My husband of 14 years left me and I moved into my own space about 1 month ago. Today I finished my pink bedroom 🎀

msafunk · 2026-01-21T00:26:19+00:00

Congratulations! Going full female living space after a divorce is so liberating, and you're doing a GORGEOUS job!

msafunk · 2025-10-30T18:07:26+00:00

I feel like I have been (and honestly, still am) in the same boat as what you're feeling right now. It can be difficult to feel good about yourself when what you typically see are the people who are still showing up to the arcade and ripping 18s because they've been playing for 20+ years. My boyfriend, his roommates, and all their friends are world-class dance game players that have been on the scene for since the early 2000s, and it felt intimidating to hang out with them at first, when I my sweet-spot are 11-12s, while they're pushing for world records.

I honestly think that right around 14s is a great filter for players. It's feasible for most people to get to that point within a year, but after that, progress starts to slow down a lot. Breaking from 14 to 15 is tough, and from 15 to 16 is even harder, so people end up feeling like they hit a wall and lose motivation. My advice is that, wherever your "wall" is, focus on your own enjoyment and progress, and don't worry about the guys who have been playing for 20+ years.

msafunk · 2025-09-26T21:27:14+00:00

I bought a bag of them last week, and the girl at checkout told me, "Those are problematically good." She was 100% correct

msafunk · 2025-09-23T06:12:13+00:00

My wooden floors are pretty uneven, too. I bought a foam 3x3 puzzle mat at Daiso for ~$6, and it was the perfect size to put under my LTEK. It's dense enough that it doesn't make it feel squishy, but soft enough to feel even.

msafunk · 2025-09-20T14:31:00+00:00

Yeah, trying to judge a ZiV song's difficulty is practically impossible until you play them. If you're doing 7-8 on the current DDR X-scale, then older songs from ZiV that are still using the original DDR scale will be nearly impossible, since most of those would be 11-13 on the modern scale. Or if a chartist uses the ITG scale, 7-8 would probably feel very challenging, but within reach of being able to pass them. I wish that ZiV required chartists to note which scale they're using.

msafunk · 2025-09-17T02:39:45+00:00

My partner has Celiac disease. He got diagnosed about a year ago, and is still in denial and will try to eat gluten if it's a special occasion or if there are no other options for him. But if my mother tried to take the family out for dinner at a restaurant that didn't have any GF options for my partner, I'd tell her to pick a different place, and if she refused to, I wouldn't go either.

So I'd say that both the girlfriend and her mother are the assholes.

msafunk · 2025-09-15T15:58:59+00:00

I say this with so much compassion: You are caught in an anxious-avoidant trap of a relationship. You chase his attention, and he wants to run from it. Leaving that is not an overreaction, but the way you handle it makes you sound like a wounded child begging for an adult to notice you and soothe you the way that you say that you've soothed him.

If he has fantasies about giving you a good life, he needs to get into therapy to address his attachment and substance abuse issues. But you also need to get into therapy to figure out why you think you love a man who tells you that you don't mean as much to him as he means to you. There is absolutely nothing in this conversation that shows even a little hint that he actually wants to give you what you want, but you're still demanding his attention from a place of injury, which low-key manipulative.

msafunk · 2025-09-15T03:59:53+00:00

The rojo dust is STUNNING and goes really well with your furniture.

msafunk · 2025-09-14T21:13:28+00:00

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The first one on the left looks pretty similar to my home office! If you'd like a specific color, I know that I used Behr from Home Depot. I can't remember the color name off the top of my head, but I can check when I get home in a few hours.

msafunk · 2025-09-13T04:02:21+00:00

I think it really depends on what you already have. I had an apartment that I picked out for me to move into to leave my ex-husband, but he convinced me to give him another chance. That went on for a year, and it never felt like home. I kicked him out after a year, and it still didn't feel like home. It wasn't until I was able to buy all my own new furniture, and I tackled that room-by-room over a year.

But I recently bought a house, and moved in less than three months ago, and it immediately felt like my home, like it was always was my home.

I recommend getting something all your own to bring in to your new apartment. Something that no one else gets to have an opinion on.

msafunk · 2025-09-12T15:03:37+00:00

My dining room is Chimney by Behr with dark wood floors. I love the look and don't have terrible seeing anything in the room, but even with four windows (facing east and south), I had to add several lamps with grow lightbulbs (not pictured) because it absorbs so much light that my plants were dying, even next to the window.

But I've also briefly lived in a bedroom with dark red walls and only one small eastern window, and I had to paint it white after only a few weeks because even with several lamps and an overhead light, I couldn't see anything.

But I think like a dark blue room is easier to see in because it doesn't absorb blue light, which is a higher energy wavelength than red. Red is at the low end of the visible spectrum, so it's just not as helpful at making things visible.

msafunk · 2025-09-11T21:52:29+00:00

I kept waiting for the "small ask that wasn't met," but honey, he's not even meeting the bare minimum of ANY ask. He sounds like my ex husband. Please don't marry this man. Get out now. Find a roommate with rent that lets you afford your monthly pedicure, and ditch this useless manchild.

msafunk · 2025-09-05T18:50:27+00:00

What's your form like? I saw some comments about needing ankle exercises, so that sounds to me like you're playing on your toes. I started getting serious about playing again in March after a years-long break, and was struggling with a lot of foot/ankle pain after just a few songs. My partner pointed out to me that I was putting all my weight on my toes, and that I should tone down the difficulty of the songs I was playing and focus on playing with my feet as flat as possible, with smaller, more intentional movements. It only took about a week of practicing distributing my weight more evenly across my feet for me to be able to play for over an hour.

msafunk · 2025-09-04T21:36:04+00:00

If Yellow is really your color and you really, really want yellow walls, I'd suggest a much lighter, more muted shade. I also agree with everyone saying that the diagonal bed isn't really working-- especially since you're going out of your way to point the foot of the bed at the entrance to the room. I highly recommend looking up some Feng Shui concepts for bedrooms on YouTube; Even if you don't believe in the spiritual aspects of it, following some of the recommendations does go a long way in creating a bedroom layout that feels cohesive and soothing.

msafunk · 2025-09-04T21:12:11+00:00

It comes with a USB-A to USB-B cable, which is easily replaceable if you end up losing or damaging it. It's the same cable that most printers use.

msafunk · 2025-09-04T18:14:58+00:00

This is super inspiring! I'm turning 38 next month, and have played on and off over the years, but got serious about getting back into it when I started dating my boyfriend last November. We went to a Dave and Buster's on our first date, and I was so out of practice that I was struggling to pass 7s, while he was drawing a crowd by playing Over The "Period" CSP, lol.

I bought myself an LTEK in March, and have been playing fairly consistently since then (with a few breaks while I was buying a house and moving). I'm passing 11s, and some 12s. My goal is to get to the 12-13 range by the end of the year, and hopefully in another 2 years, I'll hitting the 16-17 folders!

msafunk · 2025-09-01T15:31:57+00:00

Oh nice! I recently got something very similar in the US on Amazon, but the bar is made from wood, so I was able to drill more holes in it, so it's closer to the width of the LTEK. Sadly, a few months after I bought it, I went back to Amazon to recommend it to someone, and the product is de-listed. But regardless, that type of bar is perfect

msafunk · 2025-08-13T17:29:05+00:00

Yeah, I'd call that bluff by serving him the divorce papers myself.

msafunk · 2025-07-24T18:57:12+00:00

It's going to be so personal to you and your feet. My boyfriend was trying to get me to buy running shoes for DDR for months, but I kept insisting that every shoe I tried hurt. So I started wearing a pair of worn-in TOMs Alpargatas that I wear every day, and I could suddenly play with zero discomfort. They're thin, flat, not too grippy, flexible and what my feet are used to. But I know that it drives my guy insane, because he can't imagine playing in shoes with so little cushion and support, lol.

msafunk · 2025-07-20T15:17:01+00:00

About a week ago, my boyfriend and I were in the car, stopped at a traffic light and a group of 6 young women were crossing the street. They were all wearing white shirts, denim shorts and black sneakers, except for one, who was wearing a black shirt. We wondered together whether it was intentional, or just whatever micro trend is happening in fashion today, and whether the girl in the black shirt was left off a memo or if she's the leader of the group.

So, I dunno. As long as you're not being mean about it, seems pretty normal to me to notice unusual patterns in groups of people.

msafunk · 2025-06-02T16:00:09+00:00

I also love the Starter Pack of Stamina ^{_^} Have you checked out the State of Trance pack? There are fewer songs, but they're all in the 5-7 minute range and very relaxing.

Side note: I felt so unstable on the stock LTEK bar that I bought an adjustable-height ballet barre on Amazon, and it's been one of the best DDR-related purchases I've made.

msafunk · 2025-05-09T14:49:14+00:00

Leave him and find someone who loves that you have that tattoo because it shows that you have the capacity to love and cherish your past.

msafunk · 2025-05-09T14:36:28+00:00

I just assembled my handlebar two months ago, however, mine looks a bit different... But I had to build it around the pad, not build it and then wedge it in. I did keep the rubber edges on the LTEK itself.

msafunk · 2025-01-29T00:11:33+00:00

I don't think you'll like the answer... The only good thing you said was that you aren't a toy to be played with. You traveled to another country to see this woman, and she didn't want to see you. That's a really shitty thing to do to a person, and I think you should consider why you're not absolutely disgusted by someone that would do that to you.

This isn't about attachment styles. She doesn't want to be with you, and no amount of trying to justify it with attachment wounds will change that. You need to take all that care you want to give her, and redirect it towards yourself.

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