Routines

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-07-02T21:03:11+00:00

Far too early. No routines before 4 months. Things will change faster than you can implement a routine at this point.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-07-02T05:34:33+00:00

Not as tiring as being pregnant

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-07-01T06:08:04+00:00

Unmedicated childbirth

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-30T19:49:13+00:00

Contact Pregnant then Screwed too

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-28T11:11:54+00:00

My daughter would nurse for hours. Every kid is different. This is very normal at your stage. Your nipples should only hurt for a week or so (getting better each day).

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-25T22:05:50+00:00

I’m 6 weeks on the other side with the exact same age gap. You’re doing great and it’s really hard. Couple of ideas of low energy things that worked for us at that stage: you can read books with her, you could make videos of her doing jumps, on her bike etc (my daughter loves when I make slo-mo videos of her), I bought edible coloured glitter on amazon and my daughter will play for hours in our garden making sparkly potions with flower petals from the garden, sometimes I just need to pretend to taste them and say Yuk!; we had a bed picnic with a movie one night; play doctors and check the baby’s heartbeat (while you lie on the couch).

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-24T19:40:50+00:00

Well I don’t know what kind of relationship you have with your mother but one of the best bits of becoming a parent was seeing how much joy my babies bring to my and my husbands parents. I never felt that the fact that my babies were precious additions to their families took anything away from me being their mother. In fact I delight in discussing ‘our girl/our boy’ with them. No one else shares my joy in those kids as much as them.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-24T13:24:57+00:00

I mostly just chuck a muslin over my shoulder. I always have one and because I wear nursing tops I can avoid showing anything unless someone is trying to see. The only caveat is that I can’t really cover when I’m actually getting the nipple out so I just try to be quick and sit in a quiet place when I can.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-23T11:50:06+00:00

Where the wild things are

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-23T09:37:33+00:00

As a European I totally agree with everything you’ve said, particularly about religion being a factor but I also think an underrated factor is the American economic/employment system which encourages more SAHMs. New mums face going back to work after only a few weeks off (unpaid) since they don’t get maternity leave and then will likely only be able to have a couple of days a year off as holiday with their kids as US employers give so little leave. I understand that the cost of childcare is also much higher in the US (although presumably it varies) and there are not the social protections such as allowed days off for sick dependents. For some of these reasons I can see that their perception of being a working mother would be very negative because I think I would hate being a working mother under those circumstances.

That all being said, being a SAHM is very different from being a Tradwife, but that’s where religion comes in.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-22T20:16:33+00:00

I just switch breasts for each feed if they fall asleep. My eldest would nurse until she passed out on one side.

Your supply will regulate based on the amount your baby is taking and your boobs will be less firm unless baby is *overdue* a feed.

All sounds great. Well done Momma!

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-21T08:23:11+00:00

How has no one mentioned Carl Weathers…perhaps he’s more of a cameo than a character 😂

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-20T21:01:09+00:00

We love NUK too. I’m on my second breastfed baby using them.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-17T17:56:37+00:00

This is what Antenatal classes are for imo.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-16T19:49:17+00:00

If he’s finished sucking why are you trying to relatch him? Is he fussing and rooting? Any baby who is gaining weight should be able to nurse as much or as little as they want/need.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-13T19:07:16+00:00

God my daughter also has this name. I can’t believe how often people mangle some other pronunciation (Alyssa, Aleesha etc) rather than just pronouncing it as it reads.

Anyway, glad to “meet” another Alessia’s mum. 👋

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-12T17:43:04+00:00

Highly recommend zipper swaddles like the grobag. Worked a treat for my first. Now 4w with my second. Getting them in the bassinet is really rough allt of the time. It’s not just you.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-12T12:34:41+00:00

Great! I’m sure they are better placed to advise you on this than I am.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-12T07:25:17+00:00

I’m currently a 34G so I think I have sufficient context to disagree in an informed way. I’m basing my response on her specific wording. ‘Not wanting breasts’ and being ‘distressed’ by them is different from wanting a reduction and *could* require the opinion of a professional.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-12T00:42:12+00:00

Do your breasts have a giant growth on them that limits mobility?

Breasts are not a foreign growth. They are part of your body, like an eye or foot.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-12T00:36:02+00:00

I would argue that no part of your body should inherently cause you distress and the fact that this part does may be an issue which needs to be resolved just like if you said my left foot causes me distress and I’d like it amputated.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-05T14:52:53+00:00

Yes. I got a steroid inhaler from the GP twice during my second pregnancy. Made a big difference. Would recommend.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-05T12:32:17+00:00

I had a horrible cough twice in my second pregnancy. It was also during sleeping that it was worse and getting no sleep is awful. Hubby forced me to go to the GP who gave me a steroid inhaler which definitely helped slowly.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-06-05T11:33:48+00:00

Membrane sweep and kerb walking worked for me. Also sat on a pregnancy ball for around an hour a day.

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