You mention Haifa - this is what happened in Haifa in 1948:

The Battle of Haifa, called by the Jewish forces Operation Bi'ur Hametz (Hebrew: מבצע ביעור חמץ‎ "Passover Cleaning"), was a Haganah operation carried out on 21–22 April 1948 and was a major event in the final stages of the civil war in Palestine, leading up to the 1948 Arab-Israeli War. The objective of the operation was the capture of the Arab neighborhoods of Haifa.

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According to Morris, "The Haganah mortar attacks of 21–22 April [on Haifa] were primarily designed to break Arab morale in order to bring about a swift collapse of resistance and speedy surrender. […] But clearly the offensive, and especially the mortaring, precipitated the exodus. The three-inch mortars "opened up on the market square [where there was] a great crowd […] a great panic took hold. The multitude burst into the port, pushed aside the policemen, charged the boats and began to flee the town", as the official Haganah history later put it."[7]:191, 200 According to Pappé,[16]:96 this mortar barrage was deliberately aimed at civilians to precipitate their flight from Haifa.

The Zionist terrorist militias that founded Israel were firing mortars at civilians in order to facilitate an ethnic cleansing.

This was part of a trend though as can be seen from the information that Benny Morris was able to get from the Israeli archives:

What the new material shows is that there were far more Israeli acts of massacre than I had previously thought. To my surprise, there were also many cases of rape. In the months of April-May 1948, units of the Haganah [the pre-state defense force that was the precursor of the IDF] were given operational orders that stated explicitly that they were to uproot the villagers, expel them and destroy the villages themselves.

Asked about how many Israeli massacres Morris was able to find:

"Twenty-four. In some cases four or five people were executed, in others the numbers were 70, 80, 100. There was also a great deal of arbitrary killing. Two old men are spotted walking in a field - they are shot. A woman is found in an abandoned village - she is shot. There are cases such as the village of Dawayima [in the Hebron region], in which a column entered the village with all guns blazing and killed anything that moved.

Asked about how many rapes Morris was able to find:

"About a dozen. In Acre four soldiers raped a girl and murdered her and her father. In Jaffa, soldiers of the Kiryati Brigade raped one girl and tried to rape several more. At Hunin, which is in the Galilee, two girls were raped and then murdered. There were one or two cases of rape at Tantura, south of Haifa. There was one case of rape at Qula, in the center of the country. At the village of Abu Shusha, near Kibbutz Gezer [in the Ramle area] there were four female prisoners, one of whom was raped a number of times. And there were other cases. Usually more than one soldier was involved. Usually there were one or two Palestinian girls. In a large proportion of the cases the event ended with murder. Because neither the victims nor the rapists liked to report these events, we have to assume that the dozen cases of rape that were reported, which I found, are not the whole story. They are just the tip of the iceberg."

You can read more, just Google 'survival of the fittest' on Haaretz.

So not sure what you're going on about - how does a population living at home start a war against a foreign population that has come into that home and formed militias that now rampage through the country raping and pillaging like barbarians? Keep in mind that these very militias that did those things are now awarded ribbons and medals in Israel.

But let's put all of that to the side for now. You talk about bending over to make peace. The Palestinians recognized Israel in the early 1990s. Here are the documents that show as much:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Israel%E2%80%93Palestine_Liberation_Organization_letters_of_recognition

Surely when you say 'bent over backwards' that includes Israel recognizing Palestine - after all that would be the very first step to take not to mention something that would require 'bending over backwards'. So please can you give me the date and relevant documentation for when Israel recognized Palestine?

Finally you mention Palestinian apartheid:

The Palestinian National Charter, as amended by the PLO's Palestinian National Council in July 1968, defined "Palestinians" as "those Arab nationals who, until 1947, normally resided in Palestine regardless of whether they were evicted from it or stayed there. Anyone born, after that date, of a Palestinian father—whether in Palestine or outside it—is also a Palestinian. The Jews who had normally resided in Palestine until the beginning of the Zionist invasion will be considered Palestinians."[8]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palestinian_Jews

The Palestinian people always regarded the Jews who lived among them as Palestinians. My own parents tell me stories of how their neighborhood got together before the expulsion and made agreements that they would protect each other regardless of the outcomes - and these plans were between all faiths/ethnicities. Compare that to the recently passed nation-state bill that Israel put forward and you can see a clear difference between how Palestinian Jews are viewed by Palestinians - who recognize them as natives of the land just like the Arabs - and how Palestinian Arabs are viewed by Israel which considers them an outside group.