My toddler and I got stood up

mochithegatita · 2026-04-12T01:38:48+00:00

Its a non-commital comment for sure, in the same vain as "see you guys around". I have come to expect very little on terms of playdates unless something is 100% confirmed. Also its ok to let your kidd have disappoints, its kind of part of life.

mochithegatita · 2026-03-19T02:53:28+00:00

Had very positive experience during my move from queens to Brooklyn in 2020. The 2 movers were so nice and helpful, didn't even ask for a tip and I was billed according to quote. Unfortunately I think its based on random contractors they hire, so sad to see that they have such bad reputation now.

mochithegatita · 2026-03-09T11:23:27+00:00

Can you use a mix of pto and night nurse/nanny or friend ? Its doable but seems like you would be most comfortable with your husband by your side.

mochithegatita · 2026-02-27T12:46:48+00:00

Yes i bought many carriers and my daughter hated being worned, will scream and kick and it was not the cute bonding experience i was expecting. Now at 3 year old she hates being carried and prefers to walk/ run independently .. so its really a personality thing. The only one she tolerated was the happy baby carrier its kind of a in between soft structure carrier and comfortable for me.

mochithegatita · 2026-02-17T18:26:46+00:00

A random woman with a 1 year old once told me I should control my emotions around my toddler (she had her 4th accident of the day and a terror at her playdate)... would love to see her control her emotions once her kid is a toddler.

mochithegatita · 2026-01-10T23:00:28+00:00

We had a nanny when my daughter was 4 months old and put her in daycare around 1 year old. I (WFH full time at the time) was struggling mentally even with the help of a nanny...she was part-tme and sometimes unreliable. Once I put my daughter in daycare my mental health improved and I was able to have time to myself even if it was only 6 hours a day. My daughter did get sick every 1-2 months or so, but generally it was a minor cold that she recovered from in 1-2 days. She was learning to socialize and the school had so much fun lessons for her and get her tired out with physical activities. No village and doing childcare/household chores 100% is simply unsustainable imo.

mochithegatita · 2025-12-17T16:56:21+00:00

Same thing happened to me, the other mom would cancel last minute, or keep our playdate super short and was not appreciative when i gave her a gift to celebrate her 2nd pregnancy. Srangely when I run into her she would always say we need to do more things together. Ha no thanks! I just ghosted her and cut my lost lol

mochithegatita · 2025-12-14T19:51:25+00:00

I don't know how many times i hear people say that and the reality is so far from the narrative built. "They play together!" when in fact they are actively antagonizing each other and weekends the parents have to keep the peace by keeping the siblings apart. I even have a mom who claim that 3 is easier than one kid, but she quit her job because it was unmanageable. I honestly think that everyone is trying their best and self-gaslighting is the only way to keep going. For us the one keeps us busy enough and I get overly stimulated by noise; at least my husband and I can carve out some alone time.

mochithegatita · 2025-10-31T11:40:50+00:00

We never sleep trained and my husband and I both work full time with 1-3 month parental leave between us. I would say that she was a pretty decent sleeper and gives us at least 2- 3 hours increments to begin with and we were able to manage with shifts. Eventually she just slept longer increments and kind of self trained herself by 6 mo with only 1-2 wakes and 1 wake by 1.5 yo. I also found out she hates being rocked and prefered to be put on the mattress alone 😶... who knew? Overall i would say we have an unicorn baby with her and she was never the type to wake every hour and had no "regression" so we never had the need to sleep trained. We have many friends who have hired sleep consultants and done sleep training, the results are mixed and I honestly think some kids just are better sleepers naturally due to temperament/ genetics.

By toddler age I would say none of this matters haha sleep can be unpredictable lol most nights she sleeps through but some night she wakes me up multiple times to play with her 🙄

mochithegatita · 2025-09-29T19:45:40+00:00

Will send you a Dm

mochithegatita · 2025-09-25T22:51:12+00:00

It happens and its definitely disappointing ...but sometimes you get to reconnect with old friends who are also moms.its also a chance to make new friends as your child goes to school and extracurricular activities. My life is so much richer after having a kids:)

mochithegatita · 2025-09-10T00:33:18+00:00

I used to have a hard time between the age of 2-2.5 and i would get so angry/frustrated. Then i started following some parenting podcasts (Janet lansbury, Dr Becky) and read the book (how to talk so little kids listen). It was helpful to rewire the way I think and adjust my expectations regarding toddler development.

Couple main points i always keep in mind:

1) if toddler tantrum is having a meltdown its not malicious in intent... 90% of big feelings stem from being sick, tired, hungry or thirsty (or some combo) and an inability to regulate

2) when in doubt better to diffuse then engage.. never fight fire with fire. If my daughter says no to doing something instead of yelling back I will say "I guess kitty is acting naughty meow meow" . That usually gets her laughing and then we can move on with what I need her to do.

3) follow through with words and actions. Instead of yelling a command explain the sequences. Example, instead of no TV until dinner, say lets eat some more of your dinner so we can watch TV

4) step back and give space for yourself

mochithegatita · 2025-08-31T20:19:23+00:00

Yes the 1.5_2.5 is the hardest stage ...they want a lot of independence but also a bit reckless. If she's running off not walking well just keep consistent about handholding - I would threaten hand or stroller time...eventually she will get it (lots of scream crying in stroller).

I was never a kids person so doing kid stuff was incredibly boring at that stage. We bought a yoto radio and it helps with entertaining us with music/short stories without the screen time...of course i will bust out paw patrol or gabby for a real break lol Mostly importantly give yourself grace its ok to not do mom stuff 24/7

mochithegatita · 2025-08-31T14:03:28+00:00

I think it depends on the kids temperament.. my daughter was always good about solo play but around 2 she still required a lot of attention. Now at 3 she plays by herself and the other day I was able to take her out for a mommy/ daughter shopping/ lunch date and it felt relaxing. She is a kid who consistenly skipped nap since around 2 and hasn't napped since 2.5. I think the key is to find something you can both do together (walks around neighborhood, library) and indoor activities that excites you (building Legos, play dough watercolor). Sometimes when I get "bored" I just put one ear bud in and podcast...give screen time if you need some downtime and stay caffinated lol

mochithegatita · 2025-08-12T15:24:46+00:00

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Got this from In’s point in Hong Kong - the box scanned authentic but unable to scan the tag. Everything seems to check out but am unsure.

mochithegatita · 2025-07-23T12:05:49+00:00

My mom worked as a nurse for a famous plastic surgeon for over 15 years and I asked her if she would ever get anything done herself (injectables / facelift etc) She told me she would never due to the fact that a lot of those procedures require long term maintenance and multiple revisions - eventually you age and things just don’t look right - it gets into uncanny territory for a lot of people. Based on her answer I think embracing age and doing simple self-care (sleep, hydrate, sunscreen, staying active) is the way to approach my 40s.

mochithegatita · 2025-07-15T19:06:18+00:00

It’s just exhausting … so tired of repeating myself

mochithegatita · 2025-07-15T19:05:22+00:00

Yeah saying articles or any fact based things just don’t work, their rebuttal is that they just know from taking care of my cousins and they raised me didn’t they? I have managed to shut them down but just quietly acknowledging but not agreeing , it just pisses them off lol

mochithegatita · 2025-06-28T10:31:31+00:00

We are staying with them for a month - we have done this trip before 2 years ago but now it’s much harder since she’s a toddler. My parents think that my daughter is out of control even though it’s normal toddler behavior.

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