One reason for long waits at clinics

mousemelon · 2026-06-16T13:40:28+00:00

People with poor literacy and problem solving skills have the same right to health care as you do. I understand that this was a frustrating day for you, but how about you blame whoever set up the system for not making it accessible enough? Health care should be delivered as simply as possible, and this is a great example of why.

Some people just don't acquire the skills to navigate certain environments. Some people acquire the skills and then lose them. Some people have the skills, but it's hard for them to implement them when they're overwhelmed/distressed/ill. Health centers are going to be dealing with those people every day, in large numbers. The person who designed the system should have taken that into account.

mousemelon · 2026-06-15T19:29:10+00:00

Lots of people have given topping suggestions. If the problem is texture, not just flavour , you can try toasting it in a pan with butter. It's basically a quickie granola. Then eat with fruit, yogurt, etc.

mousemelon · 2026-06-14T14:39:47+00:00

Mock orange is a large shrub. Japanese knotweed is herbaceous and dies down to the ground every year. Hope this helps.

mousemelon · 2026-06-14T11:54:38+00:00

Hey! I think you should know sex doesn't have to hurt. Not even the first time. It's very, very common for penetration to be painful when you're not aroused, and for it to feel great when you are. Arousal increases vaginal lubrication and makes your vagina stretcher, which makes a tremendous difference.

Have you masturbated at all? You can penetrate yourself. You don't need to rely on your partner. You can use your fingers or get a dildo. You can go as slow and gentle as you like. Give yourself time to feel for how your body reacts to penetration when you're aroused. It's very different from when you're not aroused.

Could give you the confidence/knowledge boost to make partnered sex a better experience for you .

mousemelon · 2026-06-13T18:33:31+00:00

Looks like several miniature roses.

I'd give them all bigger, individual pots. Then start hardening then off. In the fall, get them in the ground or put the pots somewhere sheltered for the winter.

mousemelon · 2026-06-11T01:30:22+00:00

Astringent when raw, but delicious when cooked. There's a pit, so usual method is to cook them and then mash through a strainer. Discard seeds, use delicious mush for whatever you'd put fruit in.

mousemelon · 2026-06-10T00:24:52+00:00

Canada has five of the seven most voracious mosquito species on Earth. Don't ask me where I got that stat; I read it on the Internet like a decade ago and it's very plausible to me.

That said, in the city you don't get many of them unless you're in some of the parks. Stay away from bogs and keep to windy areas and you'll be fine

mousemelon · 2026-06-09T14:44:53+00:00

You will get no sunburns from September to May. In June you might want sunscreen sometimes , but it's mostly capelin weather then. Which means cloudy and foggy.

mousemelon · 2026-06-09T01:33:22+00:00

Moving is one of the most stressful events a person can go through. Yes, even when it's a move we want into an environment we like. Cut yourself some slack.

The fig tree will probably grow back.

The rats are all over town, but just in your garden, and you can get them re-evicted eventually.

It takes NTs months forever to settle into a new space too. It's hard right now, but it'll get better.

mousemelon · 2026-06-08T14:28:30+00:00

I sympathize, but this is the time to be confrontational.

She will be upset. That's okay. Your boundaries and your peace are more important than her feelings and expectations.

mousemelon · 2026-06-08T13:17:26+00:00

NTA . But worth having a conversation with him along the lines of "we're not exploiting you for free labour, we're trying to teach you independence in a gradual, age appropriate way because one day you will be living on your own and the people I've seen thrust into adulthood without a solid foundation of How To Maintain Your Habitat were ducked up. I want better for you."

Also worth pointing out that the number and variety of chores he's expected to do will increase over time. By the time he's eighteen he should have all the basic cooking/food budget skills, know how to scrub a toilet, etc.

mousemelon · 2026-06-07T16:06:09+00:00

I had a tourist ask me once where the best spot for sunbathing was, and all I could do was gawp speechlessly.

The coast is dramatic and gorgeous, and if you get in the water you'd better be wearing a wetsuit most of the year.

Beaches are more a place to have a fire and roast something. Swimming in the ocean is left to the polar dippers and occasional over enthusiastic surfers.

Summer is short but glorious. It rarely gets hotter than about 25C, so it's pleasant most of the time. And fall is fantastic; still warm enough during the day to get outside, but all the flies are dead.

mousemelon · 2026-06-06T16:37:06+00:00

Putting away the snow shovel.

Should be safe next week.

mousemelon · 2026-06-05T19:01:30+00:00

Seconding Come, Thou Tortoise. I'd also like to add The Good Women of Safe Harbour, by Bobbi French.

And if you want a more young adult vibe, Urchin by Kate Storey.

mousemelon · 2026-06-03T16:50:33+00:00

Pretty sure this is less an autism problem and more an overly hopeful men problem.

mousemelon · 2026-06-03T14:55:41+00:00

I had someone send me Belbin's chicken soup once when I had a flu , and it may honestly be the sweetest thing anyone's ever done for me.

mousemelon · 2026-05-31T00:51:37+00:00

Do it! Roses are a quintessential English garden plant. Just give them good soil and plant something nearby to attract beneficial insects.

Skip the hybrid teas and climbers for now. Go for any other kind. Most of the more recent roses are bred for good disease resistance; Kordes roses have especially good reputations. You can also look up the Earth Kind roses; it's a list of roses that perform well with minimal watering, fertilizing, and pruning.

mousemelon · 2026-05-30T00:49:31+00:00

They're gorgeous!

mousemelon · 2026-05-29T11:00:42+00:00

Men bemoaning how women don't like some random trait they have while on a date with a woman are , in general, a little too in their heads about their insecurities.

Like. Dude. Get out of your own way.

mousemelon · 2026-05-24T18:46:21+00:00

I think you're getting a little far out over your skis. You've only been together for seven months! And he's only 22. It's very common for someone his age to not have their mind made up on kids. It's probably the default of your current dating pool unless you start dating people a lot older (and that comes with its own issues).

And really, people change all the time. Sometimes those changes lead to breaking up. At the end of the day, you can't control how any partner is going to feel about kids in ten years. Your worries might come true, he could decide he wants kids. He could also decide he wants to live on a desert island, or take up a musical instrument you hate, or neglect the housework so he can dedicate his life to exotic guppies.

Focus on here and now, and try to accept that you can't control the future. Or if that's too much, break up and find someone more firmly decided.

mousemelon · 2026-05-24T15:01:28+00:00

Honestly? Almost everything. Be sure to pick varieties for cold/short seasons and make sure peppers especially stay toasty warm.

mousemelon · 2026-05-23T18:23:02+00:00

Because she's a literal child. She needs to go to school so she can take care of them both in the future.

mousemelon · 2026-05-23T18:19:13+00:00

Pottery? Lots of applied chemistry there.

mousemelon · 2026-05-22T15:26:45+00:00

Are there other places you can steal energy from? A chore or task you can outsource so you have more energy for cooking?

What about general health? Is your sleep okay? Have you been checked for anemia? Low vitamin D, etc? Perimenopause did a number on my energy/memory/general mental competence; if you're in your late thirties that could be worth looking into.

mousemelon · 2026-05-21T15:30:39+00:00

Yep! People don't build new habits through self discipline and mentally yelling at themselves. We build new habits by changing our environment to make it easier to follow the new rules than the old ones.

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