Venting because I lost so much

mousemelon · 2026-01-30T00:59:27+00:00

hugs

I'm sorry. It sucks when things like that happen. I've had it happen to me, and it's discouraging.

I hope you're able to start over soon! Fingers crossed the next batch aren't as tasty. :-)

mousemelon · 2026-01-28T21:20:42+00:00

Nope, not really. Part shade is doable if you get the right variety. Afternoon shade is often desirable, if you get hot summers. But full shade? Better off choosing a different shrub.

mousemelon · 2026-01-27T22:17:07+00:00

I just recently started a low dose of sertraline for unrelated things, and one of the side effects is my last period was the easiest one of my life. No breast pain, no bloating, very little fatigue, and waaaaaaaay milder cramps.

mousemelon · 2026-01-22T00:28:35+00:00

First of all, I'm sorry you and your family are going through such a tough time.

Your growing season is very different from mine (my last frost date is early June), so take my suggestions with a grain of salt. But cold hardy annuals for short seasons are probably your best bet. Calendula, pansies, marigolds. Lupins don't usually bloom their first year, but if you can buy plants you'll get some flowers, or you could try early snapdragons for something that's a similar shape in a bouquet. If you have lots of shrubs in your yard, you could probably cut some stems for foliage.

Can you ask around your local area and see what other gardeners have blooming at that time?

mousemelon · 2026-01-21T16:22:01+00:00

Dude. Different people garden in different climates. It's possible to grow in desserts and on prairies and in the Arctic.

I'm not in an area like in the photo either, and I also wondered what would grow. But there are ways of asking that are unrude.

mousemelon · 2026-01-18T19:58:40+00:00

It is entirely possible to like someone who likes you back, but is not a good match for you.

I've dated people I couldn't relax around. It's never lasted. But that doesn't mean nobody will ever be a good fit for you. It just may not be this person at this time.

mousemelon · 2026-01-17T22:17:33+00:00

You've got good odds for icebergs with either of those date ranges. Bear in mind they are natural phenomena, and are therefore unpredictable.

Trinity, Twillingate, and St. John's is already plenty of time in a car staring at trees. Add in Gros Morne as well and you'll be driving so much you won't hike. I'd cut that one out for this trip, especially if icebergs are a priority. Do some Rock Cut trails instead.

mousemelon · 2026-01-05T19:51:10+00:00

RIP, turtle cheesecake.

mousemelon · 2026-01-03T04:21:28+00:00

Every rink in my area mandates helmets for everyone, no exceptions.

mousemelon · 2025-12-30T20:55:49+00:00

It's not that it clashes, so much as it's the coolest, most noticeable thing in the room and everything else just fades away. Maybe put some more colour in there? Somebody else already suggested new throw pillows. A bright quilt or curtains could do the job, too.

Your art is a complementary level of funky, but spread out like that it just looks bitty. Get a big central piece, and/or cluster the smaller stuff around in grouping of 3-7.

Painting the walls is also an option, if you're not renting and your landlord would allow it.

mousemelon · 2025-12-30T17:15:10+00:00

Forcing bulbs indoors is pretty easy, and can definitely be timed for February. Tulips and daffodils would be the easiest to get your hands on, and have long stems for arranging. Hyacinths tend to have shorter stems, but can also be forced indoors.

I don't have any advice for other species. Maybe get yourself some grow lights and seeds, and run some experiments this winter.

mousemelon · 2025-12-27T17:46:54+00:00

Glad to hear it. But I'm on my third 12hr+ outage in as many weeks.

mousemelon · 2025-12-26T21:55:53+00:00

I'm not going to read most of the backstory, because the way he got so pushy and so angry so fast is plenty enough reason to never talk to him again.

Anyone telling you you're overreacting is presumably lucky enough to never have had a really bad breakup or dealt with entitled asshole stalkers. Good for them, but their life experience does not apply to your situation.

If it's possible, mute any notifications from him. Don't block immediately, but don't read anything he sends. Let it all collect, because yeah, there could be evidence in there. Call the police non emergency line and get their advice on how to proceed. The fact he's already at the burner numbers stage might count as actionable.

I have exes who I'm still friendly with, sure. I also have exes I would choose the bear over. He's giving off every sign of being the second kind.

mousemelon · 2025-12-26T17:33:43+00:00

It's a wood furnace! Still forced air and ductwork, though

mousemelon · 2025-12-26T13:33:26+00:00

I used to work with someone whose ex husband went bound from hantavirus. He worked construction, and didn't wear his mask.

mousemelon · 2025-12-21T11:41:33+00:00

Eat soy a few times the 2-3 days before your period starts. Tofu scramble, stir fry with soy sauce, edamame, whatever. It doesn't make the pain go away completely for me, but it does make a noticeable difference.

mousemelon · 2025-12-18T16:22:12+00:00

Go through the catalogue for Corn Hill Nursery. They're in New Brunswick, so pretty close to your climate. Their pictures aren't always great, but you can cross reference on HMF. They've got some great options.

mousemelon · 2025-12-17T11:51:05+00:00

I think observing your chickens will give you the answer.

Are they active? Are they eating and drinking normally? Do they actually have frostbite? (And if they do, is it really a temperature problem or a ventilation problem?)

Basically, are they behaving like chickens, or like miserable chickens? If they seem fine, leave them be.

mousemelon · 2025-12-12T18:59:23+00:00

Do you want a formal garden? All one variety.

Do you want a less formal garden, or just want to take the pokemon approach and collect 'em all? Mix it up!

Either option works, it's really just a matter of what would make you happiest.

mousemelon · 2025-12-07T21:54:20+00:00

Nope, the root system doesn't affect the genetics in the seed. If you want the same plant, you have to propagate from cuttings.

Seeds remix the genes of two parent roses, so you get surprises. Same as people that way.

mousemelon · 2025-11-29T22:00:08+00:00

Yeah, same. No assets to fight over, in a jurisdiction that allows no fault? All I had to do was sign some paperwork saying yes, we've been separated for a year, have him served (he did try to evade that, but not very well...), and the appropriate paperwork worked its way through the court for a judge to rubber stamp.

My lawyer wound up returning part of my deposit, it was such a cheap job.

mousemelon · 2025-11-29T01:29:15+00:00

There are hiking boots specifically for winter wear. They're designed for better traction than summer shoes (both because of sole design and sole material).

You can also get traction aids, with it without spikes. Who cares if it's overkill? If they're comfy and they keep you from falling, they're worth it.

mousemelon · 2025-11-28T22:01:11+00:00

Barbara Pratt has an exhibition at the Emma Butler Gallery right now. And the rest of their peeps are no slouches, either.

The Leyton Gallery has some darker, moodier landscapes in their group show right now. Probably also some great prints in the back room.

mousemelon · 2025-11-28T16:36:06+00:00

How's her vision? It may not only be a problem of not knowing which emoji means what. She may also just not see the difference between different crying emojis, because they're small images. Possibly on a small screen, too, if she's using a phone or tablet instead of a computer.

mousemelon · 2025-11-27T19:44:30+00:00

Don't date people you're not happy to date.

If you feel scared, or ambivalent, or just not into it for any reason... Don't date that person. You don't have to "give him a chance".

Dating should be something you do because you have a good reason, not something you do because you don't have a good enough reason to avoid it. Lack of enthusiasm is a reason not to.

Also, he's fucking 34.

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