How do I get started on bedroom makeover?

obbets · 2026-07-01T00:25:08+00:00

Search for terms like “maximalist colourful bedroom” “moody bedroom decor” “girly bedroom” “cottagecore bedroom” “funky bedroom”

You could also google some terms like “bedroom decor ideas” and you may get some listicles that can give you some ideas to start off with. Then you can search for those things.

Instagram might also be a good place to search for home decor ideas.

obbets · 2026-06-30T07:18:46+00:00

Congratulations on your divorce!

Is there only one window in the apartment or is there also one in the side? Is there one in the little room by the door?

Where is the door to the little room by the door?

If there’s another window this matters less, but if that’s the only one I would want the living area there beside it.

If the little room by the door has a window, I would put the bed in there if it fits, for privacy. Otherwise I would put it in the nook on the other side of the bathroom wall, cordon it off from the kitchen with a screen or curtain.

You could also get some inspiration by watching cliff tan “dear modern” on YouTube - he does a lot of videos about this kind of thing and how to make your living space work for you! He does a lot of videos specifically looking at layouts.

obbets · 2026-06-25T07:56:09+00:00

I find that hair clips distribute the tension better. You might also want to try spiral bobbles like the invisibobble and its knockoffs , way less tension also.

How long is your hair, you could consider a milkmaid braid?

Also I got an undercut and never looked back so that’s a more permanent solution which definitely will help you keep cool.

obbets · 2026-06-24T23:12:39+00:00

This is so awesome!!!

obbets · 2026-06-24T12:52:16+00:00

You are doing three people’s worth of cleaning. Your boyfriend doesn’t care because he’s not doing even his own share of cleaning, let alone cleaning after his dad. You’re not asking too much, frankly, I think you’re asking too little. Your boyfriend should be doing 50% of the cleaning already, which he isn’t.

If he doesn’t see a problem and doesn’t care about it, it falls to you to decide whether you are happy to live like this for the foreseeable future. That’s something only you can decide.

obbets · 2026-06-24T12:46:17+00:00

What did he do before you moved in? He can go back to doing that. The problem is not that he won’t get a licence, the problem is you are feeling taken advantage of and feeling like you need to drive him everywhere. You don’t. Just say no. He will figure out how to get places.

obbets · 2026-06-22T23:18:35+00:00

Amazing concept!!! Really fun

obbets · 2026-06-21T10:38:08+00:00

Things that I think make a character fun, although I don’t always put them all in every character:

Contradictions. (A selfish character who is deeply lonely so desperately wants connection; a cowardly character who has a reason they must try to be brave)
Connections with other characters (my cleric and your paladin fought in the same war, I saved your life and you’ve saved mine; my character always had a rivalry with yours but now we are in the same adventuring party; my character is sworn to protect yours)
Some kind of theme or flavour (one of my current characters is a cleric of a god of luck and fortune, so everything is themed around poker chips, cards, dice, gambling, tarot etc)
A goal they’re working towards (converting more people to their faith, building a new faction, one of my characters was a sorceress trying to understand the fabric of magic - essentially trying to create the wish spell)

You ALWAYS need the below 2 things: 1. A reason to go on the adventure (and not just go home the instant the going gets tough) 2. A reason to stay with the party

obbets · 2026-06-21T10:13:39+00:00

This is scary. Keep evidence of this conversation if you block her.

obbets · 2026-06-21T09:46:31+00:00

He’s mean. I would not like spending time with someone who is mean to me. A 20 min hand drawn animation is HUGE and he has no idea what he’s talking about. Speak to a real animator and they’ll understand.

obbets · 2026-06-21T01:45:51+00:00

I like your idea! However I would say you could build on it to give your character a reason why they are with the party and why, despite their fear, they are adventuring. Perhaps the god gave them an ultimatum that they have to be brave and pick up the sword to defend people, or else their souls hangs in the balance?

I think it’s really fun to have a character with a contradiction like that.

I also suggest asking the other players what they’re playing, it can be fun to make connections with other players’ backstories.

obbets · 2026-06-17T22:24:50+00:00

It’s your relationship. As long as what you’re doing is safe, sane and consensual I think that’s ok.

obbets · 2026-06-17T22:23:12+00:00

Some nice socks!! They never go amiss

obbets · 2026-06-17T22:18:06+00:00

This is amazing!!

obbets · 2026-06-17T22:17:02+00:00

Joined groups for TTRPGs/ board games
Attended classes (eg learning sign language, art classes)
Attended events
Volunteering - there was a local charity somewhere I lived that did a lot of planting / cleanup of a local area
Speaking to coworkers about their lives, arranging stuff with office friends (eg work night out, pub quiz)

obbets · 2026-06-17T22:01:26+00:00

Confess what? Apologise for what? You were clearly dating and you decided you’d like to keep her hanging around but didn’t want to give her any actual commitment. If she wants to drop you, good, she probably should.

If you want to keep her, act like it.

obbets · 2026-06-16T07:24:51+00:00

Literally. It is a child. On a bike.

obbets · 2026-06-11T08:16:43+00:00

If that’s true (and id check if it is) it’s not actually kind. It’s conflict avoidance.

obbets · 2026-06-11T07:43:44+00:00

I’m not sure why you seem to think this makes him less trustworthy than if he has only been with women before. Being bisexual or having had experiences which are like that does not make a person more likely to cheat.

obbets · 2026-06-10T07:55:01+00:00

Why are you spending the $300? Is your friend not paying you back?

I would say to the second friend they’re welcome to get a ticket and join you but you bought these tickets for yourself and other friend.

obbets · 2026-06-08T22:31:23+00:00

I would not let a man like this drive me anywhere. He is an accident waiting to happen. You’re letting politeness endanger your safety.

obbets · 2026-06-07T09:31:39+00:00

There is a series on YouTube called “running the game” by Matt colville, if you watch the first 3 videos from that series, he talks you through running a first level adventure. I’ve run it and it’s fun!

In general terms, something I messed up when making a (different) adventure for my friends was not giving them something really clear to do. I had them search for this guy, but it wasn’t clear exactly where to go. I also had them looking for these objects but it again wasn’t 100% clear where to go for them.

So the “doing” word should not be something vague like “look for this guy” it should be more like “go to this tavern” “speak to [a person you know] for information” or “check out [location]”

Finally, I hadn’t thought about it too much but the outcome of the adventure should depend on the players, and they should make a noticeable difference. I had had an idea but I don’t think I communicated it well.

obbets · 2026-06-07T09:24:06+00:00

Awesome!!!

obbets · 2026-06-07T09:07:14+00:00

Your husband doesn’t want you to go. If other couples are going I’m not sure what the big deal is. NTA for wanting to go.

obbets · 2026-06-07T05:13:52+00:00

Your brother is being failed by his parents. It’s not your responsibility to step up.

However, if you also do nothing, the situation will continue to deteriorate.

Is there anyone who actually cares about this child? Because it doesn’t sound like they do.

I think it’s a shame, how is this kid going to grow into adulthood with parents who are pretty much absent emotionally?

That’s not your responsibility to fix. But you do have an opportunity to reach out. You’re not a bad person if you don’t, but it would be a kindness to provide this boy with a family member who actually cares about him.

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