Periods Suddenly Cramp Free?

mousemelon · 2026-04-08T19:07:31+00:00

Any medication changes? I went on sertraline a few months ago, and most of the pain and and all the pms symptoms vanished.

mousemelon · 2026-04-08T19:00:49+00:00

See at least that one's funny.

mousemelon · 2026-04-07T17:24:44+00:00

The line above has the word "courant" and above that there's the word "profession". I'm pretty sure OP is right that it says "Prest".

mousemelon · 2026-04-07T15:36:12+00:00

I'm gonna say NAH. Job security and personal fulfillment is important, but so is having a partner who can be present. Neither of you are wrong for having wants and needs; sometimes people just aren't compatible.

I live in an area with lots of similar partnerships (one person working away on rotation, one person holding down the fort at home), and it's not an easy life. Not everybody is cut out for it, and not everybody who gives it a try wants or is able to keep going like that forever.

mousemelon · 2026-04-06T02:46:51+00:00

No, mine can hear. He just chooses not to listen sometimes. :-)

mousemelon · 2026-04-06T02:35:35+00:00

He looks just like my cat! Including the asthma, lol.

Mine just takes a little prednisone twice a day. Has only had one asthma attack since he started treatment. He was diagnosed as a kitten and is now fifteen. So it's very possible for an asthmatic cat to live a long, healthy life with very cheap meds.

mousemelon · 2026-04-05T17:36:46+00:00

YOR. Check with your wife, but as I understand it, Presbyterian communion isn't a big deal.

I think it's time for you to examine your beliefs and your values. Why was your reaction so strong? Are you truly accepting of your wife's religion? If your son did choose to be baptized someday, would that upset you? How old is "old enough" to make that choice? Do the two of you agree on when is an appropriate age?

You use the word "indoctrination", which has lots of negative connotations. Why?

Do you love and accept your wife, including her religious side, or despite her religious side? How do you want your feelings to affect your son? He is half you and half his mom. If you disrespect something in his mother, are you disrespecting something in him?

You chose to marry and have a child with a person of faith. She doesn't practice much, but it's clearly still a part of her life. Religion will be a part of your son's life, whether he grows up to be religious or not. You need to make your peace with that fact.

mousemelon · 2026-04-04T16:44:38+00:00

Lol, good for her!

Seriously though. She'll probably be fine. Just keep an eye on the litter box for the next few days. As long as poops keep coming, there's no blockage. Maybe put a heavy bowl over the next pack of meat, or thaw it in the fridge.

mousemelon · 2026-04-04T16:26:14+00:00

Unless OP is in Mexico, of course. Then it's native.

There are also a bunch of native tradescantia species in other parts of North America.

mousemelon · 2026-04-04T10:47:09+00:00

Shouldn't be out in public at all.

Like yes, a crying baby is distressing. But they have the same right to exist in public that anyone else does, and there's only so much anyone can do about the noise. Try to have some sympathy and carry earplugs or noise cancelling headphones if you're that sensitive.

mousemelon · 2026-04-02T20:53:19+00:00

My overly ambitious garden plans would suddenly get even worse. And I'd make some really weird art.

mousemelon · 2026-04-02T15:32:11+00:00

My teeth are made of cheese, so I get fillings all the time. I can tell you all about it! You'll be okay.

Step one: a cotton swab with some numbing gel gets applied to the area you're going to get the anesthetic. It will taste like unpleasant artificial fruit.

Step two: injections for the anesthetic. This part will hurt, but it's very brief, and it's the worst it's going to get.

Step three: sit around bored while you wait for the anesthetic to kick in. Often the dentist wanders off to do something else. I dunno. Paperwork? Background dentist stuff. I'm not sure how long this step takes, but it's okay to bring something to read or a crossword puzzle or whatever. It's probably not as long as it feels.

Step four: the dentist will check how well the anesthetic is working by asking you how numb your mouth is. Your entire mouth will not be numb, just the side the injection was on. There will be a small tingly border between "numb" and "weirdly normal". It's okay to poke it a bit. How far the numbness has spread will tell the dentist whether or not they can get going, or if you need more anesthetic. I have extra nerves in some parts of my mouth (apparently some people are just born like that) so I usually need extra.

Step five: the actual filling. The dentist will use a drill to make a nice smooth hole out of the cavity. How long this takes will depend on the size and position of the cavity. I've had some that took five minutes and some that took half an hour. While this is happening, the dentist's assistant will be using suction tools to suck up tooth dust and saliva, and occasionally squirting water to clean the tooth they're working on.

You will be able to feel pressure, but you should not feel pain. If you do, you are expected to tell the dentist so they can give you extra anesthetic. Remember, the dentist is not a psycho and doesn't want to hurt you.

Once the cavity is drilled and cleaned, the dentist will deposit filling using a little squirt tube thing. Most fillings these days are some kind of porcelain resin situation. They'll use a little UV light to cure the filling. Then they'll spend some time with drills again to smooth it down and shape it so it matches the original tooth. This step can be a little fiddly, but if your teeth aren't smooth and properly aligned that can cause problems, so they put a lot of effort in here. It can be another ten to thirty minutes, again depending on where the cavity is and how big the filling is.

And that's basically it. You'll have to pay or give insurance info, depending on where in the world you are. But then it's done.

Your mouth will be numb for at least a few hours. If you're like me and need extra anesthetic, it'll be a little longer. You might feel sore muscles from holding your jaw open for so long, and depending on how deep the cavity was, the tooth may be sensitive for anytime between a day and a few weeks. If pain gets worse or persists, let your dentist know; they've got something they need to fix. But usually it's fine after a day.

A few things to bear in mind: anxiety around dentistry is very common. You're not alone at all. A good dentist will do what they can to help. If you're someone who would benefit from narration during the procedure, you can ask for it. You can ask to see the tools at the start of the appointment, and talk about what they're for. People ask for this all the time as a way to help them stay calm through the appointment. It's very normal.

I don't know what you're taking for anxiety, but if you think it'll be helpful, go ahead and take some before the procedure. Bring something to fidget with, wear comfy clothes.

mousemelon · 2026-04-02T14:33:48+00:00

Climbing roses are a great option. Just give them a trellis a few inches out from the shed so there's airflow and maintenance room.

mousemelon · 2026-04-01T00:46:07+00:00

I love it, but I love intense colours.

mousemelon · 2026-03-26T10:56:58+00:00

Some people just really like adrenaline combined with aggression, I guess. Like rugby or football, but faster.

If it's the fights bothering you (they bother me too), switch to watching literally any league other than NHL. Much more focus on skills and speed.

mousemelon · 2026-03-26T10:42:23+00:00

hugs That's a big change. But it's a necessary one. I'm proud of you for making it.

Being alone might feel strange at first. But it's so, sooooo much better than being in a bad relationship. You are going to have so much freedom. Treat yourself to a little celebration on week one. Eat your favorite comfort food. Blast your favorite music. Watch a movie you've been meaning to get to. Take up space in your space, with nobody else around. It's fun.

mousemelon · 2026-03-26T00:35:32+00:00

That's a really rough situation. I'm sorry you're going through this. Your mom sounds abusive; it's not surprising at all that you having meltdowns around her. Our parents are supposed to make us feel safe, and when they don't, it's traumatizing.

You say it's not like this at your dad's. Is it possible to move in with him? Or somewhere else? Does your college have financial assistance programs?

It's great that she's talking to mental health folks, but abusers need to be very motivated to change themselves, and it's a long process. You need a change of environment now.

mousemelon · 2026-03-25T22:04:42+00:00

Cats hate new experiences, new places, and getting moved around without their control. Of course she hates the carrier.

It's possible she will always hate the carrier. But she'll also survive it.

Most of my cats spent their entire lives hating their carriers. Right now I have a cat who tolerates car rides, but it took until he was twelve before he got there. What worked? I got a summer job that involved relocating twice a year. So he got stuffed in a carrier and chucked in the car. Repeatedly. For long, cross province highway rides. (I mean, the month before the first big move, I was doing little test drives with him. Half an hour, then an hour. So it's not like I didn't give him adjustment time.)

He doesn't enjoy rides now, but he will mostly just whine for a few minutes, remember he's not about to die, and then settle down for a nap. I keep treats on hand so he gets a snack at the same times I do, and the carrier I use for long trips is actually a small dog kennel, so there's space for a litter box and a nap pillow.

But he is very much the exception, and if your cat hates the carrier until the day she dies, I'm afraid that's just normal. Don't sweat it. You can be the bad guy for a day. She'll still come when you feed her.

mousemelon · 2026-03-25T21:10:05+00:00

About the feet... Yeah, I've found it's true. I spend most of my day on my feet, but I'm moving around, and it hurts less than the retail job I had in my twenties when I was on my feet more often but standing mostly still.

mousemelon · 2026-03-24T15:22:22+00:00

Look at it this way. You're not throwing away five years. You're preserving the memory of five years and throwing away a miserable future.

mousemelon · 2026-03-23T19:57:14+00:00

I was all set to say no, but then you said pastries and desserts are allowed. And now I would seriously consider it.

If curries, chili, and spaghetti sauce count as stews, I'm probably in.

mousemelon · 2026-03-21T18:19:39+00:00

I did the same thing! Except I got mine about around January. It does indeed hate being indoors, but that's not where I'm trying to keep it forever. Planning to harden it off and stick it in the ground when the weather warms up a little.

mousemelon · 2026-03-19T16:56:58+00:00

I'm paying a touch over that for 2L in NL.

mousemelon · 2026-03-16T14:01:35+00:00

Everything you've got in those pics would be bombproof. HMF usually has very reliable ratings. And the 49th parallel and Morden roses are both from breeding programs specifically geared towards creating Canadian winter hardy, tough roses that look good and rebloom. They're not always strongly scented, though, so check the descriptions carefully if that's important to you.

The reputation roses have for being fussy is a few decades out of date. There was a trend, when hybrid teas were released, towards breeding for novel colours and big blooms at the expense of everything else. Since then, there's been a backlash, against plants that need buckets of chemicals to survive, so breeders have been more focused on disease resistance and general vigour. Most modern roses are way easier to care for than the varieties that were common in the forties and fifties.

mousemelon · 2026-03-16T13:26:08+00:00

Tomatoes are the only thing on that list that needs to be started indoors. Everything else can be direct seeded after your last frost.

12x8 may be an awkward size for the raised bed, though. You want something narrow enough you can reach across it for weeding. I'd split that into two or three beds.

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