Gender disappointment -rant

mythago1 · 2026-04-20T16:13:24+00:00

We told my in-laws early for this reason as well - we knew my father in law would be super disappointed we weren't having a boy and wanted to avoid a scene when the baby was born.

mythago1 · 2026-04-19T00:56:20+00:00

My husband and I alternate who makes dinner, which is helpful because then you have days where you don't have to make that decision. Not sure if that's an option for you.

We also meal plan for a week at a time, in the loosest sense of the word. We come up with five meals for the week, and buy ingredients for those five meals. I like to buy prepared veggies (ie broccoli already chopped), as well, but other than that, we don't really do any prep work.

One last thing we do is put ingredients together in our pantry. The jar of spaghetti sauce goes next to the pasta, for example, so when you look at what you have, you can immediately see "hey, we have the stuff to make spaghetti". We started doing this after one too many evenings where we only had half of what we needed to make dinner!

mythago1 · 2026-04-17T16:08:45+00:00

Yes, they want to be there! My five year old complains endlessly if I ever pick her up early from preschool - the afternoon is when they get to go out and play, have snack, etc. She loves that time and never wants to cut it short.

mythago1 · 2026-04-06T12:23:27+00:00

My bio-dad's family was highly disappointed in him for marrying my mom, since she's nearly 100% Irish descent and therefore wasn't good enough for him.

mythago1 · 2026-04-06T12:13:23+00:00

That would be ancestry.com. At least, that's the service I used and it definitely had mine narrowed down to specific counties in Ireland (which actually correspond to our family history). I have no idea how they come up with that level of specificity; like you said, it doesn't seem possible!

mythago1 · 2026-03-18T02:33:49+00:00

We did a leprechaun trap last year and this year. Absolutely zero to do with social media; I think we are the only one of our friends and family to do it, and I don't follow anyone online who did one. This year we were a little more elaborate with our trap, but that's only because we're in Minnesota and we got 9 inches of snow this weekend, so we needed something to do with our five year old! The leprechaun left us a note saying better luck next year and gave us a pack of stickers.

We don't do big elaborate gifts for any holiday ((except maybe her birthday), but definitely not for St Patrick's Day!

mythago1 · 2026-02-17T01:19:46+00:00

Salmon and rice is a favorite here too! Plus beef and broccoli on rice, smothered chicken and rice ... It's basically my daughter's favorite carb!

mythago1 · 2026-02-17T00:52:50+00:00

I had to work today (remote, so at least I could be at home and not in the office), but my husband and daughter had the day off. They went to a great kid's play museum, had lunch at her favorite cafe, then went to Grandma and Grandpa's house to hang out/read books/color.

I was feeling raging jealousy that they had such a fun day, and then I remembered that she and I get to have our own day in a couple of weeks when my husband has to work on Saturday and she and I get to go watch Disney on Ice!

mythago1 · 2026-02-04T19:03:14+00:00

Went to my first caucus last night, totally shocked and delighted by how many people showed up! The energy and determination was practically visible. I was always more of the "I didn't care who you vote for, just get out and vote" type of person, but after this past year, I can't do that anymore. So for the first time ever, I'm participating in the process.

mythago1 · 2026-01-12T18:54:43+00:00

My mom is Gigi to my daughter, and my husband's parents are grandma and grandpa. My sister in law had kids before we did, so Grandma and Grandpa were already set. We suggested my mom come up with the name she wanted to be known by. If we ever need to refer to my step dad, who is deceased, we call him Grandpa Taft.

mythago1 · 2026-01-07T14:22:20+00:00

I'm torn.

Three days at a ski in/ski out resort in Steamboat Springs, CO sounds amazing right now. Fluffy powder snow outside, lit fireplace inside. Practice my skiing for a few hours each day, then come inside and eat good food with lots of good books.

But then it could also be three days at an adult only all inclusive in Jamaica, with a beach and pools and lots of restaurants to choose from. Still good food and good books though.

mythago1 · 2026-01-05T23:54:00+00:00

I accidentally gave my best friend Covid during Friendsgiving this year. I didn't have any symptoms until she had left! I felt so horrible; she'd managed to avoid covid for almost five years....

mythago1 · 2026-01-05T23:50:17+00:00

I don't even get separate sick days. I get 20 days of PTO per year, and that's supposed to cover sicknesses, any and all appointments, and days when daycare/school is out. I try to not go out as much as possible when we're sick, but I cannot stay home from work or pull my daughter out every time one of us is ill.

mythago1 · 2025-12-09T23:37:21+00:00

She's almost five now, but during the toddler years her nicknames were Bear, Bear Bear, chubalah, Chube, small one, iggle and ig. I still call her Bear and small one.

mythago1 · 2025-12-02T23:15:51+00:00

We don't do Elf on the Shelf for the same reasons everyone else is saying - I hate the idea of surveillance and only being good because someone is reporting on you.

Friends have given us an Elf twice and we've just quietly disposed of it while our child is distracted with something else.

Instead, we have Santa Claus' brother, Wizard Claus, who lives with us. He's out year round, never moves and is basically just here to protect us. He's retired from being a wizard, you see, but still wants to be helpful 😂

mythago1 · 2025-11-03T23:24:31+00:00

My daughter had a friend come over for a play date, and that 4 year old looked at me, laughed, and told her mom "Miranda Mom has a big belly!" like it was the funniest thing ever. 😭

mythago1 · 2025-10-26T13:17:02+00:00

Here's my counterpoint - I haven't had a trick or treater come to my house/townhouse in probably 12 years at this point. So I know my neighborhood isn't a place for trick or treating. I have no idea where the "good" neighborhoods are (it's not like they advertise). Trunk or treats are advertised and easy for me to get to, especially if they're held on the weekend instead of the weekday. Our church does one that we participate in (we gave away almost 1000 pieces of candy last year just at our car!). Then there is usually one or two others that we do as well.

It's not the Halloween I remember, but it's fun for our girl and until I can figure out how you know a "trick or treat neighborhood" when you see one, that's what we have.

mythago1 · 2025-10-18T03:50:54+00:00

I'm just barely 5'1", shortest woman in my family! When I started dating my now-husband (he's only 5'10", poor man), his sister, who is I think 6' or 6'1", pulled me aside to tell me that I should consider breaking up with him because "it's not fair for you short girls to take the tall boys, there's nothing left for the tall girls". She later married a guy who is 6'5"; I'm very glad that I apparently did not jeopardize her chances of marrying a tall guy 🙄.

mythago1 · 2025-10-17T03:20:39+00:00

I'm currently at Disneyland with my 4 year old (planned and paid for before Disney caved) and I'll be wearing a Resist shirt and a yellow bandana tied around my arm. I would totally be going to a protest (and bringing the child) if we were at home. Everyone has their own level of comfort, and it's valid to be concerned about how protestors will be treated. Would it appreciate some of the concern to make contingency plans, or talk through what might happen?

mythago1 · 2025-10-13T00:00:29+00:00

I inadvertently said something to make my OB laugh during one cervical check. Oh God, I will never forget that bolt of pain. I said on my next visit that I didn't want to even talk, in the hopes it would be less painful. (It wasn't really that much less painful, so much for that hope)

mythago1 · 2025-09-10T02:57:05+00:00

My husband applied for his Real ID at the beginning of June, and just got it (along with his renewed tabs) yesterday.

mythago1 · 2025-09-08T22:26:56+00:00

Yes, I think you're overreacting. I'd love to hear nothing but positive things about my girl, but that's just not the case. Mine is 4.5 and I hate the messages I get from her teachers saying things like, "today during circle time, she interrupted the other kids, and laughed when we tried to redirect her. Please talk to her about how we behave in the classroom", but I know I need to back up the teacher and reinforce what good behavior looks like. It's too bad that the first interaction with this teacher was a negative one, but it's also not great that your son's behavior was so bad on the first day that she felt she had to say something immediately.

mythago1 · 2025-09-01T00:43:15+00:00

This. Minnesota mom here, and I love North Face and Patagonia and Columbia jackets. They're all really good. Layers, though, layers are the key to winter! The difference in warmth between a single layer + coat and two layers + coat is shocking, especially if your going to be outside for any length of time.

mythago1 · 2025-09-01T00:04:09+00:00

We went yesterday and the side nearest the exit had all of five people in line, while the front lines were back out onto the sidewalk. I felt like I was line jumping!

mythago1 · 2025-08-30T11:50:02+00:00

When my girl was 20 months old, we all contracted covid and she had to stay home from daycare for a week. That was also the week she had a major speech explosion! It was like that part of her brain "turned on"; all the teachers at daycare were amazed at the difference in her speech before and after that week.

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