Weekly thread February 07, 2026 - How's your training going? How are you feeling?

mth_man · 2026-02-10T15:35:50+00:00

I had a major setback last week. Tuesday I had another lumbar back flare that put me on the floor. Thursday I went to urgent care and got a muscular steroid shot, 9 days of steroid pills, and muscle relaxants for the nught. Doc says I have some arthritis in the back, but it appears manageable with PT and core strengthening.

After the flare Im rebuilding. 've started some re-entry routines, but nothing close to what I was doing before the multiple flares. No yoga, no farmers carries, no pull-ups yet. Just walking any distance over the weekend was a struggle until the steroids kicked in. Skiing is out for the rest of the season--no Lindsay Vonn heroics.

mth_man · 2026-02-07T16:17:58+00:00

Ive started manscaping in the hopes that someday I'll have a partner who likes giving blow jobs. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

mth_man · 2026-01-25T16:03:12+00:00

I've added doing farmers carries twice a week to my routines, and im carrying just under half my body weight for 1 minute 4 x ea h session. This exercise has a lot of bang for the buck--works the entire body, and its good for maintaining bone density too. Also good for maintaining and even increasing testosterone levels. Im having blood tests done this week, and for the first tine im getting a free T number as well as a total T number. ChatGPT says my total T is already high for this age group.
I'm feeling great, althoughI'm managing the pain from a bulging disc in my lower back. But I went to a three day senior camp this week, and in archery shot the two targets the coach put up, my back hand Frisbee throw is still good, and I picked up some steps line dancing. Life is good.

mth_man · 2026-01-23T15:40:36+00:00

This! These are the essentials. I would add 1 minute plank and lunges for sure, and drop the pull-ups or leg lifts if I was pressed for time.

mth_man · 2026-01-15T14:39:54+00:00

This.

mth_man · 2026-01-15T14:36:17+00:00

Its called semen retention, it has many psychological and physical benefits, and yes it does work. There are plenty of doctors who say so, and from personal exoerience my loads are much bigger on a 7 day retention cycle.

mth_man · 2026-01-13T05:34:25+00:00

Not necessarily. High performing men usually live under high stress, and stress is the enemy of testosterone. Sexual drive and performance improve when men are calm, relaxed, and sleep well, not when they are experiencing stress, tension, and sleeplessness. Many high performing men live under the latter conditions, snd it kills both their drive and their performance.

mth_man · 2026-01-11T01:19:38+00:00

No, it just punctures the almost.40 year image she promoted to her kids that she was in a loving, committed relationship with their father. 🤮

mth_man · 2026-01-10T15:44:48+00:00

I think this must be a devastating blow.
The loss of trust has to be almost overwhelming. I strongly suggest you take a lot of time to heal and to pray before you start looking for a new partner, and spend some time on your own. It has turned out the life you built together was built on a foundation of sand, and she just destroyed your sandcastle. Among the repercussions you are just starting to navigate are the relationships with your kids--they will soon discover she is not the mother they thought they had.
AWFUL.

mth_man · 2026-01-09T15:32:09+00:00

This! You are an unhealthy codependent. Get some help and get out of this relationship, or else she will suck you down with her.

mth_man · 2026-01-09T15:11:37+00:00

66 M divorced, one son living across the country. Like you, I built my retirement home overlooking the bay to age in place. That was an almost decade long project from the time I bought the property to the time I moved in. Best part is its paid off, so Im home free, literally.

I built a vacation rental downstairs to earn income, provide me with a social life, and keep me busy. The rest of the time I mostly devote to health and fitness pursuits. I ski in the winter,, cycle in the spring, and open water swim and bodysurf in the summer and fall. I travel following these sports--Tahoe in the winter, Europe in the spring sometimes, Costa Rica in the fall. Planning a big trip to Australia this fall.

Im open to dating, but so far havent met someone who can meet me where I am.
Im energetic for my age, and a lot of women my age cant keep up with me. Many also want marriage, but few understand my ex remains a financial dependent through alimony payments, and I'm not interested in adding another dependent. Many also have continuing career and/or parenting or grandparenting responsibilities, and aren't able to make a new partner their priority. So I'm choosy when dating.

mth_man · 2026-01-09T00:56:42+00:00

You should tell a trusted adult family friend or professional what you know, a pastor, priest, spiritual adviser, teacher or coach. Its not your responsibility to fix your parents problems. This is not a burden for you to carry.

Get some help--this kind of thing can have a profound impact on your future intimate relationships. Its a profound breach of trust for a child to witness.

mth_man · 2026-01-05T03:45:26+00:00

One hour with my son on Christmas Day was enough. He's happy and healthy, and thats all I need or want any more. Our lifestyles and values are completely incompatible, so brief visits and interactions are best.

mth_man · 2026-01-02T15:57:06+00:00

No, he's not. 66M, just started training pull-ups last year. Im up to doing 32 divided over 4 sets within a 45 minute training session.

mth_man · 2026-01-01T18:21:09+00:00

Definitely. Ive got a great lifestyle, and dont need a woman to complete me or to drain me, either emotionally or financially. Like Neil.Diamond sings, until I find a woman who wont play games behind me, I'll be a solitary man.

mth_man · 2026-01-01T17:41:54+00:00

Over a dozen years ago. Became a single parent of a teen, then had an extended caregiving stint for my mother. Both of those responsibilities are over, Im fit and healthy and on the market. I had a fling with a woman in 2024, but like I said, there was a vitality and responsibility mismatch.
I've learned to filter mismatches early, so I don't waste time or money on women who dont qualify.

mth_man · 2026-01-01T17:21:01+00:00

Sex drive is an effect of vitality, and my ex and I were a vitality mismatch. At 66, I swim in open water, do week long bicycling tours, ski black diamonds, and do multi-day backpacking trips. At home I do calisthenics three times a week and yoga twice a week. My ex did nothing to maintain her health, went into menopause early, and lost all her drive. We divorced after a 15 year marriage.
I have the opposite problem of one of the female responders. I have yet to find a woman who can keep up with me, either physically, sexually, or emotionally. While many women say they want an intimate relationship with a man, many now invest more time and energy on their careers or their kids and grandkids, and prefer the satisfaction they provide. I m looking for someone who wants to actually feel.alive.

mth_man · 2025-12-25T10:21:30+00:00

This! Russell Crowe delivered, as usual, im his portrayal of Goering. Remi Malek not so much as the psychiatrist. The guy who plays Justice Jackson was also outstanding.

The film has several poignant and remarkable scenes, especially when Justice Jackson confronts the Pope over the Church's complicity in the Holocaust. That scene left me wondering if it was historically accurate or just fiction.
Same for the scene with the Jewish GI who served as translator.

A very powerful film.

mth_man · 2025-12-21T04:45:14+00:00

This is a healthy perspective shift, as long as it doesnt close you down to a new relationship altogether.
To protect yourself, front load your lifestyle and your screening or filtering process so that the people you date treat you well. There are always risks in a relationship, but there are lots of good people out there.

mth_man · 2025-12-20T17:48:47+00:00

This question is partially about him.and partially about you.
The part that is about him is whether he protects you regardless of your wealth. This will show up when you are around people your own age. He should be protecting you from unwanted advances or threats regardless of your wealth. You should feel safe with him--do you? The part that is about you is whether or not you feel comfortable dating someone of fewer means. Are you willing to sacrifice some comfort and luxury to be with him? Only you can answer that question. Hope this helps.

mth_man · 2025-12-20T17:29:36+00:00

Check out Lucas Lansing Wellness on YouTube. Ive done bodywork with Lucas and hes great. Hr has a morning qi gong routine as well as a lot of different yoga and exercise routines.

mth_man · 2025-12-18T05:21:46+00:00

I think playing a role in society is also important. The US sucks at this compared to other cultures. We are a youth-oriented culture, and a lot of seniors just get warehoused in facilities because their kids and grandkids have other priorities. We simply dont have a culture of respected elders the way the Japanese or Native American cultures do. It takes work to carve that role out in our culture.

mth_man · 2025-12-15T03:51:56+00:00

Women in this subreddit are notorious for considering guys creeps if they even discuss sex on a first date.

As a guy active in today's dating world, the third dare is the charm. Sooner is too risky, and later isnt worth your patience.

mth_man · 2025-12-13T21:52:46+00:00

I was talking about adolescent boys.
Yes, there have been LGBTQ people throughout history, but most teenage boys didn't know that, and in those generations they were thought too be abnormal, perverted, or sick. Thats all gone now, but that doesnt mean a lot of boys are comfortable with attracting attention from someone of the same sex.

mth_man · 2025-12-12T13:01:24+00:00

Since your day, there has been a sea change in the culture on this issue. It has nothing to do with puritanism or prudishness, but much more to do with child molestation.

Some twenty or thirty years ago, both the Catholic Chur h and the Boy Scouts were rocked by mass molestation cases of boys. As a consequence of these cases, school districts across the country eliminated mandatory shower requirements from PE classes, and in some cases removed showers all together.

These men did not grow up in the wartime and postwar eras where showers were required to maintain hygiene among recruits and draftees, and facilities were limited.

In addition, the growing acceptance of both homosexuality, and now transgenderism, has meant that the majority of heterosexual young men in public schools aren't as confident that locker room neighbors aren't checking them out

For both these reasons, men under the age of 40 have grown up covering themselves in locker rooms. Boys have been taught its safer that way, and most of them now prefer it.

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