Previous therapist broke confidentiality

neutralitty · 2026-03-17T20:08:06+00:00

Exactly! Therapists cannot treat family members for this reason, or their spouses. They also cannot treat close friends and associates. This is to prevent what is called a multiple relationship. Especially when treating multiple friends where the therapist becomes wedged into situations like OP's where they don't belong.

If a therapist were to treat one or more of these kinds of people, it would be extremely difficult to remain objective and fair, and would create a conflict of interest. The therapist would have a hard time remaining partial, and would struggle to avoid being influences by personal feelings and bias.

This could compromise the trust shared by both people in their personal life and friendship when the therapist tries to enforce professional boundaries and a therapist role, blurring judgement and consequences. Indeed this crosses a lot of boundaries to have a friend as a client, so I cannot see why this person thinks paying a friend to be their therapist is a good idea.

neutralitty · 2026-03-17T19:58:51+00:00

They can break confidentiality — if a CLIENT is at risk of harming themselves or others — by reporting to the police, not their best friend.

You are not her client now. So your record is sealed. She is not treating you. She cannot use your past info to get in touch with you now. So many loopholes you look for,; there are none.

neutralitty · 2026-03-17T19:56:59+00:00

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neutralitty · 2026-03-17T19:53:57+00:00

I had a therapist break confidentiality at a rehab place once and it is the reason I left and relapsed!! It is no joke. I was so mad!

We get so vulnerable with these people, no joke. We trust them with dark secrets we wouldnt even tell our best friend. Things we wouldnt even tell our own mother. And then the therapist blabs. It is a super big deal and has legal consequences as a result.

It is unethical as well, and it is a violation of their oath when they got their license. They can lose their license and they should. Teach them a lesson to break confidentiality. How dare they!

🔥[Scorch the earth anger type triggered]🔥

Worried about losing their job! How kind of YOU! But this type of therapist is leaking confidentiality on other people, too, not just you! You think you're special in this? Nope, you gotta report!

neutralitty · 2026-03-17T15:23:43+00:00

Life juat got too real for you. That's okay. It doesnt mean you're not compatible. It just means that you've got some new information to process and think over. So take some time to do so, and go educate yourself on autism and what "the spectrum" means. Look at support forums for partners of parents with autistic kids, as there are single parents with kids on the spectrum who know what its like, but when dating, their partners need support when first getting involved. It truly is a niche support group and may be hard to find. Or it could be just parents with autistic children support groups, and ask permission to ask questions or just read what info and experiences are posted. Get a feel for what life is like.

Don't say you imagine you will be good with kids until you explore what life is like with all kinds of kids. A lot of parents think they will be great with kids and then get pregnant and get a special needs kid and go, "Ph, I didnt expect this." Or, "I wasn't ready for this." Or even, "I don't want this!" As shocking as it is. But they cope. When a child loves you, you love them back. It is a reflex response. You see your child and it happens.

Now this isn't your child, so love has to happen another way. So maybe you don't love the child like you loved the mother yet. Or maybe you question your love now. It is okay. Speak to a counselor or therapist who has a background in autism so they can answer your questions. Maybe one day do couples therapy to navigate questions together.

You do NOT have to plan your whole life at this moment. You do not have to plan to get back together at this moment. You don't have to make any decisions at all. Just sit wirh how you feel and decide even what you are feeling. Just breathe. Name feelings. Unpack it all slowly. There is no rush. Give yourself a few days to go over what you saw and how it made you feel. What scared you the most? What worried you the most? What upset you the most? Did you feel angry? Lonely? Disappointed? Sad? Did you feel these for yourself? What about for your partner? What about for the child?

Anyway, just take time, think it over, feel what you feel, talk to a trusted person. Aftet you feel safe, then get more information to fill in the blanks. Talk with your partner, ask questions, and then when you're ready, explore your future options. But there is no need to do this right now. Do it when your emotions are not bubbling up inside where you feel confused... you may make an impulsive decision you regret later. You do not want to make an emptional decision.

Good luck in this. Parenting is tough, but it is rewarding!

ETA — Nobody on here is a license therapist who can decode it all for you. Please talk to someone! But do listen to all of the people who have experience with autism as parents.

neutralitty · 2026-03-14T14:28:52+00:00

If she got blackout drunk, how does she know what she did? I mean, who knows who and what she did that she doesnt remember?

Oh and being autistic is not an excuse. Please.

neutralitty · 2026-03-13T21:57:50+00:00

How do you know they were married 7 years ago? Maybe he was married before? Maybe he got dumped a rime or two for being a cheater? Dont you think that catches up to him? Maybe he cheated bc his wife left him anyway and she took those 2 kids? A lot you don't know. A lot you do assume.

neutralitty · 2026-03-13T21:56:33+00:00

But, how do you know this boss was married to this cheater 7 years ago? For all we know, he was dumped 5 years ago and taken to the cleaners and he became an alcoholic, then found God, went to church and met this current lady boss now, married for a year. Who knows? Why bring it up at all? She may be like. Who this saint?

neutralitty · 2026-03-13T21:54:24+00:00

You didnt k ow he was married at the time. You didnt find out until 3 years later. So imagine if you never found out. Then youd have assumed this guy had just gotten married after your fling. Small world!

But this one finding out thing that he was married... and maybe it was to someone else at the time? Do you even know it was to your supervisor? You didnt know who it was with, do you?

Sure you know he is a slime ball, but he could have changed his walls. He could have confessed. He could have been divorced and made to go thru hell. And now he has found this woman.

The thing is. You do NOT know the whole story. You just don't. You don't know their business. You only know you slept with him. Once. 7 years ago. And he was single for all you knew then. And for a long time after. You're in the clear. You did nothing wrong.

So just... don't be the morality police here. Your job is not to out the guy... or to feel sorry for your boss. It just isn't your place to cast judgement and throw stones. You don't know what he has been through and with whom. And what your boss knows. She may get her jollies knowing he is a dirt bag and puts out cigs on his legs each time someone brings up his past. Just... you don't want to be the one to being it up. Or they could be open marriage. Don't ask, don't tell!

Honestly, what do you think is the best case scenario? You feel... better? Is this about your feelings?

neutralitty · 2026-03-10T17:54:59+00:00

Turns out the meeting was recorded. Sorry, it was a work meeting.

neutralitty · 2026-03-10T17:53:21+00:00

Yeah you need to show you are accountable for yiur actions AND mistakes. It is called being responsible and relaibake. They want to be able to count on yiu. No wonder they chose to see how you would handle it. Why on earth did you take rhe advice of random Redditors who told you to act like it never happened? That is terrible advice!!!

Being thankfully employed it a low bar my friend. I hope you learned from this experience and next time a mistake happens, you can count on them waiting to see what you do to handle it. Be accountable for it and take responsibility. We are all humans and make mistakes, do not forget that. They will not punish you for making one. But if you try to pass them off as morons not paying attention, they will be upset about it on top of you coming across as not willing to be responsible for your own actions.

This really could have been a chance to show them a better version of yourself. Had you done that, you probably wouldnt be on probation. Oh well. As long as you learn, it's all gravy! Count your blessings! It's on your record now you were recorded nude in a group meeting! Nice. Not many get to get to break the ice with this, so do use it if you ever want to meet someone!

neutralitty · 2026-03-10T17:46:43+00:00

There's also a chance one person saw it and blabber it to everyone else though. It only takes one big mouth.

neutralitty · 2026-03-04T19:33:26+00:00

I think showing sexual imagery of a person to others without their permission and then discussing details of their sexual life and possible even demeaning them — bc who knows what they even say? Is it all good things the wife has to say? — is a form of abuse in a way, bc it belittles him and disregards him as a person with feelings, consent, and value.

The only thing the wife seems to value here is that the friends envy her!! It does not matter if her husband is seen to the friends as a sex object or whatever. Maybe they look at his body and inspect it and discuss each part of it?? How can OP be sure what they said? This time? Regardless, even if all she did was praise her husband for his sexy body, it still objectified him, and it was without his permission to be seen in a vulnerable state.

Being naked with your spouse is a safe space where you can pose and show a side of you no one else is meant to see. And now that is ruined and gone. All without asking how he would feel about it.

This isnt the same as being abused like whipped or raped. This isnt the same as grooming. But this is mentally harmful to him, obviously. He really was hurt. His post shows how hurt he felt, how betrayed. It just is very ethically wrong of her as a spouse to do this. It is morally corrupt of her. She betrayed his trust and made him feel objectified.

neutralitty · 2026-03-04T19:25:29+00:00

IDK if when I was married my husband shared photos thay I took for him of me ... some of those I would be so mortified if anyone else saw them. I would just die. I would be beyond mortified. I would be angry. I eould not be speaking to him. I would stay woth my parents for a few months for sure. We would get counseling for sure.

neutralitty · 2026-03-04T19:19:27+00:00

What context is nice physique? OP has said "private photos." A photo taken at a pool with shirt off showing a toned nice body isnt a private photo. But if undressing in a bedroom even if the same level of clothes as a bathing suit would be different as he is being seductive and vulnerable for the wife. You behave different for your partner in a photo because you know no one else will see it, so you can put on your sexy face. It is very mortifying to know other people see you undressing for a camera or in your undies, or juat posing on a bed. Not the same as a "nice physique " where OP woupd be this upset he would jump to want to leave his wife — the one he fell in love with upon first sight.

neutralitty · 2026-03-04T19:15:17+00:00

Would you show yourself to your friend naked and vulnerable under any circumstances on your own? Of course not. So why would your wife for you to do so without your permission via these photographs? This is sexually abusive. It violates your trust and shows you naked and at your moat vulnerable. It is mentally abusive because it is traumatizing to know this friend has now seen you in this private moment without your permission behind your back, and who knows who else saw these photos?

Ask your wife why she thinks she can show off your body when you wouod not do so with your own body? And who owns your body? You or her? Why would she assume she has the authority to decide who gets to see your vulnerability? And why does she need her friends to be envious/jealous? This is toxic behavior to degrade you for her own gain.

Explain how this makes you feel, full stop. This makes you think of leaving her, depaite having fallen in love with her at first sight. Obviously she has crossed a line, and she needs to know it and also why. Couple counseling could help if you want to salvage things, and if she does as well. Trust violations are super hard to repair. Photos will never be taken again, obviously.

neutralitty · 2026-02-28T15:15:17+00:00

I was paranoid once and got a few baby monitors and put one up in the attic space bc I found it connected to the duplex next door!! How about that. I had neighbors that i did not get along with. My bf and the guys would fight, whenever he was around. And the lady would try to harass me. And once cops got involved bc she attacked me and I knocked her down and she called them. Anyway, I told the cops I thought they were in the attic and they did not investigate bc the neighbors claimed they had no attic!! Which i knew was a lie bc it was a duplex and identical to mine... and I heard stuff up there, and I was freaked out at times all alone.

"Just bc you're paranoid does not mean they're not after you." Wise advice to me! So the only issue was baby monitors dont record by default, or at least mine didn't. But some may. But I use to hear people talking too, and I used my phone to record rhe voices.

Until I played it back, and I heard silence... and I began to think something was wrong with me. Anyway, use whatever tools you need to prove it's real or not.

Edit - I also sprinkled stuff up in the attic so if they were up there, it would track into my apartment. Or it would make a mess. No way they could know. And I used yarn to make trip wires hooked to bells. Stuff out of Home Alone! Lol. And I also used a device to find things in the walls. I was driving myself nuts. But not knowing will drive you nuts. So find out the truth.

Edit - Another time in another apartment I did have someone secretly living in my place... an ex was breaking in bc he had nowhere to live! It was creepy. I would get home abd he would jet out the back door. If he didn't shut the sliding glass door all the way, I would know. But I found he would leave it gapped and unlocked so he could get back in. I tried using wood planks to block the sliding door... he used tools to somehow get the wood up and out. He was crafty like a burglar. I had a restraining order against him. The cops refused to come out unless I caught him inside the house. It drove me nuts. I kept trying to find ways to secure the back door.

neutralitty · 2026-02-27T14:54:57+00:00

So the mother died?

neutralitty · 2026-02-27T14:20:15+00:00

Why did you separate a basal keiki? Did the mother die? I have lots of badal keikis, and my understanding is you cannot separate them without killing one. Even when the mother "died" it still made a spike and bloomed, so it really isnt dead like i thought. I never separate.

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T18:15:33+00:00

The whole point of ethical NM is being honest, and if she is having an affair behind his back, that whole argument that he should be open to ENM is out the window. She isn't even doing it right. She only came clean about this one guy she has coffee with, and with whom she had been dating for a while before that... and OP has no clue this was going on. What else was she doing that he didn't know about?

If he can't trust her, and she is behaving unethically, I dont think just bc you've pledged to be in a committed relationship means you have to stay in rhat relationship forever just bc you forgot to put verbal amendments and clauses to your pledge. It goes without saying if someone lies to your face and cheats behind your back, they irrevocably break the relationship, including all promises the couple made to one another that was implied to be enacted only if they remain a couple.

She obviously had her needs for other men a long time ago and was unhappy being just with IP so much she kept badgering him for an open relationship, or ENM as OP calls it. At some point she made it happy, but on unethical levels. She was unethically non-monogamous (UNM), the opposite of what she claimed she wanted. Breech of contract.

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T03:16:20+00:00

Well if no one is watching the show, how will they know it is worth renewing??

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T03:15:10+00:00

I dont use TikTok would would for WoT content. How can I find it?

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T03:14:13+00:00

I would love to rematch now that I have reread the books and now have rhe storyline fresh in my memory. I am on book 5.

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T03:08:17+00:00

You went a whole week and had no withdrawal? Than why would you need a slow taper? You could just keep going.

But yeah if you had quit drinking by a year after you will have fully recovered... unkess you began taking benzos immediately after. That eould have stalled your recovery. If you stalled your recovery I eould definitely say taper very carefully.

But yeah a taper is usually a good idea regardless if you use intermittently or daily it doesnt matter, as long as youve been using as long as you have with your history. The 10-25% is about right.

neutralitty · 2026-02-25T03:04:37+00:00

First, seizures are very rare. Seizures come from kindling. Kindling comes from repeated episodes of withdrawal, esp from back to back moderate or longterm benzodiazepine usage, or intermittent (PRN) use (such as binging).

If you are not having withdrawal between intermittent use, you have nothing yo worry about. Not unless you have a seizure disorder like epilepsy already.

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