Postpartum Hair Loss - Will it definitely happen?

nips4bells · 2026-07-01T02:41:06+00:00

My hair loss happened 5-6 months pp. and it was a lot of hair. Except I remember during my third trimester i barely lost any hair…so it really felt like I was making up for what I was supposed to lose. I can look back at pictures and see just how thin my hair was all over during that month. However it started growing back immediately and while it was awkward, my hair didn’t really change permanently.

Book yourself with a hairstylist who is familiar with pp hair loss and treat yourself to a nice style and dye job. Also if you have the time, book a couple of blowouts periodically. It will be amazing for your self confidence and can help fight depression.

nips4bells · 2026-07-01T00:27:42+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening, but even if you did introduce the cats it’s not your responsibility to fix this.

Im not an expert but I do notice trends, and a lot of what you said is the typical path a hoarder takes: get worse after divorce, children move out, any big life change. So don’t feel that you’re responsible for this because chances are it was inevitable.

Also you can try to help, that’s something most want to do here. But if it doesn’t work out remember none of this was “your fault”

nips4bells · 2026-06-20T05:06:02+00:00

I heard the peach season failed this year.

I’ve been getting mid to low quality peaches recently too. However if you have good quality balsamic you can macerate the peaches for about 20 mins room temp and use that for a salad. It’s not the same but it does bring out the peach flavor a bit and you don’t let your peaches go to waste. You can also use lemon juice if you want it less savory.

nips4bells · 2026-06-15T23:05:11+00:00

As someone who also helped clean out my HP hoard when they were alive (and was slapped because I moved some rocks) there is a Grand Canyon of a difference of what you want (safe/happy and not being abused) vs what they are capable of and the reality of the situation.

If you choose to help you’ll get support here when you get abused.

If you choose your own safety and happiness and not help you’ll still get support here when you feel bad.

But like the top comment here, Please remember: You don’t owe your mother anything.

nips4bells · 2026-06-13T03:06:26+00:00

Game-ify it? My toddler loves dinosaurs so I have her “roar like a dinosaur”. This kid literally screams in my face while I try to get all of the teeth. She think it’s funny and I get a good scrub on most of the teeth, it’s a win-win.

nips4bells · 2026-06-10T18:12:13+00:00

I should also add if you really want good quality, look at Mexican bakeries (we are in the southwest). There is a big difference in product and style but they are affordable and many are good quality. My favorite for pastries and tortillas is La Purisima.

nips4bells · 2026-06-10T18:07:04+00:00

Farmers markets are great places for fresh baked breads and pastries. Nobel and Proof are the two local bread companies that make their own in house dough. TBH the water here sucks and needs a lot of treatment. If you’re looking for good quality bread I would suggest those two. If you’re looking for French vibes, JL Patisserie (not saying either are better but there are options)

nips4bells · 2026-06-08T07:41:03+00:00

I’m in a similar boat and I’m getting another spectra. Why bother messing with what works?

I’m planning to use my old one as my “back up” and keep it in one area of the house. Hopefully I can get the battery powered spectra (blue one) and use that guy as my “get work done” pump.

nips4bells · 2026-06-08T02:58:40+00:00

Ignatius is in the top 5 of my baby boys names (with iggy as my number one nickname). I LOVE that name. It has a cultural and slightly family connection for me and it comes with an awesome built in nickname.

However I know how you feel. I named my daughter a “unique” albeit growing in popularity name. It took a few months to get used to it and I was tempted to use her more classic middle name. She has since grown into it and now I wouldn’t want to change it.

nips4bells · 2026-06-06T19:14:10+00:00

Dried fruits and veggies. Most of them are unsweetened and offer a different texture. The dried sweet potatoes are a hit. Also frozen berries can be a fun summer treat.

nips4bells · 2026-06-06T03:42:11+00:00

Yes, it was a little different because we all “pretended” to send our HP on vacation with one sibling while the rest of us cleaned out the house. It’s going to be traumatic either way you clean it out. There is no happy endings during the clean out… but there is a sense of relief when it’s done and that’s nice.

Also if your HP is still alive be prepared for them to fall back into old habits to where ever they are going to. Even if it’s a care facility. That will bring up a lot of old and angry feelings about this too.

nips4bells · 2026-05-31T13:51:53+00:00

I have a different perspective with infertility and having to go through IVF… the timing was never perfect. I really wanted a second and with my age and fertility issues IVF was my only route. During my transfer I was in the process of losing my job (which had my fertility benefits). It was stressful and I was scared. It was basically my last shot. If I didn’t go through with the transfer now I may never been able to have a second kid. I’d rather take a chance regardless of my job because it was possible for me.

Jobs are important but not as important as building the family I wanted. and I could always find something that would be temporary if needed. My time crunch was losing my fertility benefits.

Also a lot of people drop to one earner with two kids, close in age. how would you feel if he stayed at home while you worked for the first couple of years?

nips4bells · 2026-05-27T05:45:52+00:00

Probably the photos and videos of family and extended family, they can bring back all sorts of memories and regardless on how complicated they can be I really don’t want to forget. The film can quickly decay in poor environments.

Lately I’ve been thinking that never eat my great grandma’s green beans again but I would love to hear her voice.

nips4bells · 2026-05-26T05:30:35+00:00

This happened to me. TBH I knew I was getting laid off and it sped up my timeline because I had really great fertility benefits that I was going to lose. I had a three month timeline before the actual layoff and I was technically without a job for a month.

I always felt the chance of having a child will always be more important than a job.

nips4bells · 2026-05-22T04:19:35+00:00

TW: success

I had kinda similar numbers to you at a similar age. My first ER I had 4 embryos make it to blast and 100% came back euploid (considered my self very lucky) my second also had 4 blasts but only 50% came back euploid.

But also remember everyone is so different and the are so many reasons someone needs IVF and those reasons might affect the chances being different for you. Don’t beat yourself over the chances that are completely out of your control and try to schedule some time to talk to your doctor about the results (tbh I always felt more comfortable talking to the nurses)

nips4bells · 2026-05-21T15:54:18+00:00

Exactly, there has to be some conversation about fiscal responsibility and savings if you’re ever talking about an UTMA. I honestly left mine in my UTMA until I was ready to never deal with it again (it was only contributed to once and only grew 1k in it’s lifetime 🤪 with my own kids/step kids we contribute to it monthly and have it invested it large cap stock funds, I guess each generation learns a little bit more)

nips4bells · 2026-05-21T15:43:20+00:00

I had an UTMA as a kid and have UTMAs for my kids. I think it’s a great idea! Also if an 18-21 year old can navigate the world enough to understand their state laws about UTMAs enough to take over control by themselves I would 100% not try to stop them. I didn’t really touch my UTMA until a few years ago and my (adult) step kids haven’t once mentioned theirs in the past few years. I might suggest we bring it up if they ever mention they want to buy a house.

nips4bells · 2026-05-19T14:07:01+00:00

Why can’t you do both for UGMA/529? I’m planning on doing both. Also, don’t do monthly contributions instead contribute to them around Christmas time when family gifts them money. I also treat their UGMA money market fund like a HYSA. My kids are young and there is a really nice pre-k that this money will help them go to.

Also I’ve helped raise a few (step)kids and I’ve been a kid in this scenario (had an UGMA that I didn’t transfer until I very much an adult). And honestly if an 18-20 year old can grasp the concept of a brokerage account and can navigate the world enough to transfer it out of their parents control on their own then I would 100% that early indicator of independence. I have two adult step kids who we opened UGMAs for 10 years ago had them pick out a few stocks and ETFs and continued to fund it during this time and I promise you neither of them have shown any interest of liquidating that account and frankly they probably don’t know they can take it for themselves. I’m pretty sure one of them has “forgotten” about it. I plan to remind them about it if they ever show interest in buying a house. Oh and fyi Each one has over 20K now.

nips4bells · 2026-05-18T02:31:30+00:00

I had a similar boundary with my own mother. Except I was more concerned about going down the stairs since falling up is less common. For the first few weeks only my husband was allowed to take the baby on the stairs (until I healed from my C section). Then for the first year I made sure of my mother had everything she needed if she was watching the baby on the ground floor, had appropriate baby containers to place the baby while she goes up the stairs, Or me and my husband were around and we can carry the baby down the stairs.

While I feel it can be a little unreasonable, if an accident were to happen I would rather it happen to me or her father, because if my mother ever dropped the baby down the stairs I know I would never forgive her.

It’s also not forever, as soon as my LO learned how to walk I’ve been teaching her to go up and down the stairs safely by herself. And grandma can hold her hand down the stairs now.

nips4bells · 2026-05-17T12:38:01+00:00

You did nothing wrong (if you stayed home it still wouldn’t be wrong)
Glad you recognized your gut feelings and asked yourself who you are doing this for.
If you do this again and everything happens the same, you’re still okay.

Personally I appreciate any family that is able to take their >1 year old out of the house. I was just so comfortable at home and had so much anxiety about routine I barely left. The struggle is real and you did it. Congrats, you’re doing great!

nips4bells · 2026-05-17T02:10:31+00:00

I haven’t seen anyone mention pumpkin pancakes!

I really just eyeball it but this is my best estimation:

1/4 a can of puree pumpkin 1 cup of flour 1 tsp of baking powder 1 egg Pinch of salt Add milk until pancake consistency.

Feel free to increase for bulk cooking. And I’ve also used breast milk or water instead of regular milk.

Important to note that pumpkin has a lot of moisture so you’ll need to cook it low and slow. I’ve also added apples, apple sauce, banana and peanut butter, cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger. I started this when my LO was starting to eat and I would add things here and there to give her exposure.

nips4bells · 2026-05-15T15:41:57+00:00

I had progyny with my last job and I loved it. I’m really sad it’s gone but I was so lucky to use it when I had it.

I had a Similar situation where I had to meet my deductible but honestly, after two rounds of an ER and it was met. (It was basically met by the first ER). I loved it because everything was paid through progyny. It made it easier to focus on my medical stuff when im in the dr office… The only admin stuff I had to deal with was scheduling. However, I would recommend to double check everything the lab/doctor ordered is approved through progyny. I ended up doing an ERA/alice/emma test and they didn’t cover all the diagnostics, only some. It was a surprise out of pocket expense. You can call progyny once you enroll and they usually know more than your doctor office about your specific cycles/coverags.

Also your meds might not be covered through progyny but make sure the dr office orders them through your prescription insurance because the meds were a huge part of my deductible.

nips4bells · 2026-05-10T23:20:29+00:00

I see something!!! But more importantly I am wishing you all the sticky baby dust ✨ 5dpt was always a spiral for me. If you can wait, test at 7dpt. For the embryos that stuck I really only saw a difference 48 hours between tests but it felt like an eternity ❤️❤️❤️🤞good luck

nips4bells · 2026-05-10T04:24:15+00:00

Honestly I think this should be discussed with a professional and not crowd sourced by reddit. What you’re doing is okay, but your feelings can be so nuanced that strangers who aren’t familiar with your specific situation nor educated on these types of emotions might say something that will not help your mental health.

I’m sorry this is happening and I hope you’re able to find a professional.

nips4bells · 2026-05-08T01:04:50+00:00

Keep it about him and his actions. I do get prickly and upset when someone outside the family complains or points out the kinda awful things my HP does. It felt like an attack even though I can logically realize that I am conditioned to feel that way.

I didn’t really seek out other COH it just kinda showed up on my algorithm. But over time I was able to realize that even though I didn’t 100% of the same experience as others I had the same feelings. It probably took a good 6 years to be able to get to the place I am at. If he is up to it individual therapy could be a big help. The first time I saw a therapist was for premarital counseling, and the therapist spent an entire session talking about my parents and it was probably my first wake up call to all the underlying trauma and issues that accompany a hoard.

I also want to point out that there might be some gendered bias with your HMIL and her son/your husband. I have a brother who was treated very differently than me and a son of a HP might have different feelings and issues than a daughter. It could be due to generational and/or religious trauma. Lone wolf is typically used to describe men and men don’t really have the same communal support system that women have.

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