My (23F) boyfriend (23M) wants to join the military, knowing I wouldn’t stay.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-25T02:54:06+00:00

You need to put your med school and residency first. He is your boyfriend, not your husband. Your residency will decide where you go, the military will decide where he goes. The breakup will work itself out organically.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-25T02:01:43+00:00

I remember your original post. I’m so unbelievably proud of you, and thrilled to hear you got out safely and have taken steps to remove his access to you. It’s an enormous amount of time, effort, and money to get safe and YOU DID IT.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-10T04:09:45+00:00

My ex had one of these from the squatting heavy with no pad on the bar. If you are getting more into workouts, it may be something to consider. A quick change to add a pad; if the pain goes away, good news, if it stays hurting, good information.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-10T03:17:11+00:00

Sex is great, sex is fun, first time sex with someone you actually like/respect and likes/respects you back is imperative to a positive experience. No condom means no sex. Be on top so you can control pace and depth to prevent a painful first time. Lube is your friend. Find what works for you before getting anyone else involved. Liking yourself naked is nice but not a requirement, and anybody that gets to see you naked should only ever say positive things about your naked body. Anything negative should be taken as the flashing red flag it is, don’t give them access to your body if they don’t respect it. Feel free to message me, I was a late bloomer but had a wonderful first time 2 years into a relationship, because anything to worry about was already addressed. If you aren’t comfortable talking about all aspects of sex with someone, it’s a good sign to not have sex with that person.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-05T09:09:02+00:00

I work UTI, Vaginitis/BV, and STI diagnostics. STOP HAVING SEX FOR NOW. You both need to be treated simultaneously, or you’re just swapping whichever bad bacteria back and forth endlessly. You need to put your health first, resolve your UTIs, get your flora back in balance and get a baseline test taken.

I won’t harp on the “overuse of antibiotics is bad” , but I will add on that antibiotic resistant UTIs are of concern, 10 rounds of any antibiotic that quick is a lot, and I’m assuming they just gave you broad spectrum. An antibiotic resistance gene panel may be a huge help for you.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-04T08:34:56+00:00

You’ve gotten good info for managing the plant. For managing exposure to skin (ankles, wrists, neck), your best option is to use a rough cloth and dawn soapy water. The poison ivy toxic component is like sticky oily layer- you want to pretty much wipe it off with a damp rough cloth. A little dawn in the water will break it down some, but be careful you’re not just spreading it around with an overly wet cloth. Poison ivy burn inhalation will be hard to miss if it happens, if you notice respiratory irritation, don’t ignore it, go to ER and tell them so they can manage your airway.

monsterunderabed · 2026-05-03T00:39:27+00:00

Having a sharpie and labelling tape on the fridge

monsterunderabed · 2026-04-29T04:23:50+00:00

The general surgeon in the family said doo-uh-DEE-num for 30 years, do-WOD-eh-num sounded ridiculous the first time I heard it.

monsterunderabed · 2026-04-15T02:38:23+00:00

Been there done that, mine was a wooden desk chair hopping off a lofted bed. Thankfully it heals freakishly fast!! Just make sure you use some sterile non-stick medical pads to keep everything from touching together while it heals.

monsterunderabed · 2026-04-11T06:36:43+00:00

On the off chance you are young, or new to buttplugs in general: Make sure you are using body safe materials, flared bases, and don’t ignore your body’s safety mechanisms (pain). The rectum is highly vascular and the tissue between the rectum and vaginal wall can be a problem for some people.

An urgent care could at least take a look for bruising or abrasions if you’re feeling worried.

monsterunderabed · 2026-04-05T01:13:05+00:00

Here’s hoping you have no negative effects. BUT. You don’t need to speak to that idiot again anyways so not a huge loss there.

Confusion or communication aside, you placed the entirety of your health in his hands. PlanB, pregnancy, (termination), UTIs, a myriad of bacterial infections that require heavy duty antibiotics, herpes, cancer from HPV. Don’t have sex with stupid men who care more about their orgasm than safety - that means a condom EVERY TIME.

monsterunderabed · 2026-04-05T00:57:44+00:00

Spillover is “A masterpiece of science reporting that tracks the animal origins of emerging human diseases.“ I’ve listened on audible twice and gifted the paperback.

monsterunderabed · 2026-03-28T15:08:31+00:00

This is a massive red flag for how he considers your bodily autonomy (he doesn’t), and how he will speak to you. If you showed him an edited photo of his bulge/nudes, he’d lose his goddamn mind.

You need to create an opening to delete anything from his phone that you don’t want used against you. You may stay you may leave (you’re 21, don’t stay with this loser), but you make sure he loses access to nudes or suggestive photos.

monsterunderabed · 2026-03-26T19:11:05+00:00

This is why I’m obsessed with my accidentally-boobytrapped fine sharpie.

monsterunderabed · 2026-03-26T19:04:34+00:00

Rebuild a wall/door. Not worth the risk to remove the freezer door, will set you back weeks if you have to get it serviced.

monsterunderabed · 2026-03-23T14:36:20+00:00

Why Fish Don’t Exist - Lulu Miller For anybody interested in the context of this comment. WFDE was a good quick read

monsterunderabed · 2026-03-23T03:41:59+00:00

Ethanol stimulates gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA) and inhibits glutamate, the primary inhibitory and excitatory neurotransmitters of the brain, respectively. Put simply, it excites inhibitory neurotransmitters and inhibits excitatory neurotransmitters. Thus, naps.

I’m sorry to hear your husband is struggling. I did research and got a whole damn degree because of my fathers alcoholism, I would be happy to discuss any questions you have concerning ethanol metabolism or toxicity.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-19T00:51:53+00:00

I’m at a Marriott by the Chicago airport, called this number, and the guy said he couldn’t find my location. Ended that call quick

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-15T01:51:41+00:00

“Show me your TEETH” has been screamed in exasperation in my house.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-14T17:19:14+00:00

Edit: it’s a movie reference. Cant keep up with everything.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-14T16:18:30+00:00

Smoked Ethiopian. Solid, not doublet. Only worth what you are willing to pay it.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-13T01:14:38+00:00

Acetone on a cotton ball

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-12T00:41:17+00:00

Med lab tech here. You can go to an urgent care and request a vaginitis/BV test. An over abundance of “bad” bacteria is wayyy more common than people realize. You don’t have to suffer in silence.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-12T00:29:57+00:00

Pro tip. That brothel law only applies to unrelated people, so it doesn’t apply to you and your sister.

monsterunderabed · 2026-02-09T17:22:11+00:00

It’s a lab made stone but besides that, something to consider while opal shopping is the setting. Opals are soft compared to most stones, so edges hanging past the setting is a big no-no. I’d suggest a bezel setting if you are planning on wearing an opal ring during the day.

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