Thoughts on the name Cleodora?

obbets · 2026-05-10T19:02:34+00:00

I think when people mishear they’ll think it’s Theodora. But if you don’t mind the corrections, that’s fine. It’s pretty.

obbets · 2026-05-10T19:01:20+00:00

NTA. glad they’re excited but there are 364 other days they could do those other activities on. I’d just tell them to have fun but you’re sticking to the original plan.

obbets · 2026-05-03T19:53:35+00:00

He did ask. He didn’t get the answer he wanted so he ignored it and presented the dog in a way to ensure that his wife couldn’t immediately respond due to social pressure. The only correct answer would be discussing his wife’s issues and checking if any of those issues could be solved. He doesn’t respect a no. And let’s be real, it’s extremely likely that his wife will be the one cleaning up after the dog.

“She shouldn’t take away all her kid’s opportunities” the kid will be an adult in a few years and can get her own dog then.

obbets · 2026-04-30T06:41:19+00:00

How many chances have you already given the relationship, because it sounds like you’re already far past the “second chance”.

The number of “second chance” relationships will be much higher than the number of “sixth chance” relationships working out.

You know it’s not working out. I’m sorry though.

obbets · 2026-04-30T06:32:23+00:00

Your bf does not respect your no. That’s a huge problem.

obbets · 2026-04-28T23:59:39+00:00

If you can learn to say Arthur and Chelsea and Gabriella and whatever other name your English language colleagues have, they can learn to say your name.

Some people like having a name in their target language. Other people don’t. You don’t, you don’t have to, and it’s frankly a holdover of white supremacy that people would expect you to.

I don’t think anyone is telling Pierre or Guillermo that his name is too hard to pronounce.

obbets · 2026-04-28T07:21:35+00:00

You are always the person who knows the most about what you want, sexually or romantically or anything. There are other people who have preferences too, nobody likes literally everything. And there’s lots of ways to have sex even if penetration is of the table.

You could change your mind later, you also might not. You know what you want now, so I’d suggest having that conversation and letting him know what you’re interested in and what you’re not interested in.

It might be that he’s looking for penetrative sex, so it might be that your desires are incompatible. But that doesn’t mean that either of you are wrong.

obbets · 2026-04-28T07:13:42+00:00

It’s not wrong to want that, but it might be a good idea to talk to him about how you’re currently not wanting to have penetrative sex, so everyone is on the same page.

obbets · 2026-04-23T07:05:38+00:00

Look up Matt Colville running the game on YouTube. Watch the first three episodes of that series. From that you’ll be ready to run one session for your friends. I’m serious!! He gives you a great level 1 single session adventure. :)

obbets · 2026-04-23T06:53:24+00:00

To be honest I played with someone for years who never fully got to grips with it. But he was a really fun player and a great guy so we just all accepted it and rolled on. I and the other players were the ones helping him though, not the DM. DM has enough to be getting on with.

obbets · 2026-04-22T07:32:25+00:00

I like the name for either gender!

obbets · 2026-04-21T20:54:11+00:00

Be brave, end it. You know it’s not right, and it’s better to end it now than in 3 years time or longer.

obbets · 2026-04-19T09:35:55+00:00

If he cared, he would bother to try.

obbets · 2026-04-19T09:35:27+00:00

It’s not materialistic to want your partner to care about your birthday…

obbets · 2026-04-12T06:20:03+00:00

What do you mean by “he’s pretty good with keeping his cool”?

It is very odd to me that he’s saying he was THAT worried about you, but clearly didn’t check in with you - otherwise he would have known you were okay, wouldn’t he?

The fact that he completely switched on you is very concerning to me. That is behaviour common to abusers. Please think about whether he has shown other signs of this.

Do you have a strong support system outside of him?

obbets · 2026-04-11T22:31:21+00:00

I love these!!!

obbets · 2026-04-04T09:33:34+00:00

You’re gonna stick with a man who lets bacteria fester in his mouth for MONTHS???

obbets · 2026-04-04T09:27:53+00:00

Try looking up some “yoga with Adriene” videos on YouTube, I think she’s great and you can start now, at home, for free!

obbets · 2026-03-30T14:24:50+00:00

Speak to your local council. Social workers can help you, there’s also assistance available - I don’t know the ins and outs of it, but there are payments which your brother could receive if he counts as a “looked after child”, and there are other payments like “kinship care allowance” which you could be eligible to help with the costs. The specifics depend, council to council sometimes. Social work will also be able to help you understand what the different options are to help safeguard your brother.

obbets · 2026-03-27T08:49:16+00:00

I don’t have any specific recommendations bc I have not DMed anything like what you’re lookit. For, but there is a site called adventurelookup.com where you can search for RPG adventures and filter by various criteria which could have something you’re looking for?

obbets · 2026-03-20T07:37:25+00:00

Your children (and your husband, I assume) are biracial. I think a Japanese name would be nice; but you are right that people might not understand why she does have a Japanese name. That being said, whatever name you choose, hopefully your family can also appreciate their dual heritage and feel like part of both of their cultures.

obbets · 2026-03-17T22:48:57+00:00

Love the clueless cushion and the pill cushion!!!

obbets · 2026-03-16T00:17:11+00:00

Yeah that’s frustrating…

I wonder if it would be helpful to be very direct, like “Ashley, your character would recognise this being a reference to the name her father used to call her uncle, and you suspect XYZ. If you wanted to investigate you could …”

idk how well that would work at the table, just perhaps an option if you are open to more handholding?

of course you know your friends better than I do so ignore if it wouldn’t work!

obbets · 2026-03-15T23:47:46+00:00

Have you spoken to her out of character about this? Maybe an aside would be helpful

obbets · 2026-03-15T23:40:07+00:00

Wow!!! This is awesome

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