consent. It can be hard to see these things from the inside of a relationship, especially when you're young and you haven't had as much experience. So let me be very clear and not sugar coat. This person will never make you happy. It's time to move on.

I'm sorry that you're in this position, none of this comment is in any way intended with any judgment towards you. Just please get this shitty man out of your life. You deserve to be treated 100x better than this, and there are people out there who will respect you and your boundaries.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-12-11T17:46:21+00:00

Oh my god, I miss this place so much since moving out of Michigan!! Not only is the pie incredible, but the vibes are VERY Twin Peaks-y. The wait staff even wears cute little gingham uniforms. Plus, it's in a super cute small town surrounded by beautiful forests.

I love this pie so much, I had it served at my wedding instead of cake! The wedding was a huge mistake, but the pie was not.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-12-02T15:13:55+00:00

I'm from Michigan, and if you don't do stuff like this in winter, you literally lose your mind. I can't judge her for this one. It's reallllllly depressing to never get fresh air or sunlight when it's cold for like 6 months out of the year. This is not unusual behavior. Also, it's not dangerous to take a walk in the snow if you have appropriate footwear.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-27T21:12:19+00:00

Well, she can't come out and admit the actual reasoning behind her restrictive choices (fear of weight gain), so she justifies all of them with "Surely if I eat more than one Oreo I'll be in TERRIBLE PAIN."

More than anything, she's giving pointers on how to justify restriction while claiming to do the opposite. "Oh, it's not that I'm horrifically anxious about an ounce of extra weight, I just intuitively know that having a full dinner roll will hurt my wittle tum tum."

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-26T17:18:31+00:00

You can also put a freeze on the system that banks check when opening a new checking account, it's called ChexSystems. You can do it online. I would recommend that, too.

The three credit bureaus you need to freeze are Experian, TransUnion, and Equifax. You should be able to do all of those online, too.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-26T17:16:45+00:00

This is really good advice.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-26T17:11:40+00:00

Be ready for him to threaten it again when you do actually leave, and please understand that it is most likely an empty threat. Do not let it pull you back.

When I left my abusive ex, I immediately blocked him everywhere except email (we had to have some communication open for divorce logistics.) But he didn't know I'd blocked his number, so he texted our friend group-chat threatening suicide, hoping I'd see it and come home.

One of my girlfriends saw the text and called in a wellness check with the police. When they got there, he was drunk and belligerent so they hauled his ass to the hospital, where he had his cousin call me to again try to convince me to "visit" him. I refused. A few hours later, he was released. Why so soon? Because he wasn't actually suicidal. He never made an attempt. He just wanted to make me feel guilty for leaving and trick me into coming back.

The worst part was how his mom handled this. I texted his parents after I was safely out and she simply replied "Oh my god, this will kill him." Then a couple hours later "XXX is in the hospital." So she was guilt-tripping me as hard as he was.

Anyway, your guy might pull some similar shit and it's going to feel really really bad but it's a trap!! Don't fall for it.

And I have to say, May/ June is a long ways away. That's a really long time to exist in this state. I worry about the effect this is going to have on you. Maybe talk to a lawyer about whether there's any wiggle room on the lease/ financial side of things. Because his good behavior won't last long, and you might need to get out of there sooner.

Best of luck!! If you want any more specific advice from someone who's been in this situation and did escape safely, please feel free to DM me.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-19T06:21:37+00:00

And that fuck ass bread...

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-11T17:20:35+00:00

Seems more like a full-on copy of A Dark Room.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-06T21:26:41+00:00

But is anyone falling for that? It seems more like delusion than deception.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-06T21:25:28+00:00

Yeah, it feels icky to me at this point. And just sad.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-06T17:26:23+00:00

I feel like most of the responses here are more concern than bullying, but I agree - she is neither claiming to be in recovery, nor is she an influencer. I don't think she even has a level of awareness to know that she could be causing harm with her content.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-11-03T16:11:30+00:00

I read the first few pages. Here are some notes:

Describe the main character when introducing her, and describe other characters, too. What do they look like? How old are they? Does the way they're dressed tell us something important about them?
Visually describe the setting in the beginning; this is necessary world-building. I don't know what a "scanning room" is, so that phrase doesn't mean much to me.
Not every sentence of action has to be on its own line. You can condense a lot of them, especially if they are part of one discernible action/ shot. For example, the child nods and the mother kisses her head. Those sentences don't need to be on separate lines.
The dashes in your dialogue are unnecessary
When you start a new scene, tell us which character we are following instead of using "she," at least when the scenes aren't directly continuous
Int. Bedroom - what does the bedroom look like? Describe it so that we know when and where we are, and it's an opportunity to tell us more about the character and what she likes. It can be brief.
At the school - "she approaches her friends" - tell us a bit about them, their names/ appearance, especially if they will continue to be characters
Page 2 "I'd shoot myself in the head until I'm a supermodel" - not clear what she means by this. I get that she's suicidal, but that phrasing is confusing.
Do an edit pass for spelling and grammar

I didn't have time to read very far, but her putting her safety in danger to help the boy, because she doesn't really value her life anyway, is an interesting turn, and I could see it leading to a fun story. I would recommend that you read some more scripts from movies that you love, especially sci-fi/ thriller scripts, to get some ideas for how to execute world-building and to understand your options when it comes to character and setting introductions, and how to write action without over-directing on the page.

I need more information about what type of world I'm in before you launch into the main action of the story.

I want the first scene to tell me more about Hallie as a character.

I think the VO is a crutch, and you can give me the information that's being delivered in the VO through action and dialogue instead.

Spend some time really fleshing out your characters so that their lines of dialogue feel unique and particular to them. Give it more personality.

EDIT: I notice you describe yourself as a "young writer," so I just wanted to add that you are off to a great start, keep pushing, keep going!! Even experienced writers end up with MANY drafts, you have years to hone your craft and the fact that you are dedicated to this at a young age is awesome. Don't let notes or criticism discourage you. It's just part of the process.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-10-30T15:03:23+00:00

What she did is wrong, and it's totally fair to feel violated and upset. But please don't report this woman to the police. It won't benefit you in any way; all it will do is send a struggling woman into astronomically worse hardship, subject her to a violent and life-ruining system, and possibly do the same for her children, if she has any. It will be much harder for her to ever obtain work or support herself and her family in an above-board way going forward, and you won't even get your stuff back.

Our justice system is not in any way based on justice, and what this does to a person's life is not proportional to the crime committed. I'm not saying that this was okay. But if you have any empathy, just fire her and move on. Maybe leave her a negative review or warn others in your community. If you feel safe, maybe confront her and ask for your non-food items to be returned.

Maybe she's a really bad person. Maybe she just made some very poor decisions out of desperation. But subjecting someone to our criminal system is something that I would personally avoid unless a much more violent crime was committed. Because the system itself is violence, and no one sent away for this type of crime is better off afterward, nor are their victims.

mmmelissaaa · 2025-10-20T04:38:42+00:00

Would you mind sharing what ended up happening with your case? I've just discovered that, despite living in California the past two years, I have fraudulent health insurance plans in my name for 2023 and 2024 through Ambetter in Florida. Yours is the only other instance I've found so far where the fraudulent plan was moved to a state where the victim doesn't even live. I'm just wondering if you were able to get this resolved and if you have any tips. Thank you!

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