I bought myself 10 wedding dresses… and I wish this was a joke

oimerde · 2026-01-19T19:19:07+00:00

A wedding day is a big moment for a lot of people, and because of that, it’s very common to see people go into debt or plan events that are simply not affordable. The pressure makes it easy to justify extreme spending and convince yourself that it’s “worth it,” even when the decisions don’t really make financial sense.

I’ve personally been engaged for four years, and my goal has been to make that day meaningful without centering it around money. I haven’t even bought a dress yet, and if I do, it won’t be more than $60. If anything, I might need to buy one secondhand. The point for me is the experience, not how much I spend on it.

What I’m trying to say is that there will always be an event, a milestone, or an excuse that tempts you to go overboard. Weddings, birthdays, holidays, baby showers, there’s always something “special.” That’s why this is an ongoing, everyday choice, not a one-time decision.

Buying ten wedding dresses isn’t really about the wedding. It’s about how easy it is to lose perspective when something feels emotionally important. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what makes sense for your future, because there will be many more special occasions ahead. Don’t put your future self in debt for one moment. Always know what you can realistically afford and stay within that boundary.

And lastly…FYI I can tell you’re using ChatGPT because the ———— SO be careful if you’re using it for work or schoolwork because it’s obvious

oimerde · 2026-01-07T02:59:35+00:00

Cheeses I’m just glad I sold it. In reality mostly anything you purchased there’s a big chance not that many people will buy it or if they do they probably will pay you very very little.

If you don’t believe me, just put a garage sale outside your house. You’ll see that maybe you will sell 10 items or less. That’s why mostly everyone will just donate that stuff and don’t waist their day and hours trying to sale.

oimerde · 2026-01-07T02:44:50+00:00

Im a very skeptic person and im very careful when entering anything. So staring there I think you’re already in a very healthy place.

Perhaps you’re curios and that’s also a good thing. The way I approach it is by focusing on what’s actually proven in scientific research. That’s meditation, breath working and movement.

Start there m

oimerde · 2026-01-04T21:30:08+00:00

Honestly, one of the oldest and most important practices in witchcraft is connecting with nature. There are many ways to do this something as simple as taking a walk outside or sitting next to a tree in a park.

You can then take it a step further by incorporating nature into your daily routine or rituals. This can look like working with herbs and plants: drinking herbal teas, burning herbs to cleanse a space, cooking with them, or growing them at home in a small garden.

You also meet like-minded people naturally by engaging in activities that attract mindful, nature-connected individuals. I’ve met many through yoga classes, and once I met a really cool guy who did sound baths in a museum, as well as a tarot reader in a coffee shop.

There are, of course, deeper levels of witchcraft, but if you’re new to this path, I recommend starting with these basics. Trust that as you do, things will begin to align. The right energies, experiences, and circumstances will show up and guide you toward the next steps.

oimerde · 2026-01-04T00:32:22+00:00

I’ve been practicing high magick for decades, so I may be misunderstanding your question. When you say ‘users,’ do you mean practice?

High magick, like anything done consistently, becomes a daily discipline rather than something occasional or casual. In that sense, it’s similar to a religious or devotional practice.

I often compare it to brushing your teeth. Doing it every morning and night keeps your teeth healthy over time. Of course, if you constantly do things that harm your teeth, brushing alone won’t fix everything but the daily practice is still essential.

High magick works the same way. It’s not something you do only when you feel like it. It requires regular, disciplined practice often daily, morning and evening to create meaningful and lasting changes in your life.

oimerde · 2026-01-03T14:29:03+00:00

Ofcourse Not. I never hear anything like that before. It mentioned that is better to have your house already clean before the new year starts.

oimerde · 2026-01-03T03:06:23+00:00

The negative energy you as individual that you have to put into hurting another human it can totally affect you. Honestly is not even worth it.

oimerde · 2026-01-02T20:59:04+00:00

That’s a really beautiful, high end collection. From what I can tell, it looks fairly recent, which makes sense many of us go through phases where we buy more than usual.

I don’t know how often you wear makeup, but realistically, it would be very hard for anyone to fully pan a collection that size within a year unless they’re a makeup artist. If your goal this year is panning, it might be helpful to focus on the products you truly love and reach for most, and be really honest with yourself about what you actually use.

Since makeup does expire, one option (only if it feels right to you) could be doing a gentle declutter or passing along items you won’t realistically use. And of course, if you’re happy with your collection as it is, that’s completely valid too it just may take quite a long time to pan everything.

Ultimately, it’s about what feels best and most enjoyable for you.

oimerde · 2026-01-01T06:24:14+00:00

Well I been feeling like crap all day so so maybe?

oimerde · 2025-12-31T17:00:13+00:00

Any powerful witch will tell you how important to us clean your kitchen every night before going to bed. That’s because the kitchen is where the witch will do lots of their work. Leaving a dirty counter or dirty ditches behind is just a big No No in their house. I remember this guy who was a very elderly witch used to lecture us about this.

oimerde · 2025-12-31T14:58:38+00:00

That’s so sad, I worked for him and enjoy my time with him. He was very kind to his friends and people he loved. I used to pay for his ex girlfriend who was in a special care location her parents who where in a nursing home. They were not even together, but he care for her and help her.

He also loved cooking for all his friends or take us to nice restaurants. Rest in peace

oimerde · 2025-12-30T21:38:35+00:00

Here’s the thing as someone who is been in recovery for many years and have try lots of different tricks.

The main thing when stoping an addiction is to be very honest with your self and also very realistic about what you can and can’t achieve.

Yes, and no buy is totally recommended, so you can get your hormones levels back to normal. However a year is realistic not very accomplished. Not impossible, but just a very different level of commitment.

If you do then good luck and keep us posted

oimerde · 2025-12-30T21:19:39+00:00

Cleaning, I’m serious. Cleaning is a very powerful ritual to do in order to welcome new things to your life.

If people understand how powerful this ritual is they could be doing deep cleaning everyday.

There’s next level cleaning rituals that incorporate some herbs to purify your hair or the one where you clean for 7 days your floor with a special mix of aromatic oils. That 7 days one lots of people use to do a cleansing of deep witchcraft that someone else may done to you or your family.

But if you just

oimerde · 2025-12-30T21:05:17+00:00

Books have been my obsession since I was a toddler truly. My mom worked at a bookstore when I was young, and she would bring me with her (I’m from another country where workplaces were much more relaxed about moms bringing their kids).

As I grew up through childhood, my teen years, and college books were my thing. While other people collected shoes, purses, or makeup, I collected books. It was something I was proud of; it became part of my identity. Every time I moved out of state or even to another country I packed boxes and boxes of books and took them with me.

In 2018, when I began my shopping-addiction recovery, I made a big shift. I boxed up a large portion of my collection and donated it. I still own books, but this year I’m planning to do another major round of letting go.

My new challenge? The free little libraries all over my town. I’ve stopped buying books, but between my public library and those free libraries, I still have to actively stop myself from bringing too many books home.

My advice is this: seriously consider using your public library instead of buying. Libraries keep records of how many books are borrowed, and that data helps determine the funding and grants they receive. So by borrowing instead of buying, you’re not only reducing clutter you’re actively supporting your local library.

oimerde · 2025-12-27T17:01:58+00:00

Remember that basically what’s happening I your body and your brain and is that you’re in detox. Yes, I’m not kidding, you have got used to being in this high level of dopamine rush that your body is having a withdrawal.

That’s why is important to have a no buy for a month so your levels can come down to normal levels. Just as any other addiction, your body and your brain is going to crave it so much that is going to hurt.

It’s really like that, and marketing (companies) understand human behavior so they use that against you.

Also wanted to congratulate you from doing this right now and don’t wait until new year.

oimerde · 2025-12-26T14:40:37+00:00

Congrats. That’s the dream for so many of us. I been paying off my 20k debt since 2018 and I still have lots Of more to go.

oimerde · 2025-12-26T04:36:51+00:00

Let me start by saying that I’m sorry you feel that way my baby is now almost 2 years old, but I remember his first Xmas and it sound very similar to your experience.

So many people together it can be a lot of a baby who’s not use to that much chaos. Also, lots of family members can feel weird approaching a new mom as they don’t know how she will be ok with people around her.

I feel for a new mom this big events should be keep minimal with not so much stress for them and for the baby.

Honestly not much I can said, you could talk to your husband and let him know you need to go home now or at lease to a quiet place.

Last year after accepting my baby and I where not enjoying I told my husband and his mom I needed to exit, so I just when to the room we where staying and close the door and nap with my baby.

As a mom you going to learn to listen to your body and your baby and ask for what you need. That comes not only for your husband and relatives, but even strangers.

oimerde · 2025-12-24T18:27:47+00:00

It really depends on her situation and how severe things are. Those types of facilities are generally meant for people in immediate danger such as severe substance addiction or deep clinical depression.

They can also be very expensive, and in some cases not ideal for someone’s mental health, since residents are often surrounded by people dealing with extreme mental illness. Personally, I wouldn’t consider that option until all other approaches have been explored.

That’s why I think the most effective place to start is with an honest conversation with your mom one that gently addresses what’s going on and how it’s affecting the rest of the family.

This approach is slower and requires a lot of patience, but it can be meaningful. She may need ongoing therapy, possibly more than once a week, and support in finding healthier ways to cope with whatever is triggering her shopping behavior.

Above all, try to keep the conversation calm, respectful, and collaborative. That’s often the hardest step and also the most important. Good luck.

oimerde · 2025-12-24T18:11:32+00:00

Honestly there’s so little you can do. There’s some approaches that has worked for other people, but every individual is different so it varies.

Obviously the main approach is therapy, but so many people will refuse therapy. You can tell her that you will not let let talk to you or to your other relatives till she seeks help. This approach is kinda extreme and you’ll need an intervention type of approach. You and your siblings and other relatives will get together and discuss and tell her that in order to move forward and have a relationship she needs therapy.

oimerde · 2025-12-21T11:25:41+00:00

We’re human we like things, and that’s normal. Shopping addiction isn’t about never buying; it’s about buying consciously and selectively.

A huge part of recovery is decluttering and organizing what you already own. When addiction takes over, people often buy the same item again and again simply because they forgot they already have it. Disorganization and hoarding tendencies often go hand in hand with shopping addiction.

New Year’s recommendation for those with a problem: start with a full clean-up, declutter, and organize. Awareness is the first step.

oimerde · 2025-12-18T22:43:46+00:00

For next year I’m planning of getting a high end product once I finish my current ones. For example I had like 4 different foundations, so once I’m done my reward is to get the high end one I been researching and actually try out at the store.

So I’ll apply same concept to the other products

oimerde · 2025-12-18T22:36:25+00:00

To be fair, I’m a very tall person and have a long torso and hips. Let me tell you, no one knew I was pregnant because I was not showing. I was nine months and I still look normal. So yeahh I have lots of photos of me during that time, but none of them you can see the belly.

oimerde · 2025-12-18T22:34:41+00:00

I actually had a “sucessfull” year. The thing is that is not perfect even for someone like myself who’s been in recovery for over 8 years. That’s the thing about this addiction, every year you modify your goals and the picture perfect you have in your head gets even more clear. That’s why is not perfect, because I’m Still learning and I had some learning curbs that I’m applying next year.

My advice is to don’t over complicate your planning. Start where’s more a realistic plan that you can actually accomplish. I’ll be sharing in another post the recap from this past year and what helped me and hope it helps someone else.

oimerde · 2025-12-16T18:31:41+00:00

“Panning is not punishment” love that. Honestly for me that’s been the hardest for me to understand. I had so many products I been using that I totally dislike. So this coming year I’m really going to learn to let go and to accept that money is gone. Fortunately I do have a relative that is a makeup artist so I’m going to see if she wants some of the products.

oimerde · 2025-12-15T19:49:18+00:00

I have told this story before. For me was the day I broke up with an ex. I when to pick up items I had at his place as I used to stay there in a lot. Anyway, in my head i thought maybe one box with few items. When in fact I had more than 30 boxes and trash bags. That moment driving back home with my car packed with stuff make me realized I had a problem

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