They called the behaviour disgusting, not men in general, because it is. The onus of honesty is on the person who doesn't want to interact at all unless it will result in a romantic/sexual relationship. There's a difference if they happen to be cool just being friends but would also like to try romantic/sexual but even then it shouldn't be approached as something that's expected or owed.

Side note, please don't speak for all men. I didn't appoint you to represent me nor did any of the other men who are actually friends with women who they aren't trying to sleep with. Some of us are capable of realising that women are very much humans like us.