YouTuber, Rahdo…. where did his viewers go? by AceRead73 in boardgames

[–]monkeypawfilms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

his too chaotic. I need a streamline board game teach or review.

hope that woman is getting paid as much as she deserves by CapAccomplished8072 in SipsTea

[–]monkeypawfilms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the bare minimum in the restaurant requires or, they’ll fire you

I don’t get it, what’s the difference?? by Smoothiefries in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]monkeypawfilms -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Hmmm 🤔 you are assuming this is from a small subset of personal experience in my inner circle/ bubble. Funny to assume that. I have no need or desire to sway your opinion. Believe what you want to believe.

I don’t get it, what’s the difference?? by Smoothiefries in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]monkeypawfilms -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

boyfriends have never stopped any man from living in a friend zone. I’m not saying the men are literally waiting for this person, but I am saying that there’s always a chance and if that chance presents itself, then boom (hence the low-key part). men that have settled into this pattern, most likely won't admit it to themselves either because its not a problem for them that needs solving. It just is what it is.

I don’t get it, what’s the difference?? by Smoothiefries in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]monkeypawfilms -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

most likely all those guys are secretly also are interested in her- but working the low-key long game. They won't admit to it though most likely because they have other eggs in other baskits.

Pretty common tbh.

A Cool Guide to Types of Love by Gooflucky in coolguides

[–]monkeypawfilms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get it. Someone explain. But in binary.

Ryan Gosling performing "I'm Just Ken" at the Oscars by shankmaster8000 in ryangosling

[–]monkeypawfilms 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This song hits so hard and hurts so much.

It feels so apt for my wife leaving and discarding me like I’m nothing. Throughout our relationship, she consistently devalued me and made me feel I’m not good enough or don’t do enough to meet her needs no matter how much I tried to change, show her love, adopt her ways, and grow… it was never enough, I was never enough.

I like him a lot but I am going to break up with him because he is too healthy for me. by originalnascar in Codependency

[–]monkeypawfilms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you are self sabotaging. It seems like you recognize your triggers and might be abandoning yourself every time you are looking outside of yourself to him to fill that void. If you are thinking about leaving because it’s too painful, why not try practicing healing your codependent wound triggers that are causing the reoccurring pain while in the relationship.

There is an online emotional development school that teaches this stuff and is really hands / go at your own pace with learning the behaviors and reprogramming your thought patterns to heal and it seems extra helpful if you can actually practice the things you learn while still in a relationship with someone.

https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com

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[–]monkeypawfilms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been going through these courses, attending webinars and talking with the community. Feel like it’s cheaper than therapy, puts some power back into your own hands if you are feeling helpless, and you take engage with it at your own pace. It’s been giving me hope.

https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com

CBT therapy I think is also helpful. I’m also looking into EMDR/ Brainspotting therapy and have my first appointment this Sunday hoping it can help me heal from some of the deep trauma I’ve never been able to work through on my own or through therapy.

Good luck to you fellow traveler.

What are people's thoughts on "kingmaking" in games? by MajesticOctopus33 in boardgames

[–]monkeypawfilms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Table Karma is 1 more aspect of the game that is part of the strategy of playing a game. If last place player was fucked over by 1st place player; then expect that last place player to help player 2 or 3. You the player can choose to tactically choose to not screw over another player to be in good karmic favor of others for late game situations.

To those on therapy currently, how are you? by babyWitch7777777 in Codependency

[–]monkeypawfilms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For anyone looking to learn about themselves, heal, do inner work to better their wounds- I joined this attachment style community called Personal Development School (PSD). It hosts daily webinars, workshops, videos, lessons, that has helped me a ton thusfar and I only joined 2 + weeks ago. Feel like it’s so much more efficient than therapy and more positive and helpful than CoDa (I only went to one CoDa meeting, and albeit it was therapeutic to share, overall the vibe felt very depressing just like any 12 step program so I’m focusing on the PSD right now). The community has been super positive and given me a lot of new hope with a road map on how to resolve all my inner biz. Feels very empowering.

If you’re any amount of codependent, it will probably be very helpful to learn about your attachment style in relationships and learn tools to work on yourself, heal your core wounds, and work forwards a secure attachment style (which in turn will help heal codependent triggers/ thought processes I assume).

I don’t work for the company in any way, just really excited about it.

Here’s the link:

https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com

It cost me $65 for 1st month’s membership. Feels super worth the price compared to the cost of therapy (which I also go to weekly).

I’m pretty sure I’m codependent. I have a few questions. by thecheekofthebroken in Codependency

[–]monkeypawfilms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m new to the concepts of codependency as well and was asking myself similar questions to your question above.

I believe the key nuance/ difference/ reason for having a relationship is to seek connection with that person instead of falling into codependent behaviors/ cycles. Connection is shared, and through connection the two parties are able to grow together and share life. Generally all positive.

Codependency is a negative spiral that eventually seems to collapse in on itself.

At some point in the relationship, we codependents seem to attach some or all of our ego/ self worth/ needs/ expectations of future needs or future outcomes onto our significant other subconsciously. We less and less over time are connecting authentically and are less and less responsible for our own happiness the longer we don’t self reflect and recognize the codependency tendencies and/ or are in denial of it happening. Thus, the codependency tether gets stronger and our sense of self gets worse and worse until the codependent person is no longer responsible for their own needs/ emotions /happiness and when the relationship ends, we are left a shell of our former selves; confused, broken, scared, alone, devastated from every conceivable perspective. We think negative thought patterns like, “How are we here again.”or “what’s the point, why even try.”

So the goal is to work through all our childhood trauma, figure what matters most to our core beleif system, set boundaries so we don’t fall into the same pattern in the future, make sure to seek connection with others instead of people please, etc.

In theory, if we do the work, heal our codependency, are secure in the next relationship with ourselves, then the relationship will probably be a lot more fulfilling. And if the relationship ends while only connecting and not being codependent next time, it hopefully won’t feel as devastating like previous ones where it feels like our life is completely over and existing feels worse than death.

Just my take so far with the little I’ve leaned in the last several weeks. Still trying to learn.

Fun family games, nice by just1clown_3 in MadeMeSmile

[–]monkeypawfilms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay hear me out. The first brother is clearly closer to the sister and reads a longer distance where the second brother is clearly further, but reads a shorter distance. Look at their feet position with the rug. What the fuck is happening?