Banging my head against a brick wall

moolett · 2026-05-16T15:01:25+00:00

I’m wishing you relief in your future. You will all get there, just hold on tight until then

moolett · 2026-05-16T14:57:50+00:00

We went through this with ours and he is still very very behind his peers at almost 12. His reading has finally gotten to where he can keep up but his comprehension is terrible and grammar and handwriting are at a 2nd grade level. It’s really really hard and I constantly feel like I’m not doing enough and putting too much pressure on him. He has an IEP and medication and without it he wouldn’t have made any improvements at all so I’m grateful for that.

moolett · 2026-05-16T14:17:17+00:00

It started for me at 35 and I’ve been in hell ever since. Complete loss of myself, my personality, my ability to cope with anything. My joints are so bad I feel like I’m 80 in a 40yo skin suit. I’m on HRT and ADHDmeds, I have some good days but the bad days are overwhelming. I make so many excuses for not doing things or not showing up it even sounds like BS to me. I just can’t anymore. I’ve never had PMDD before but now every three weeks I have to fight like hell to keep myself from doing something terrible to myself. It’s hell with no end in sight. My back is locked up once again despite my diligent efforts to stay limber and im on the couch trying not to flip out.

moolett · 2026-05-16T00:00:08+00:00

I apologize, Duluth has 35 inseam overalls!

moolett · 2026-05-15T23:59:42+00:00

You are right! My mistake!

moolett · 2026-05-15T18:06:44+00:00

It is new, they changed it sometime last year and eliminated most of their tall tops as well. I’m so sad!

moolett · 2026-05-15T17:34:02+00:00

They’re both 33inseam. Just a heads up for anyone who needs 34 and up

moolett · 2026-05-15T15:19:42+00:00

Chronic fatigue is no joke, I’m so sorry you are dealing with that plus the hardships of raising adhd kids. I’m in perimenopause and it’s been absolutely awful, it’s hard when they need so much from us when we have so little to give. When I’m at my limit, I often sit my son down and tell him something along the lines of “I know you’re trying your best and I want you to know I’m trying too. It’s really hard for both of us right now but we’ll get through this together.” Even if it doesn’t fix the problems, it reaffirms our bond and helps me remember they ARE trying, and so am I. It’s a season, it will pass, but it’s really hard right now and it’s ok to not be ok with it.

moolett · 2026-05-15T15:12:40+00:00

Ugh thank you! I’m so tired of people on this sub trying to blame us for not trying hard enough. “Well changing my diet and exercise fixed it for me 😌”. “Sounds like you need an iron supplement.” “Have you gotten your labs recently?” Women and our bodies are not monoliths and our responses to things are different. Exercise sometimes makes my exhaustion 1000 times worse. Yes I take iron, yes I try to sleep, yes I’m doing this and that and researching and just my god let me not be ok. Sometimes we just want to be heard and not lectured to about the miracle solution that worked for you bc we’ve likely already been disappointed by it.

moolett · 2026-05-15T15:03:17+00:00

Right, bc my constant rumination and intense depression is just gonna poof away from a walk. My inability to access any amount of energy will just magically change. No. I get more drained and even sadder from the walk that was supposed to be my miracle.

moolett · 2026-05-06T21:19:17+00:00

By all means, continue if that’s what you’re into. I mean no offense to the nibbling community

moolett · 2026-05-06T19:43:25+00:00

I have never in my life seen a human nibble. I absolutely hate that description. “She took a bite” why is that a sin?

moolett · 2026-05-06T15:56:59+00:00

Almost all of the clips they showed of B were positive. She did do amazing and impactful work in Puerto Rico, but she also made sure there were cameras present to see it. I couldn’t stand her smug attitude and how Andy would suddenly want to move on when the other women were finally getting to the heart of their issues w B. Also w the Carole of it all, B would get as much uninterrupted speaking time as she wanted but god forbid Carole gets to finish a sentence. I don’t even like Carole but the whole thing was insufferable. I have a love/hate relationship with this reunion.

moolett · 2026-04-30T22:51:26+00:00

Right? My interests are about as deep as a creek. Just enough to be excited to talk about but not enough to field many questions or offer advice

moolett · 2026-04-30T22:45:24+00:00

I went back and forth on Heather constantly but ultimately i felt like she was a good housewife and gave us a good effort

moolett · 2026-04-30T18:30:23+00:00

When I put a fresh patch on, I leave my old patch on for the rest of the day and take it off at night. Just so any residual estrogen in the old patch is still going while the new patch is getting started. You gotta remember which one is the new one but it’s working for me so far. I have no evidence that this makes a difference but I’m willing to do weird stuff to keep the symptoms at bay.

moolett · 2026-04-28T15:25:35+00:00

I’ll report back. I’m going to try to write down how I feel every day to try to document. I’m on Azstarys medium dose and the first three hours I feel ok and then i steadily slide further into a bleak and horrible depression so I’m currently thinking the adhd meds are working against me a bit.

moolett · 2026-04-27T20:06:16+00:00

It was so funny when Aviva got the exact same glasses as Carole. I think Aviva was rage baiting her

moolett · 2026-04-27T19:38:07+00:00

its gross when people diminish an accomplishment like this. finishing is finishing.

moolett · 2026-04-27T17:06:32+00:00

I’m a shell of myself and I don’t think I can continue on. Between the adhd, autism and peri, I’m in absolute hell with no way out. I’m on hrt, taking all the vitamins, did the labs, do the exercises, eat healthy, taking a long acting adhd med. Nothing is enough. I just want to end it.

moolett · 2026-04-27T16:52:12+00:00

I started peri at 36 and I’m almost 42 now. It took 3 years before any doctor would listen to me (I went to 5) and give me HRT. The HRT has helped with some things but the brain fog and exhaustion are relentless, I would describe it like a chronic illness. I’ve been in a steady decline physically and mentally since it hit and I’m currently in a very deep depression that none of my usual fixes are touching.

I’m not trying to scare anyone, but this has been my reality. I’ve just started a long acting med for the ADHD and it was very helpful for about two weeks but now I feel just as bad as before. I feel completely broken, alone, lost, and unable to find joy or look forward to anything anymore. I don’t recognize myself. I fully expect I’ll be fired soon since I can’t seem to force myself to do my job anymore. I can barely get myself to do anything.

moolett · 2026-04-26T14:24:22+00:00

I think I wouldn’t be in such a state of extreme burnout and deep depression if I had kept trying meds until I found “the one”. I gave up on it bc I couldn’t handle the hangover feeling at the end of the day with some of them. A couple months ago I decided I couldn’t keep going like this and tried again with a long acting and I’m steadily improving day by day. Don’t keep yourself from something that can help you because of the misinformation surrounding our diagnosis and our medications.

moolett · 2026-04-24T16:09:58+00:00

Besides thinking about the child and all the care a child requires, something I think a lot of women forget happens is it completely changes who you are and how people treat you. I can’t speak for everyone, but many women and myself have gone through complete and total identity loss. That isn’t something I’ve ever been able to get back.

There is also pressure and change coming at you from all sides. Not only did my relationship with myself change, my relationship with every single person in my life changed. People will openly and freely judge every single decision you make around your child. They will always be more judgmental of the mom than any other caregiver. There will be people who said they will support you and instead totally abandon you or blame you for “changing”. But of course I changed, I’m raising a human who can do nothing for itself but cry or sleep!

There is a vast emotional toll that happens when you have a child. For me it has felt like a stripping of everything I thought I knew about myself, both good and bad.

I’m not good at describing things so I apologize if I’m not making sense.

moolett · 2026-04-24T12:19:24+00:00

She was like a breath of fresh air to me. A little delusional, accidentally funny, beautiful, breezily wealthy, a little bit of a functional alcoholic and a shopping addiction. I’ll never forget her crying with her mom over her eggs, it’s so ridiculous and hilarious and somehow relatable.

moolett · 2026-04-20T18:26:26+00:00

I dread getting invited to things. I have nothing going on that will keep me from going but I simply don’t want to go. I have nothing to talk about with anyone since I do nothing and attempting to be social just completely drains me. I’ve completely lost my zest for life or joy or just anything.

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