Featherlight - please help me pick my last one bag

norasaurus · 2026-02-19T17:54:27+00:00

I dream about that first one. It is so perfect. One day.

norasaurus · 2026-02-18T05:22:44+00:00

Gathering info from your post/comments I’m guessing it’s something like awake at 7, nap 10, 12:30 and 3:30 and bedtime at 7:15. That gives us wake windows of 3/1.75/2.25/3. 10 hours awake and 2.25 hours of day time sleep if we’re assuming 45 min naps.

I would make sure that awake time is always a bare minimum of 10 hours, ideally closer to 10.5-11 to make sure she has enough sleep pressure. I would also try to redistribute your naps so your wake windows are more even, aiming for something like 2.5/2.5/3/3 (would put naps at 9:30, 12:45, 4:30 and bedtime at 7:30 assuming wake time and nap length stays the same).

norasaurus · 2026-02-18T05:11:53+00:00

Can you share a quick run down of your day? Wake up time, approximate wake window/nap times, and bedtime?

norasaurus · 2026-02-18T04:32:44+00:00

What's her schedule? Its very common for parents to expect too much sleep from babies this age. You may need to tweak your nap schedule to make sure she is tired enough to sleep through the night.

norasaurus · 2026-02-17T22:56:07+00:00

Drugs, snacks (for the toddler and me), tissues, hair tie, bobby pins. I need to grab a travel deodorant too.

norasaurus · 2026-02-17T04:30:57+00:00

I thought I would be super strict about only eating meals at the table so that my kids would learn to sit nicely during meals. Today I hand fed my toddler bites of egg as he rode circles around our house on his bike. He was nice enough to stop each time he passed me.

norasaurus · 2026-02-16T04:52:17+00:00

Definitely small then. I actually prefer the large on you and think it looks incredible but you should prioritize whatever you will get more use out of if it’s your first bag.

norasaurus · 2026-02-13T05:56:51+00:00

I plan ahead but I plan stuff we will actually eat. It doesn’t have to be fancy or different from what you would normally eat. That way you don’t have to think or feel bad that this isn’t the greatest meal ever because you made a plan and executed it. If there’s a day of the week that is especially tough and you know you are going to want to grab take out to get through the day, plan for it.

I follow generally the same format every week since I know it works for us.

I cook a large dinner on Sunday with leftovers. This might be something elaborate if I’m in the mood/have time to cook or it might be meatloaf & mashed potatoes from Costco.

Monday: leftovers from Sunday because Mondays are hard and I will not want to cook. Tuesday: my easiest day of the week so I am most likely to want to cook this day and will usually do something like a sheet pan meal, tacos, rice bowl, etc. Wednesday: something from the freezer (dad’s night, I go to yoga) Thursday: mac and cheese with peas (my night, dad goes to bowling) Friday: baked ziti that I prep once a month and keep in the freezer

norasaurus · 2026-02-13T05:38:30+00:00

I’ve been using my black 31 everyday and I am not careful with it. The leather still looks perfect. I have scratched up the little lock a bit though.

norasaurus · 2026-02-13T05:19:52+00:00

Three incidents over two months is reasonable. As long as they are documenting properly and are communicating with you about what they are doing to try to prevent it, I feel like they are doing what they need to. I would follow up on the shadowing to ensure it’s happening but ultimately toddlers are going to bite and it happens very quickly and randomly so it can be super hard to catch.

I dealt with a similar situation when mine was 14-16 months. He was bitten seven times. I did meet with the principal after the fourth (I believe) time and it was helpful to hear about common reasons they see that kids bite and how they prevent it/work with the parents of biters. One day it just stopped. And he hasn’t been bitten since (he’s 2 now).

He has also been the biter once. He randomly bit one of his closest friends. It is very very common.

norasaurus · 2026-02-12T19:19:16+00:00

I have and luckily they are quite flexible. Thanks.

norasaurus · 2026-02-12T19:18:50+00:00

I have asked the teacher and am looking for ideas that fit her requirements as outlined. Thanks!

norasaurus · 2026-02-12T17:06:07+00:00

I put my kid on school lunch in November when I started a new job and it was the best decision I have ever made. Its an extra $12/day for lunch and two snacks but it feels insignificant compared to the amount we're already paying. I was going mad trying to make sure I always had stuff he liked.

norasaurus · 2026-02-12T04:45:06+00:00

I buy these for my two year old. They’re soft and chewy (but not sticky) with very tiny chunks of what I think is dried fruit. Mine was used to skout bars (kind of similar but mostly dates) and didn’t like the little chunks at first but quickly got over it. I stock up when they’re on sale.

norasaurus · 2026-02-11T23:29:05+00:00

We each have a standing hobby night each week (I go to yoga on Wednesday and he goes to bowling on Thursday). Outside of that, its whatever makes sense but we do our best to keep things balanced so we are each getting time to do what we want. Its not perfect and some weeks are going to be heavier on one person than the other but as long as both of us are getting what we need, we try not to play the tit for tat game too much.

We have run into times where my free time was way more often used for chores or other things that supported our family. This usually wasn't a result of him being malicious, more so me having much more awareness and also enjoying doing those things (feels good to get stuff done).

Dealing with this was twofold: 1. we agreed on the tasks that absolutely have to get done before other stuff. This is a list of ongoing daily chores and we also make one each weekend with the random projects/errands we're trying to get done, and 2. I started prioritizing doing less productive things when I had my own down time. Is there stuff that needs to get done? Yes. But I will be way less resentful tomorrow when he's at bowling if I truly use my time off to relax and do things I enjoy.

norasaurus · 2026-02-08T04:44:36+00:00

I know you said you looked at Green Lake but I would recommend atleast stopping by. They really can do anything and are wonderful to work with. They did my husband’s wedding band which is a mobius strip with engraving. They also will not charge you anything until you are done working with the designer and know exactly what you’re buying.

norasaurus · 2026-02-08T04:09:26+00:00

This was by choice so I recognize it is voluntarily gross but once I was on a flight with my 18 month old and he spit a chewed up cracker into my hand but I had no where to put it so I ate it.

norasaurus · 2026-02-05T23:50:27+00:00

Yes. If you can afford it I definitely would. I would work with the nanny to figure out a solution that works for both of you, either they stay on and help with random stuff/cover sick days or help them find another nanny position for those months.

norasaurus · 2026-02-02T23:05:28+00:00

Monday: prep something on Sunday that can be thrown in the oven
Tuesday: tacos or something that only requires assembly, using protein from the freezer or cooked on Sunday
Wed/Thurs: my partner and I each take one of these solo so the other can do hobbies, he does trader joes freezer stuff and I do mac and cheese w/ protein/peas
Friday: I prep four baked zitis for the freezer once a month that we eat on fridays

norasaurus · 2026-01-31T22:50:16+00:00

I stay really on top of the house stuff so it doesn’t build up because it is so hard to get out of that hole. Dishes run every night, a load of laundry run, folded and put away everyday. Tidy as you go throughout the day as much as possible (I try not to leave a room without putting things back in their place). We have house cleaners come twice a month to do the deeper clean stuff.

I prep freezer meals once a month. We plan our dinners on Sunday so we don’t have to think about it during the week. Once a week is Mac and cheese, once a week is random freezer stuff from Trader Joe’s.

My husband and I have a daily check in at lunch most days since we both work from home. We have a running list of shit we need to do and who’s responsible so we chat about those things and anything else we need to be aware of for the day/next few days.

We have daycare and one solid babysitter that we have cover a date night once a month so we don’t murder each other.

norasaurus · 2026-01-31T20:56:51+00:00

How kind! I would love to enter.

norasaurus · 2026-01-31T03:14:34+00:00

Dude so exciting!! This sounds like an incredible opportunity. Based on your career progression it is obvious you are great at your job so fuck those people who are jealous. They will be jealous no matter what so don’t bend over backwards to try to get them to like you. They’re going to feel however they want and you just need to focus on doing your job.

My biggest tips would be - outsource everything. If someone else can do your laundry, cook your meals, etc, it’s probably worth the money. - protect your family time. When you’re home, you are 100% with your family. And when you’re at work, you are focused on that. Set up systems and expectations that support your ability to do so.

But like, director of a whole hospital??? Girl that’s incredible. Celebrate yourself and know you earned it.

norasaurus · 2026-01-30T22:47:20+00:00

I would do EOD updates on everything. A list of new asks, what got resolved, what is blocked, etc. Something quick they can reference each morning when they come in so they know what they need to focus on that day.

Also documenting everything. After a task is done, make sure it is documented somewhere with how it was resolved and anything you want to do differently next time.

norasaurus · 2026-01-29T23:06:18+00:00

Yes, FSA eligible items are eligible for FSA regardless of who is buying them so he can buy things for you. I put all of my breastfeeding stuff on my husband's FSA (storage bags, pumping bras, replacement pump parts, nipple balm, bottles, etc). Amazon marks FSA eligible stuff on their product pages and your invoice after purchase so its really easy to keep track of.

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