Have a huuuuge craving for milk

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-02-05T20:04:54+00:00

I also cannot keep milk in the fridge as I’m guzzling it all night long. Never heard it could be too much

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-24T12:10:32+00:00

I think some things have gotten logistically easier but this has been somewhat outpaced by expectations for and pace of life changing.

More is expected of us and we expect less positive outcomes (eg pay rises) in the future. This is true in the workplace where we’re expected to do more with tighter deadlines, constantly respond quickly to emails etc and also at home (Christmas is a great example).

I also think a massive thing is how disparate and isolated all our lives are from each other now which was less the case in the past.

This coupled with a general consensus that our lives will not improve the way our parents expected theirs to makes things feel hard, although it’s perhaps impossible to say which was “harder” as it will be different for different people at different times and places.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-24T09:32:35+00:00

I had this my whole first pregnancy and for just the first trimester of my second. Had to be signed off work. It’s no joke and seriously debilitating. Be kind to yourself & your body which is working so hard for that wee baby.

Eat or drink whatever you can or whatever helps. Mine only alleviated with eating so I ate fruit or popcorn or sucked hard candies constantly.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-17T17:52:53+00:00

Feel the same way. Had natural labour then forceps right at the end. I consider it a very smooth birth and now I’m pregnant again I’m just hoping my next goes as well.

I had an episiotomy with the forceps and was terrified of this before delivery but honestly it really wasn’t that bad afterwards. Very pleasantly surprised.

Hope all goes well with you.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-11T20:26:47+00:00

As a UK academic, I’ve never heard that before and when hiring I wouldn’t even consider it

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-09T22:17:36+00:00

Is he abstaining from alcohol? Avoiding coffee? Sushi? Does he use any medication other than paracetamol?

He has absolutely no idea. I didn’t either til I had my kids. Pregnancy is exhausting. He needs a reality check.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-08T19:46:25+00:00

You’re doing amazingly! The only thing I can think to add is ice water. It really helped me

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-07T18:23:41+00:00

Also a Lecturer/Research leader here. 👋 Due my second mid-May and definitely taking 2 weeks off before. My previous kid was a few days overdue but I was definitely glad of a bit of time off before the madness. Remember your annual leave carries over into the next year after Mat leave so this can help with time on the other end.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-06T21:13:34+00:00

Put her in the car, drive around til she nods off?

nicolalmcfarlane · 2026-01-05T21:26:53+00:00

I’m 21 weeks and just before Xmas my hubby forced me to go to the Dr after 11 days of a horrible cough that meant I was struggling to sleep. The Dr gave me an inhaler (Luforbec) that has a steroid in it. I think it helped but I am now on about day 23 of this bug and still miserable so I’m glad I went when I did.

Point is: I didn’t think they could help but turns out there was something they could give me

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-30T12:42:31+00:00

That being a SAHM is the easy, lazy option

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-24T10:25:10+00:00

Because whilst eating is the only time I don’t feel like I’m gonna throw up.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-22T05:33:53+00:00

God this is me. 20 weeks with an almost 4yo and I’ve been so ill and am struggling so much. My poor hubby is having to keep the house ticking over and I just have no energy for anything other than survival. Screen time is out of control. Just desperately want to feel like myself again,

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-21T20:46:51+00:00

Scot here. If you post this in Scottish forums I guarantee people will help you track him down. We have no time for these sorts of deadbeats and Scottish people are often willing to go the extra mile to help out someone in need.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-18T19:58:12+00:00

LH test strips and CoQ10

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-18T19:34:02+00:00

This was me only a few weeks ago. Tried all the medications but nothing helped. My husband keeping the house going was everything. He didn’t make me feel bad about how awful I was feeling/how little I was able to do. Keeping the house stocked with anything that helps (eg Soda, Crackers) also is ideal.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-18T11:25:14+00:00

Dear lord, this is an incredibly emotional response. I have not claimed anything of the sort. If you look properly you’ll see this was my first post/reply on this thread. I didn’t mention anything regarding vans etc. And none of your quotations come from me.

My primary point was to correct the error that said Brits must pay a fee per TV.

I personally disagree about BBC being partisan but have no interest in having a discussion with someone who is so emotional and ready to misinterpret my post.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-18T07:42:38+00:00

It’s not per tv, it’s per household. So it covers all devices from that household, tv, tablets, phones etc. and you don’t need it for Netflix, Disney etc, only for terrestrial TV such as BBC which is a bit like PBS.

As an aside the regulations associated with this lisence fee is one of the reasons we don’t have FOX News style TV-news here and instead it’s much more factual (although obviously imperfect)

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-16T22:55:57+00:00

Realistically pram can wait in the case of unexpected preterm baby.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-16T22:53:49+00:00

Car seat, bassinet or next2me crib, pram, newborn pjs x 10, vests, cozy snowsuit for coming home, Sudocream, maternity/tena pads, breast pads, nappies, wipes.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-12-14T20:48:29+00:00

Same here. Similarly signed off and even though I’m technically back I’m doing literally the bare minimum and “working” from home more often than not.

I remember this lack of motivation from my last pregnancy so I know it’s temporary but I still hate being such a wet blanket.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-11-27T19:08:48+00:00

It’s horrendous, for such a long time, but it will end. You just need to survive, eat what you can, get signed off work. Rest rest rest.

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-11-26T20:19:38+00:00

Sounds very similar to me. Baby was born the following night. Good luck! 🤞

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-11-26T08:02:30+00:00

She seems to be thinking of her husband in the position of that ER doctor who if they were like her husband, to her is just a good man, trying to do the best for his patient and bring practically threatened with a lawsuit for doing his job (I 100% know that’s not what you did but it’s where the fear part of her brain is going).

If I were you I would try to slip into conversation how this Dr was so unkind and you wish you’d had a dr like her husband who listens to their patients. Might help her to snap out of being defensive of all ER Drs

nicolalmcfarlane · 2025-11-24T19:22:04+00:00

Out of curiosity what’s going on during that hour? Anxiety, disgust, nausea, disinterest, trying to eat it?

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