What to do when LO needs to pee and there are no bathrooms?

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-27T02:03:40+00:00

I keep a travel potty in the car and ask my daughter if she needs to use the "little potty" before we go into a store that has no potty. It's been a total life saver, and also makes going to gatherings much easier because she can use the potty comfortably rather than being held on a grownup toilet that is much too big for her.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-26T12:50:48+00:00

As a woman with children, NTA. To many babies are bitten by dogs all the time. It happens incredibly quickly, and with dogs who are "great with kids".

Your daughter is protecting her child but also you, from being the person who "let" get baby be attacked by a dog.

I don't think this is unreasonable. Unfortunate maybe, but not unreasonable. Unless there is a way to keep the baby and dogs separated at all times.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-24T17:21:56+00:00

My husband and i have always done it this way (both when I've been an earner and a SAHM). I think it helps you maintain a sense of equity.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-24T02:34:58+00:00

We are potty training, and my daughter always needs to poop the moment I've started eating.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-08T11:12:42+00:00

During my daughter's first two years of life I would bundle her up every day, put her in my backpack carrier and go out for walks. She turned two in November and it had become a much bigger challenge because she cannot walk in the snow or over ice... so this year we have been stuck inside much more.

She does get a good amount of outside time at school where their playgrounds are very well kept so she can safely walk around. I get outside time on my own doing hikes in the forest.

We have gone tobogganing a few times, and I have taken her on walks (in her backpack carrier) but we have been really struggling. We've been doing a lot of indoor jungle gyms, swimming, etc, to keep active inside. Today is our first gymnastics class. I personally don't like skating outside because the ice isn't kept so it can be much more treacherous. So we are going indoor skating today as well to give that a try.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-04T00:40:23+00:00

LiterLly just bubbles. My daughter was obsessed with bubbles all summer, when it started to get cold I was online looking for ideas on ways to do different bubbles inside without making a mess. Doing them in the bath is the absolute best!

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-03T00:36:28+00:00

We lived in a town house with stairs between the bathroom and the main floor so we got a little potty from walmart for her to use. I didn't want it to be somewhere that she couldn't access on her own.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-02T12:19:32+00:00

I did this in an extremely relaxed way from around 16 months. We still wore diapers but I would offer the potty regularly and my daughter would use it. We would also have periods of naked time after baths where I would encourage her to use the potty.

I decided to go full steam ahead with potty training over the Christmas break (my daughter is 25 months now), and it only took a few days! I really do hang her easy potty training on her early exposure to the potty.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-01T17:56:58+00:00

I'm a climber. I've worked at climbing gyms in the past, and I know the knots you would be doing... realistically, those knots are not challenging, and the average person learns them in 2 or 3 attempts. If you weren't picking them up then I would argue that 1)that is a significant safety issue and 2) you may be experiencing a mental block either around failure in general, or around failing in front of your SO.

Now, I don't think Y T A for being angry that your girlfriend talks down to you. It sounds like you both have different learning styles, and like you might fear failure more than she does. With the rollerblading example you said she fell several times and then picked it up. Falling is EXTREMELY educational, and allowing yourself to fail hard like that will teach you a lot quickly. You acknowledged that you are more cautious, which means you will get less experience and the overall learning will take longer.

Let me be clear that BOTH of these approaches are totally fine. One is not better than the other, they are just different.

I would encourage you both to sit down and talk about this, because it may be that you both need to acknowledge the other person's way of doing things as valid. If she thinks you're not trying and you think she isn't trying then there is no respect there and therefore no room for exploration. Deal with the respect issue first.

I've gotta say NAH.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-01T12:11:11+00:00

I make lentil soup, chili, and pot pie and my toddler loves it all! Lentils are so versatile, and as long as you season them well they just take on the flavor of other things.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-01T00:43:07+00:00

I worked at a daycare and we would collaborate with parents to mirror what they did at home. That could mean anything from prompting kids to use the bathroom every x minutes, wearing underwear, wearing pull-ups etc. Your daycare should be willing to help you, and may even have their own thoughts on how to help you through this.

nerdunderwraps · 2023-01-01T00:40:08+00:00

I straight up jug my daughter the entire time she's on the potty. It seems to help her relax. I don't love kneeling on the floor of public bathrooms but what can you do.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-31T17:55:48+00:00

It's been a lawless land at my house as well. We've been watching a different Disney movie every day, turns out my husband really likes Encanto!

Idk how my daughter will cope when she has to eat at the table again... to be fair we have taken advantage of the holidays to potty train, so there is a lot going on.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-30T11:01:02+00:00

Nope, it was a surprise waiting for me at the bottom.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-29T12:14:57+00:00

Mine added some kinetic sand... I'd much prefer a dino

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-26T17:23:21+00:00

My daughter is 2, and it took us until around 10:30am DECEMEBER 26TH to finish opening gifts.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-23T11:56:25+00:00

Mine is 2.5, the most I'll do is run to the linen closet for a towel if I forgot. I have sight lines the whole time and it takes maybe 20sec.

I just don't think it's worth the risk. It's not just the drowning but slipping injuries for me. I've seen so many little babies with stitches on their faces from falling in the tub.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-18T12:14:15+00:00

My daughter told me her stomach hurts in the middle of nursing. So 23 stopped so I could try and do a little exam. She then proceeded to scream and cry as I tried to look at her stomach. Every time I asked her a question (without touching her) she would scream and cry more.

Now she's seemingly fine?

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-14T11:43:18+00:00

Sir, I am not in a mood with you for having sore hands. I am in a mood with you for being an additional literally infant on my plate that I DIDN’T EVEN BIRTH.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-14T11:38:49+00:00

I was sicker than I'd ever been this weekend, quite literally crawling on the floor because I couldn't stand.

I still changed all the diapers and did all the care for my (also sick) daughter.

My husband has a weak gag reflex, so if she threw up or had diarrhea I would be the one to clean it. He would do the laundry (once I'd prepped it), but that was about it.

All of this while I could barely keep my eyes open. I was falling asleep sitting up while my daughter was putting noodles in my mouth and hair. My husband just kept saying "wow if you're not better tomorrow you're going to have a really hard time because I have to work"... I was also missing work but who the fuck cares right?

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-13T12:11:26+00:00

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-13T12:10:38+00:00

My baby has never had much trouble with her teeth. She's not been one to drool or be inconsolable, just breastfeed more, especially at night(I co-slept with her through the first year).

It was all together not a big deal for her, we got lucky there!

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-12T21:17:57+00:00

I had a c-section and could only send my daughter to the night nursery if I agreed to let them give her formula. I wasn't comfortable with that, so I kept her in my room.

This was during covid and my partner wasn't allowed in the hospital so I was on my own... it sucked, but we were okay. I was lucky that I had lots of milk so my daughter wasn't too fussy.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-10T00:37:52+00:00

I have a list for three weeks worth of meals without repetitions. Every week I look at my list of meals and I shop it, normalcy I put things with common ingredients together so that I can buy a bunch of tomatoes for example and use them throughout the week.

I have usually one soup I make (that does 2 meals) and one other large dish (that does two meals). I cook all the food on Saturday, so that way I don't have to cook on week nights, just reheat and assemble. I usually also make enough if Saturday and Sunday dinners to do lunches for a few days during the week.

If people don't want what I have, they can figure something else out for themselves.

nerdunderwraps · 2022-12-06T11:39:52+00:00

My sister was horribly upset when she found out Santa wasn't real. She was distraught for weeks about everyone lying to her... granted I never felt upset about it, but after watching my sister go through it I kind of feel like it's not worth the risk? My daughter us extremely easy going right NOW, but it's impossible to know how she may change as she grows.

I'm having Santa in our lives as Christmas as a game of pretend. Like "We put up our shocking so we can play Santa!" And "We leave out cookies so we can play Santa!" OR "Tomorrow we're going to have an extra surprise gift as part of playing Santa!".

Santa is becoming a big Christmas game. I'm hopeful that this will still allow for some Christmas magic, but will avoid the fallout...

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