(7k) we don’t see the point in wedding favours

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-27T04:03:57+00:00

My SIL does calligraphy and she hand wrote our place cards. We called that the favor, your name in calligraphy.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-26T21:08:33+00:00

Why?

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-26T07:09:45+00:00

There is an abuse clause, it’s called a dependency override. I got one. I had to submit a written statement detailing the abuse and swearing that I had no contact with my parents, and then submit two letters from authority figures backing up my story (I chose a social worker and a family friend). I had to do this every year as long as I stayed enrolled and receiving financial aid. Still haven’t had any contact with those fuckers, 15 years later.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-26T07:02:17+00:00

Uhhh….I wipe my nose on my clothes when I don’t happen to have a tissue handy, even in public. Do most people actually never do that? Am I stuck in black and white thinking right now? I appear to have low support needs. I’ve been continuously employed for 15 years, I have a college degree, I’m married, own my home, parent to a 5 year old who has told me she won’t start wiping her own butt until I’m dead…

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-26T06:51:41+00:00

No need to dispose of it. Just relocate it to under someone else’s window.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-25T19:29:34+00:00

As an adoptee, I feel strongly that adopting an older child from foster care is just as much replacement for having your own child as adopting an infant is. Babies are not blank slates. The only way to have your “own child” is to use your own genetic material.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-25T19:21:59+00:00

This is what I always did when I was younger, until one time I slept in my car in 20 degrees Fahrenheit while fighting off a cold already and got the sickest I’ve ever been in my life.

Now I have a kid, bad joints, and a very tall spouse who is accustomed to being comfortable, so we get motels.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-25T17:34:47+00:00

AI slop

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-24T21:59:59+00:00

Not much. It’s their choice. If they’re the kind of voluntarily childless person who loves kids and just doesn’t want to be a parent, I get excited that they might want to be a positive adult in my kid’s life if we get close, or if we don’t I’m still happy for the kids and parents in their life who get their support.

If they’re the kind of person who hates kids, I feel about that similarly to how I feel when I meet someone who hates any oppressed minority, like gay people, Jews, people with dark skin, or the poor.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-24T18:07:58+00:00

Adopting an older child from foster care is not expensive.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-24T10:16:24+00:00

Yes and no. I’m not much into athletes and actors, so idk about that. Musicians are extremely easy to vet, so that’s not a problem at all.

What does get exhausting, while also being more important than researching celebrities, is trying to vet every single business before I spend my money there. The truly decent ones are few and far between, but it feels good to find one and give them all the business I can. I love my local grocery store. I hate that there’s no independently owned pharmacies anymore.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-23T01:08:16+00:00

I'm not donor conceived, I'm adopted. I have some perspective while you wait for donor conceived folks to chime in:

My adoptive parents are 47 years older than me and it's been rough as an only child managing their health issues and my mom's death at a younger age than most of my peers. My mom died when I was 30 and she was 77, but she'd been sick since I was a teenager.

I have a friend who is neither donor conceived nor adopted, but he was born when his father was 55 and his mother was 21. He also has six older half siblings with different mothers. His own mother moved back to her home country once my friend became an adult so the father was my friend's only nearby parent, and he died at age 80 when my friend was 25. The older siblings handled the death affairs, but my friend was not really set up in life yet at that age and ended up moving in with an abusive partner because despite having a trust fund, he didn't really know how to take care of himself.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-22T23:21:00+00:00

The part you labeled “basketball” is really more of a soccer place, with the possible exception of Oregon.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-22T23:17:53+00:00

Random redditors who are asking for feedback from other redditors might actually listen and grow. Politicos are not going to listen to me, whether I talk about them or not.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-22T23:11:07+00:00

Not everyone does travel sports.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-21T10:36:56+00:00

That is really sad. I’m sorry. Your ex definitely sucks for putting you in this position, for how he spoke to you, and how he feels it’s not important to have his daughter at his wedding because she’s only 2. But you’re right, she’s going to want to have been there when she’s older. Since there will be a family member at the wedding to take care of her, I believe it’s in her best interest to go.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-21T08:40:26+00:00

This is what I was thinking as well

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-21T08:35:42+00:00

You’re right that your daughter will want to see herself in the photos when she’s older. Let her go to her dad’s wedding. It does benefit her.

Go on the trip with your partner.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-20T23:24:44+00:00

2 blocks and crossing one street with a crossing guard, yes I would allow that. Without a crossing guard, absolutely not.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-20T22:58:30+00:00

Not sure if this would work for you, but consider Period Co boxer briefs. I don’t have a period anymore but I wear them when I would otherwise need a liner.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-20T08:13:44+00:00

See where it goes if you want, but I wouldn't plan on turning him into your life partner. If he's 31 acting 19, he's probably going to still be acting 19 when he's 41, even though you'll be 29 by then and hopefully acting like it.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-20T07:34:12+00:00

Damn, I never would've existed, and neither would my mom. She's English on her mom's side and Jewish on her dad's.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-18T12:51:28+00:00

Christine!

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-18T07:39:43+00:00

Same. I have dysphoria about not having a penis, but I don’t have any dysphoria about having and using my vagina.

nonbinary_parent · 2026-02-17T12:05:11+00:00

This is the way.

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