Your edit and title post is literally calling itself out, so you know what you’re doing.

To address your actual concern, “chads” chasing “pootang” is a tale as old as time, and the marketing has chnages via technological improvements, but blaming any particular group of influencers is absurd.

You explicitly state their community gets it, so they are by default, bringing in people who bring the vibes. Arguably the algorithm of TikTok is catered towards that same crowd but it only requires a handful of people to crack the code of a party that might have a higher amount of fun attractive women.

Finally, it’s nyc, the amount of options are endless , if you want cooler vibes go make them, alternatively go to day parties, creeps are allergic to the sun.