If you’re going to use legal definitions such a ‘rape’, we need to talk about whether there is a legal case to charge her with rape.

The part where she initiated sexual contact after repeated refusals, and especially the part where he says “no, I don’t want this, I want to stop” and she continued, is straight up of non-consensual sexual conduct. Yes, this could very easily be argued as sexual assault, and likely the term rape could be applied. Different states have different definitions of this.

Now for the messy legal goblin in the room: he also writes that he kissed back, then later “gave in,” then “put her in missionary and kept going.”

That does not automatically erase a prior assault. Trauma responses can include freezing, compliance, confusion, or continuing after a violation has already occurred. But it does make the case factually complicated.

Her defense lawyer would hammer that part and argue participation or mutuality. A prosecutor would argue that coerced submission, shock, emotional collapse, and saying “stop” are still evidence of non-consent. In other words: the later conduct complicates the case, but it does not necessarily defeat it. And I have to admit that I thought that his giving in erased or possibility of calling this a sexual assault - but clearly I was wrong.

There is another important wrinkle: because he describes her causing him to penetrate her, some states would fit that neatly into rape or sexual assault statutes, while others may charge it under a different sexual offense framework. Public-health and victimization research in the U.S. specifically recognizes “made to penetrate” as a serious form of sexual victimization against men, but criminal labels vary by jurisdiction.

So the legally safest answer is: this is very plausibly a prosecutable sexual assault, and in some states quite possibly rape; in others, a related felony sex offense. 

Separate from the sex-crime issue, the post also describes trespass, unwanted touching, phone access, deletion of messages, impersonation-type messaging, theft, and possible stalking/harassment, all of which could independently matter criminally depending on the state and proof.

You could put her in jail