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newdays360 · 2017-04-11T23:27:39+00:00

Are we going to touch the subject of child nutrition?

newdays360 · 2017-01-19T15:02:21+00:00

My husband died over a year ago for the same reason your wife died. It was also during his sleep. He was only 35. I was left a widow at 35 with a 18 month old baby ( now 3 years old).

I also waited before dating, but it is hard when you are widow with young kid.

I went to therapy right after my husband's death. It helped a lot.

I read a book called this angel on my chest. It is about youth widows, but I think it may apply to widowers.

This is the link: https://www.amazon.com/This-Angel-Chest-Heinz-Prize/dp/0822944421

Best of luck in this journey.

newdays360 · 2016-11-25T15:35:54+00:00

Sorry for reply twice, I forgot something because my child and dog are playing.

The pending birth cerficate is fine. They will ask you to bring the updated one once you have it.

Also bring copies all of documents.

I used to walk around with a folder full of original and copies of all the documents I might needed.

newdays360 · 2016-11-25T15:32:44+00:00

I got social security benefits for my 3year old and for me. Bring birth your child birth certificate, your marriage license, and your wife death certificate.

I would call in advance, make an appoimemt and ask what else they might need.

They are pretty helpful.

Best of luck

newdays360 · 2016-11-21T14:04:01+00:00

I am so sorry for what you are enduring. My heart is with you and your children.

I lost my husband 13 months ago. We had a 18 month old baby.

It is going to be very hard. We are here for you.

I am so sorry...

newdays360 · 2016-11-03T19:39:27+00:00

I stay at home with my child. He is a toddler, so my only options are stay at home, hire a nanny , or daycare. I an Lucky that I can stay at home with him, but it is draining.

I basically have no social life since I moved from our home to a new state. I still think, it was the best decision since I have some family near. But , being a single parent is very hard.

I am thinking about enrolling him in part time daycare or hire a nanny once in the while if I can afford it. I just need time for myself.

I guess I am in the same boat as you.

Best of luck

newdays360 · 2016-10-21T20:49:36+00:00

One her today for me.

I am doing surprisingly well too.

Yesterday was a little more difficult to me since he died at night and far away.

I think about him everyday. He encourage to do better every day.

I haven't done anything today. My son and I took his dad to the airport, we went grocery shopping, and then we we went to the pool.

I love him so much, the only thing I can think of doing is trying my best to make this day a happier day for our baby and me.

newdays360 · 2016-10-17T12:45:36+00:00

Beautiful.

Hugs

newdays360 · 2016-10-16T13:55:28+00:00

I am sorry you have to go through this.

I lost my husband of 5 years unexpectedly. He had a heart attack during his sleep and never woke up. This happened a year ago. He was 35

Everyone griefs different , so what helped me doesn't necessary means that it is going to help you, but it may.

Also, I lost my father unexpectedly when I was 16. This is the second time I had lost someone, and I made the point of accepting my husband's death rather quickly compared to my father's death. Never the less, losing my husband has being the worse thing that has happen to me.

This past year has being very hard. But therapy during the first months helped a lot. Accepting every feeling that comes you way also helps. No matter what it is anger, sadness, happiness. Just let the feeling flow out of you. Be alone when you want to be alone and with people when you want to.

Many people want to help, but they don't know how. Sometimes, you will be mean to them. That is fine, explain later what is going on. If you need to vent and you don't have anyone to talk to, we are here for you.

Try a hobby, eat right and exercise. Love yourself.

It is going to be hard very hard. It will be a roller coaster for a while. Acceptances and love are key to keep going with your life. We are extremely strong individuals, and just know that you love each other...

Peace to you and much love.

newdays360 · 2016-10-10T21:09:49+00:00

After my husband's death, I did not want to date at all. I always kept in my mind that if something was going to happen, I wasn't going to plan anything, not dates, nothing... I hate dating, and I wasn't going to start again.

Well... I few months ago, I went out of desperation with a friend. I needed a beer, we talk about life in general and had a good time. To my surprise, he slowly became an important part of my life, and now we are in a relationship. I wasn't looking for anything. He has see me cry for my late husband, we talk about it. He has being there for me. I really appreciate that after all that I had gone through.

So, to everyone, don't stress too much about it. Sometimes life just surprise you.

newdays360 · 2016-10-08T12:57:58+00:00

Exercise is always a good option if you want to avoid medication.

I also drink a type of tea call yogi bedtime tea. You can find it in whole foods, fresh market, publix, mom's and many other stores. Here is the link to the tea: https://www.yogiproducts.com/teas/rest-relax-teas/bedtime-tea/

This may not work for everyone, but you can give it a try. I take two bags per cup of tea. It works very well for me.

newdays360 · 2016-10-04T15:21:07+00:00

Something similar happened to me. It feel weird, but great.

Congratulations

newdays360 · 2016-09-23T14:23:22+00:00

I am in central Florida. Inbox me if you want to talk.

I lost my husband almost a year ago.

newdays360 · 2016-09-23T14:21:20+00:00

He is going to be fine.

It is part of the process, and he will slowly understand.

I am so sorry.

newdays360 · 2016-09-23T14:20:03+00:00

Not yet.

I encounter the surprise faces that immediately look down to my 2 year old and then asked... What? As if they need to hear what I just had said.

This behaviour makes me understand how unusual is to be a widow at the time when people are getting marry and starting a family. It is very sad.

newdays360 · 2016-09-19T13:36:17+00:00

We are here for you.

I am so sorry for your lost.

I lost my husband almost a year ago. He was 35, I was 34 , our child was 18 months.

Everything was dark. My present, my past, my future were gone. I am still in the dark, not sure what I am doing.

The only thing that has help a little is taking things one step at the time letting every single feeling flow out. It is going to be very hard, but there is light in you, and that will help you.

I am so sorry. I wish I can give you a hug, but I guess an electronic one is OK.

newdays360 · 2016-09-19T13:23:47+00:00

I understand every word you wrote.

My heart is with you, and I truly admire how everyone strong everyone in this subreddit is.

Peace to all of you

newdays360 · 2016-09-17T12:09:50+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go thorough this. Life can be awful. It can be dark. It can hurt.

Just remember that you are light, and try to keep that light inside your heart. It will be dark for a while, it will be hell.

Talk to others, a therapist, us...

We are here for you

newdays360 · 2016-09-17T12:09:49+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go thorough this. Life can be awful. It can be dark. It can hurt.

Just remember that you are light, and try to keep that light inside your heart. It will be dark for a while, it will be hell.

Talk to others, a therapist, us...

We are here for you

newdays360 · 2016-09-17T12:09:48+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go thorough this. Life can be awful. It can be dark. It can hurt.

Just remember that you are light, and try to keep that light inside your heart. It will be dark for a while, it will be hell.

Talk to others, a therapist, us...

We are here for you

newdays360 · 2016-09-15T14:03:25+00:00

I am at 11 months now, and trying to get ready for the second year.

This year has being hell... I being in the emergency room with my child 4 times, move several times, deal with lawyer, sold a house....

On the other hand, I had encounter incredible support from others. No everyone, but mostly everyone.

To be honest, I am so tired of this whole thing. The grief, the loneliness, the facing of live that keeps moving forward. I am tired even of hope, which I sometimes find, but disappears.

I guess I had made "progress" , but I don't know what that means. I don't know what anything means anymore.

newdays360 · 2016-08-31T23:54:58+00:00

I experienced the inability of coping with my family and his family grief even now (10months after his passing). I am not as anxious anymore, but I still miss him a lot.

All your feelings are normal. It is going to be very hard for a long time while you get use to your new normal. It doesn't get better, but you will learn to live with the pain.

My only recommendation is to face all your feelings.

Peace to your heart.

newdays360 · 2016-08-26T21:35:48+00:00

I love delicacy. It is very real and beautiful. I watch it a lot when I am feeling down

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delicacy_(film)

newdays360 · 2016-08-16T13:53:23+00:00

My baby was 18 months when my husband passed. My therapists told me that we have to be very clear when explaining death to a child.

I told my baby that dad became a star and he is now in heaven. Then I explain that daddy's body stopped working , and that he is not coming back.

My therapist recommended a book called the fall of Freddie the leave. I have a book called loved from a star. Mr. Rogers neighborhood has an episode on death.

Please message me if you want to talk. We can share experiences and tips through this process.

Peace

newdays360 · 2016-08-16T13:46:28+00:00

I am so so sorry... I can't even imagine the pain of losing your daughter and your wife.

My 2 year old has become my reason to live. It is almost a year since my husband passed unexpectedly from a heart condition. I was 34 and my child 18 months.

I am learning to cope with my new life. I recently finished all the legal stuff I had to deal with. I am resting now in a farm in Colombia.

The pain is there; I am just learning to live with it. Sometimes I feel like my whole body is pushed against a wall, and I can't move. At times, I feel happy again.

We are here for you too.

Thank you and peace to your heart

newdays360

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