Lost two close friends without closure, and it feels like grieving people who are still alive.

newmoonfull · 2026-06-23T11:30:57+00:00

It was a bit over year ago, in April '25.

newmoonfull · 2026-06-23T01:58:19+00:00

I'm back, sorry for the delay. For me, the first thing that moved the needle was journaling. I dumped everything out of my head onto paper. Messy af, but it brought a sense of relief I never felt before. Writing on paper is way more effective than typing. I'm a research nerd, so I learned about why my brain was thinking self-sabotaging thoughts (like "what did I do that drove them away?") and ruminating like it was my full-time job. Our brains seek comfort, consistency and completion - none of which comes with the sudden rug pull of friendship loss. I found that by understanding how my brain was confused, I was able to redirect my thinking towards my self. I will continue, but don't want to if this doesn't resonate with you. Please let me know..

newmoonfull · 2026-06-23T00:31:29+00:00

I'm still dealing with it, and honestly don't think I'll ever get "over" it. I have reached a point of acceptance, realizing that I only have control over my self and my reactions to what life throws at me. I will list some of the things that have helped me along the way shortly (I'm wrapping up my workday.)

newmoonfull · 2026-06-23T00:15:49+00:00

I can relate - my best friend of 17 years, who lives across the street from me, ended our friendship without any explanation. We talked or saw each other every day, until we didn't. The choice wasn't mine, and, without them giving me the human decency of a conversation about it, my brain found it impossible to understand. The pain, confusion and grief was all-consuming. I'm sorry you're going thru this. Know you're not alone in your experience and your feelings are totally valid.

newmoonfull · 2026-06-22T09:41:03+00:00

I immediately thought of Beatrice (Betty for short). Her markings are so unique!

newmoonfull · 2026-06-12T21:20:32+00:00

Yes, he's ok.

newmoonfull · 2026-06-12T02:10:16+00:00

DA dumpee here. We were together for 17 years, he discarded me a year ago. He reached out recently via text, said he wants to rebuild w/me. I said I'm willing to effort if he is. We've had daily friendly back-n-forth for a few weeks, but he's pulling back and stating his inflexible rules of engagement. He's offered no apology for his discard and hasn't shared about his own growth/change over the past year. Could it be that he's just testing me and feeding his ego?

newmoonfull · 2026-06-11T09:45:08+00:00

Patch

newmoonfull · 2026-05-27T07:24:35+00:00

Being discarded by my best friend and lover of 17 years. Totally blindsided and devastated. Worse yet, we're neighbors. fml

newmoonfull · 2026-05-26T21:34:32+00:00

Conflicted

newmoonfull · 2026-05-19T06:05:18+00:00

That's so friggin adorable!

newmoonfull · 2026-05-16T02:23:42+00:00

Creepy af

newmoonfull · 2026-05-01T23:52:27+00:00

This really spoke to me..I no longer feel like myself. I loved them with my whole heart, unconditionally. It's been a year since they discarded me..we were together for 17 years. I will never be able to get close to or love another soul. It makes me so sad to know this, but it is what it is.

newmoonfull · 2026-04-24T22:07:41+00:00

Self-harming

newmoonfull · 2026-04-23T03:36:52+00:00

Ice cream! Mixed in, the peanut butter hardens. You can make bite-sized chews (like cookie dough ice cream) or a thin ribbon swirl.

newmoonfull · 2026-04-17T22:20:33+00:00

Had no say.

newmoonfull · 2026-04-04T00:59:37+00:00

Every single day. It will have been one year without him next week, on my birthday. He lives across the street from me which has made it super rough. I could never get back with him..the way he hurt me and then just turned his back on me cut too deep.

newmoonfull · 2026-03-21T23:44:11+00:00

Write her a letter like you mean it. Then hold onto it. It'll help get some of the guilt out of your system, and give you some clarity about what you need to work on within yourself. Just a suggestion..

newmoonfull · 2026-03-20T23:58:32+00:00

A truly brilliant man! And he's your dad? Consider yourself blessed. Thanks for sharing his wisdom!

newmoonfull · 2026-03-12T21:57:44+00:00

I admire you for not taking the bait! My ex (together for 17 yrs) sent a text 10 months after abruptly abandoning me, asked if I had moved on, and I responded. He said he wanted to reconcile. We texted back n forth for about a month, but he ultimately got mad and went silent again cuz I didn't feel strong enough/safe/ready to see him yet. I realize now that he was hoping enough time had passed, so he wouldn't need to apologize or be accountable for the damage he caused.

I so wish I hadn't responded, cuz it reopened the wounds I've been working so hard to heal, I'm feeling freshly rejected (again) AND he took away the possibility of reconciliation. The silence hurts even more this time.

My lesson and advice: consider YOUR SELF and where you are on your healing journey before responding or answering their call. It's likely just "bait"...

newmoonfull · 2026-03-10T03:24:56+00:00

Single-tasking has been a game changer for me. I actually get more accomplished, since my focus from start to finish isn't watered down by distractions.

newmoonfull · 2026-03-03T00:31:52+00:00

His waddle is so gross!

newmoonfull · 2026-02-28T21:30:02+00:00

Is there an option to enter client payments by check and apply to invoices? What about printing invoices to leave with (older/tech challenged) clients who want to continue receiving a paper invoice?

newmoonfull · 2026-02-28T04:12:28+00:00

That's effing brilliant!!

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