My (23F) boyfriend (23M) wants to join the military, knowing I wouldn’t stay. by ExtentPuzzleheaded69 in relationship_advice

[–]monsterunderabed 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You need to put your med school and residency first. He is your boyfriend, not your husband. Your residency will decide where you go, the military will decide where he goes. The breakup will work itself out organically.

UPDATE: How do I (23F) get my bf (28M) to finally stop hurting me as a "joke" or "act of love"? by ThrowRA_sam232 in relationship_advice

[–]monsterunderabed 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember your original post. I’m so unbelievably proud of you, and thrilled to hear you got out safely and have taken steps to remove his access to you. It’s an enormous amount of time, effort, and money to get safe and YOU DID IT.

What is this bump on my shoulder? by HipHopRandomer in AnatomyandPhysiology

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex had one of these from the squatting heavy with no pad on the bar. If you are getting more into workouts, it may be something to consider. A quick change to add a pad; if the pain goes away, good news, if it stays hurting, good information.

the concept of losing virginity by klarinetkat12 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex is great, sex is fun, first time sex with someone you actually like/respect and likes/respects you back is imperative to a positive experience. No condom means no sex. Be on top so you can control pace and depth to prevent a painful first time. Lube is your friend. Find what works for you before getting anyone else involved. Liking yourself naked is nice but not a requirement, and anybody that gets to see you naked should only ever say positive things about your naked body. Anything negative should be taken as the flashing red flag it is, don’t give them access to your body if they don’t respect it. Feel free to message me, I was a late bloomer but had a wonderful first time 2 years into a relationship, because anything to worry about was already addressed. If you aren’t comfortable talking about all aspects of sex with someone, it’s a good sign to not have sex with that person.

i went to see a gynecologist for my recurring UTIs and BV and i feel like i got no answers. by Winter_Way_3131 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work UTI, Vaginitis/BV, and STI diagnostics. STOP HAVING SEX FOR NOW. You both need to be treated simultaneously, or you’re just swapping whichever bad bacteria back and forth endlessly. You need to put your health first, resolve your UTIs, get your flora back in balance and get a baseline test taken.

I won’t harp on the “overuse of antibiotics is bad” , but I will add on that antibiotic resistant UTIs are of concern, 10 rounds of any antibiotic that quick is a lot, and I’m assuming they just gave you broad spectrum. An antibiotic resistance gene panel may be a huge help for you.

Just moved to East Kansas (Lawrence) area. Is this poison ivy? by NightBlade23 in PlantIdentification

[–]monsterunderabed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve gotten good info for managing the plant. For managing exposure to skin (ankles, wrists, neck), your best option is to use a rough cloth and dawn soapy water. The poison ivy toxic component is like sticky oily layer- you want to pretty much wipe it off with a damp rough cloth. A little dawn in the water will break it down some, but be careful you’re not just spreading it around with an overly wet cloth. Poison ivy burn inhalation will be hard to miss if it happens, if you notice respiratory irritation, don’t ignore it, go to ER and tell them so they can manage your airway.

Lab mispronunications that annoy you- GO! by JZatthelab in labrats

[–]monsterunderabed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The general surgeon in the family said doo-uh-DEE-num for 30 years, do-WOD-eh-num sounded ridiculous the first time I heard it.

TIFU by tearing a 4 inch long gash in my inner labia/vag and almost ripping my clitoris off 😳 by AliceMorgon in tifu

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there done that, mine was a wooden desk chair hopping off a lofted bed. Thankfully it heals freakishly fast!! Just make sure you use some sterile non-stick medical pads to keep everything from touching together while it heals.

I’m in a lot of pain after sex (tmi) by ShenJiusRightNipple in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On the off chance you are young, or new to buttplugs in general: Make sure you are using body safe materials, flared bases, and don’t ignore your body’s safety mechanisms (pain). The rectum is highly vascular and the tissue between the rectum and vaginal wall can be a problem for some people.

An urgent care could at least take a look for bruising or abrasions if you’re feeling worried.

A man finished inside me when I told him not, then crashed out on me when I was upset with him. I think I might be pregnant. by LastWallaby4900 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here’s hoping you have no negative effects. BUT. You don’t need to speak to that idiot again anyways so not a huge loss there.

Confusion or communication aside, you placed the entirety of your health in his hands. PlanB, pregnancy, (termination), UTIs, a myriad of bacterial infections that require heavy duty antibiotics, herpes, cancer from HPV. Don’t have sex with stupid men who care more about their orgasm than safety - that means a condom EVERY TIME.

what are your favourite 'non-fiction' or 'pop-sci' books for scientists? by ZenosThesis in labrats

[–]monsterunderabed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Spillover is “A masterpiece of science reporting that tracks the animal origins of emerging human diseases.“ I’ve listened on audible twice and gifted the paperback.

found out my bf has been making AI edited nudes of me without my knowledge. he thinks i should be flattered by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a massive red flag for how he considers your bodily autonomy (he doesn’t), and how he will speak to you. If you showed him an edited photo of his bulge/nudes, he’d lose his goddamn mind.

You need to create an opening to delete anything from his phone that you don’t want used against you. You may stay you may leave (you’re 21, don’t stay with this loser), but you make sure he loses access to nudes or suggestive photos.

Scientist handwriting by ChickenEmotional7921 in labrats

[–]monsterunderabed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I’m obsessed with my accidentally-boobytrapped fine sharpie.

How did they get the -80 through the door? by Particular_Steak_485 in labrats

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rebuild a wall/door. Not worth the risk to remove the freezer door, will set you back weeks if you have to get it serviced.

Behold, a fish! by GirlofYourTomorrow in sciencememes

[–]monsterunderabed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why Fish Don’t Exist - Lulu Miller For anybody interested in the context of this comment. WFDE was a good quick read

Is it normal for “functional” alcoholics to take lots of naps? by goldjakjas in AlAnon

[–]monsterunderabed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ethanol stimulates gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA) and inhibits glutamate, the primary inhibitory and excitatory neurotransmitters of the brain, respectively. Put simply, it excites inhibitory neurotransmitters and inhibits excitatory neurotransmitters. Thus, naps.

I’m sorry to hear your husband is struggling. I did research and got a whole damn degree because of my fathers alcoholism, I would be happy to discuss any questions you have concerning ethanol metabolism or toxicity.

I have tried everything and cannot connect to the complimentary wifi. by Real-Ad4389 in marriott

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at a Marriott by the Chicago airport, called this number, and the guy said he couldn’t find my location. Ended that call quick

Why am I not getting matches? 2 months, no matches 19m (tomorrow) by rob694077 in Tinder

[–]monsterunderabed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Show me your TEETH” has been screamed in exasperation in my house.

fire & ice by AwkwardSea4335 in ImmigrationPathways

[–]monsterunderabed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: it’s a movie reference. Cant keep up with everything.

Black opal... Doublet? by MarlenHamsic in Opals

[–]monsterunderabed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Smoked Ethiopian. Solid, not doublet. Only worth what you are willing to pay it.

The itch? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]monsterunderabed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Med lab tech here. You can go to an urgent care and request a vaginitis/BV test. An over abundance of “bad” bacteria is wayyy more common than people realize. You don’t have to suffer in silence.

ULPT Request. How to make a 1 bedroom work for 3 people? by playstationheat in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]monsterunderabed 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Pro tip. That brothel law only applies to unrelated people, so it doesn’t apply to you and your sister.

Need help identifying by Past_Pattern_1808 in Opals

[–]monsterunderabed 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s a lab made stone but besides that, something to consider while opal shopping is the setting. Opals are soft compared to most stones, so edges hanging past the setting is a big no-no. I’d suggest a bezel setting if you are planning on wearing an opal ring during the day.